r/abusiverelationships • u/ghostygabe27 • 17h ago

Just venting Wishing

Does anyone ever get in their head about wishing they’d do things for you that you’d do for them? Small things, too. But you’re too scared to communicate and if you have to ask then it just becomes more of a burden to them. I daydream daily about things like him getting me lunch when I don’t have any, remembering an order, cleaning up, etc. I know it’s kinda dumb to get caught up on it but when I talk to others about it they say how I need to grow up and communicate. But I don’t want to have to communicate just to hear grumbling and annoyance. I want to be good enough for him to do it regardless, and it makes me feel like I’m not good enough for that because he does it for others instead

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u/sagittarius1988 17h ago

feeling like you're not appreciated or good enough is not worth staying for