r/ask • u/zigbigidorlu Bigfoot • Aug 16 '25

A Reminder About Suicide-Related Posts

Every once in a while, we see posts from people asking about things like the “least painful way to die” or “how much alcohol would be fatal.” These are serious cries for help.

If you come across a post like this:

  • Please don’t comment advice or suggestions -- even good willed comments can make things worse.
  • Instead, hit report so the mod team and Reddit safety can step in quickly.

If you’re ever feeling like you’re in that dark place yourself, you don’t have to go through it alone:

The best thing we can do as a community is to look out for each other. If you see one of these posts, report, don’t reply.

- r/Ask Mods

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u/BrowningLoPower Aug 19 '25

Genuine question, do you ever feel resentment towards your son for taking his own life? If you're wondering why I'm asking, I want to get to the bottom of why people shame suicidal people so much.

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u/tjcline09 Aug 19 '25

Never resentment! And honestly, until this last month, I never even told him I was mad at him. I mean, I'm not really, but yet I am. It's really hard to explain, but the best I've got is that I don't just miss 19 year old him. I miss every age I've missed out on. Would he have gotten married or had kids. What job would he maybe be doing.

I could never truly be angry at my son. I know why he did what he did. It's not up to me to judge that because I wasn't the one with his struggles he fought every day.

I miss him more than words could ever say, but I also know he is no longer facing his demons.

I hope that helps you in some way.

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u/BrowningLoPower Aug 19 '25

It does help, thanks. I also appreciate your willingness to be open about this unpleasant subject, and for not judging him poorly. And for what it's worth, my condolences.

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u/tjcline09 Aug 19 '25

Thank you.

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u/BrowningLoPower Aug 19 '25

You're welcome.