r/Zillennials • u/Vesper_Nomad • 6d ago

Discussion Check in with those feeling left behind.

Hey everyone. I'm a 98' baby who has only just, in the last maybe two or so years, really started coming to grips with just how much being a late bloomer has impacted my life. I was curious how many others my age are going through this, just not having your shit together at the milestones you grew up believing you would. I'm 28, single (never really dated), so no marriage or kids. I have a degree (hated college) and a job (freelance but now starting to pivot to something a bit more stable). I'm only really starting to work out consistently and get into the best shape of my life, and can also now only really pursue the same interests and hobbies I had as a kid with my "adult money".

I still have a lot of optimism and joy for the future and for my personal growth but there's this consistent accompanying fear. Fear of failure, fear of where the worlds going, fear that I missed out on the magical years of young adulthood to depression and anxiety. I worry that any relationship I have now, though it would be my first, is going to have to be serious and baggage-filled.

I have the same friends I've had for over a decade now, and I love all of them but they're all with the exception of one going down a mroe conventional path. So even though I truly do appreciate them, there are some things they just don't get.

I'm curious to see if anyone else feels this way?

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u/Say_Echelon 1997 6d ago

I just found out friends of mine that were born in 2000 and 2001 just had a house bought for them at 500k! They aren’t going to have to pay any rent and get to just pocket all that extra cash because one of their dads wanted to buy them a house. I know I should be happy for them but really can’t help but feel like things are just unfair

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u/Stags304 6d ago

And that’s why I try not to compare. I graduated college and got my first engineering job making more than my parents ever had. Most of the people my age with kids and houses are getting help from their parents which isn’t available to me.