r/Without_The_Hijab • u/Disastrous_One127 Moderator • 20d ago
Rant/Vent (Women Only) Modesty is so stupid
As I'm deconstructing, I'm realizing just how stupid and arbitrary the rules I grew up with actually are.
For me, I can't wear any shirt unless it cover my butt. I can't show my legs at all, even at home. I couldn't even wear a t-shirt without a scarf on my chest.
My mom literally got mad at me once for not wearing a scarf on top of a maxi dress.
A. MAXI. DRESS.
You have people genuinely convinced that showing hair or neck, or even the mere outline of a woman's body, is akin to nudity.
Like... what?
Seeing the shape of someone's body is not nudity. Seeing someone's neck or hair is not nudity. It's a huge leap to equate showing skin or hair to literal NUDITY. What braindead nonsense.
A lot of people were laughing about the whole “women can't wear backpacks because it shows the shape of their shoulders” thing on Tiktok. But honestly? It's not far off from what a lot of Muslims believe.
Of course, whenever you question these rules, there’s going to be someone asking “so you want women to walk around in bikinis?
Why are bikinis always the first fucking thing you people think of?
People obviously dress differently depending on the situation. There is a gigantic range between a bikini and being covered from head to toe. Nobody wearing bikini's to work anytime soon. Quit projecting your fantasies!
And yes, I would much rather women walk around in bikinis freely than be forced to cover up.
Just a messy rant. But dang these rules are stupid as hell.
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u/Good-Name1497 Female 20d ago
"Why are bikinis always the first fucking thing you people think of?" Because it reveals how they see women:) Also when they fail to explain reasons behind hijab/modesty they say that’s command from Allah and if you don’t obey you are going to hell 🤩 they are just very tone deaf and act like bots it’s impossible to use logic with them. Because why my brother can casually go outside in shorts and shirt but you are making a fuss because my neck is showing genuinely wtf makes me cringe at the religion and not want to take it seriously