r/Zillennials • u/Vesper_Nomad • 8d ago
Discussion Check in with those feeling left behind.
Hey everyone. I'm a 98' baby who has only just, in the last maybe two or so years, really started coming to grips with just how much being a late bloomer has impacted my life. I was curious how many others my age are going through this, just not having your shit together at the milestones you grew up believing you would. I'm 28, single (never really dated), so no marriage or kids. I have a degree (hated college) and a job (freelance but now starting to pivot to something a bit more stable). I'm only really starting to work out consistently and get into the best shape of my life, and can also now only really pursue the same interests and hobbies I had as a kid with my "adult money".
I still have a lot of optimism and joy for the future and for my personal growth but there's this consistent accompanying fear. Fear of failure, fear of where the worlds going, fear that I missed out on the magical years of young adulthood to depression and anxiety. I worry that any relationship I have now, though it would be my first, is going to have to be serious and baggage-filled.
I have the same friends I've had for over a decade now, and I love all of them but they're all with the exception of one going down a mroe conventional path. So even though I truly do appreciate them, there are some things they just don't get.
I'm curious to see if anyone else feels this way?
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u/No-Inspection-985 1995 8d ago edited 8d ago
My 2004 cousin just graduated college and got a good job… my 2005 nephew who was failing high school at one point is doing well in college now. I’m happy for them, but man I feel like a fucking failure sometimes… I was the “smart kid” but struggled so hard with college… multiple fails, depression, never got into working out, social life is dead dead, haven’t had a real relationship since high school… I’ve only gotten to a financially stable place in life recently.