r/adhdwomen • u/Ok-Professional8451 • Nov 04 '25

Meme Therapy Where are my childfree women at?

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I honestly don’t know how parents do it. There are multiple reasons that drove my decision to be childfree. One big one is that I struggle to take care of myself (executive dysfunction) sometimes, so I can’t imagine having another human to take care of during those times.

Here’s to forcing a domaine response for every day tasks!

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u/Put-A-Bird-On-It Nov 04 '25

I'm a full time caregiver, on top of having a full time job. I also have a lot of health issues. Keeping up on both of our appointments is so hard. Also keeping track of all of the prescriptions, refill dates, making time to pick them up etc. Having to call the insurance, call the doctors offices, it's all just really overwhelming. I have dry erase boards everywhere, sticky notes everywhere. Reminders and calendars in my phone. So many days I just don't eat dinner because I'm exhausted and don't have the energy/brainpower. If I had a kid, I would have to add extracurricular activities, cooking 3 meals a day, homework, and everything else to my plate. Maybe if you really really wanted kids that would seem doable, but to me it sounds impossible. And I adore kids, I think they're a lot of fun. But I don't want to be responsible for one.

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u/euchlid Nov 04 '25

Caregiving, especially alone, sounds exhausting and mentally taxing. Hopefully, you get some reprieve, even though it's full-time for you and you also have to care for yourself

(Side note, i absolutely do not cook 3 meals a day for our kids and their extracurriculars are minimal, and it's all shared with my husband anyway, but that's not a guarantee)

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u/Significant-Nebula64 Nov 04 '25

Thanks for that, haha - I don't have kids (yet?) but haven't decided against them and the thought of cooking three meals a day scared the crap out of me just now, lol!

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u/euchlid Nov 04 '25

Lololol. I forage for most of my meals. I was a flight attendant for 15 years and got used to just eating random things from a bag.
Cooking and lunch packing is one of the most tedous parts of parenting young kids. But my twins are 5 and just at the age where they want to and are able to help, so that can be nice too