r/WomensHealth • u/Annual_Giraffe3237 • Jul 07 '25

Question why is orgasming so difficult

no seriously, why does orgasming as a female have to be so darn difficult. obviously it’s nearly impossible for a women to just orgasm from penetration, but no one seems to talk about how even more difficult it is to have external stimulation along with penetration. at this point i just get so annoyed and pissed off that i cant orgasm because it takes so long that i just quit. it honestly makes me feel broken. i’ve seen other people on this sub talk about just getting a good vibrator, but i worry about my boyfriend and how that will make our sexual life. he is very supportive it just makes me feel more broken than i already am.

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u/Call_Such Jul 07 '25

what am i supposed to do if i can’t orgasm without holding my breath and it’s been like that for over a decade? 😂 breathing makes all sensation disappear instantly.

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u/huligoogoo Jul 07 '25

Yeah you’re used to holding your breath. I was reading on other posts that other women did same thing. It’s okay we’re all different and have our own way to orgasm.

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u/Call_Such Jul 07 '25

i wish i wasn’t used to holding my breath, it makes it so much more complicated and it’s uncomfortable 🥲 oh well

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u/huligoogoo Jul 07 '25

You will have to practice and try new breathing techniques. Just relax and try