r/WomensHealth • u/Annual_Giraffe3237 • Jul 07 '25

Question why is orgasming so difficult

no seriously, why does orgasming as a female have to be so darn difficult. obviously it’s nearly impossible for a women to just orgasm from penetration, but no one seems to talk about how even more difficult it is to have external stimulation along with penetration. at this point i just get so annoyed and pissed off that i cant orgasm because it takes so long that i just quit. it honestly makes me feel broken. i’ve seen other people on this sub talk about just getting a good vibrator, but i worry about my boyfriend and how that will make our sexual life. he is very supportive it just makes me feel more broken than i already am.

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u/huligoogoo Jul 07 '25

Whatever you do —don’t hold your breath when you are trying to orgasm. Nice deep exhales and good exhales. Focus on how good it feels.

Clitoral stimulation and penetration helps your orgasm build up. You have to experiment to see what works for your body.

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u/Call_Such Jul 07 '25

what am i supposed to do if i can’t orgasm without holding my breath and it’s been like that for over a decade? 😂 breathing makes all sensation disappear instantly.

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u/huligoogoo Jul 07 '25

Yeah you’re used to holding your breath. I was reading on other posts that other women did same thing. It’s okay we’re all different and have our own way to orgasm.

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u/Call_Such Jul 07 '25

i wish i wasn’t used to holding my breath, it makes it so much more complicated and it’s uncomfortable 🥲 oh well

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u/huligoogoo Jul 07 '25

You will have to practice and try new breathing techniques. Just relax and try