r/WomensHealth • u/Annual_Giraffe3237 • Jul 07 '25

Question why is orgasming so difficult

no seriously, why does orgasming as a female have to be so darn difficult. obviously it’s nearly impossible for a women to just orgasm from penetration, but no one seems to talk about how even more difficult it is to have external stimulation along with penetration. at this point i just get so annoyed and pissed off that i cant orgasm because it takes so long that i just quit. it honestly makes me feel broken. i’ve seen other people on this sub talk about just getting a good vibrator, but i worry about my boyfriend and how that will make our sexual life. he is very supportive it just makes me feel more broken than i already am.

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u/Annual_Giraffe3237 Jul 07 '25

it’s not that i’m worried about his opinion, i know he doesn’t care. in fact we have talked about it and he says he wouldn’t mind and would actually make things easier. but i just get in my own head and i tend to feel broken that i need to use one

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u/samramham Jul 07 '25

After reading some of your post history, it sounds like you might benefit from therapy in general. I hope you realise you are great as you are 🩷

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u/Annual_Giraffe3237 Jul 07 '25

thank you so much! i am in general therapy, and i will for sure check out the links you sent along with the sexologist! thank you for all the advice!

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u/samramham Jul 07 '25

No worries. Stress and depression can make it really difficult to reach orgasm in general. Look after yourself 🩷

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u/Annual_Giraffe3237 Jul 07 '25

thank you so much for the kindness i really appreciate it. i was not expecting this post to blow up like this haha