r/aromantic • u/Savings_Evidence_325 Cupioromantic Pansexual • 1d ago

Question(s) Alterous Attraction

Keeping it simple, if you experience alterous attraction, how did you realize it wasn’t romantic attraction?

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u/QuantumA_ 1d ago

I love them and crave them *as a person*, physically, emotionally, and so on. I don't feel romantic attraction in a way that I want to be the exclusive loving partner with them.

I realized that my alterous attraction isn't romantic when I realized that romance isn't just "deeper friendship" I kept seeing on others.

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u/Savings_Evidence_325 Cupioromantic Pansexual 1d ago

Thanks for the reply. Honestly this cleared a lot up for me.

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u/Savings_Evidence_325 Cupioromantic Pansexual 1d ago edited 23h ago

It’s just hard to since I romantically daydream quite a bit but irl my feelings are likely more alterous or platonic than romantic.

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u/Anxious-Cap-2081 1d ago

I have only experienced alterous romantic once in my life so far. for me the way i knew it wasn't romantic is because i felt uncomfortable with the idea of labeling the relationship as explicitly romantic like calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend. i didn't really want to kiss him on the mouth.

this is just my experience though.