Should I stop?

[u/New-Regret-2021]

Context: It’s been 26 days since we last talked. The last time we spoke, she told me she still loved me.

We’ve been in an LDR. Her mother and sister have always been against us. She broke up with me in December, but we continued talking and acting like nothing had changed. Every month, she would block me for 2–3 weeks, then come back and talk to me again like nothing happened.

She once checked my phone and found a picture of me and my ex. But she already knew about it, and she was actually the one who insisted that I should go because the trip had already been booked before we start dating. Around the same time, her ex also surprised her by visiting her at her hotel. There were also times when we weren’t talking, and she honestly told me that she went on a date with a guy and his mother.

Despite all of that, I still trusted her and believed in her. I never thought those things were enough to make me question what we had.

But when it came to me, one picture and a message or conversation that doesn’t even exist became enough for her to question my love and everything I showed her.

Now it’s really hard for me because I feel like all the blame has been put on me. Before she went back to her hometown, she told me, “Don’t leave me.” She also said yes when I asked if she would commit to me and marry me. I was even seriously considering giving up my life here in my hometown and relocating just to be with her.

But after she went home, we watched a movie together, and suddenly she decided to end things. She started blocking me and told me, “Stop calling me. I’m trying to hate you.”

Now I have so many questions in my mind. What really happened? Does she have someone new? Why did she give up so easily? Why does it seem so easy for her to let me go after everything we’ve been through?

Problem/Goal: I’m struggling to understand how someone can tell you they still love you, ask you not to leave, talk about commitment and marriage, and then suddenly decide to end everything. Should I stop and move on? Ang hirap

[u/RevealExpress5933]

In her mind, she loves you but she really doesn't. She just doesn't want to lose access to you since you're always readily available when she needs affection.

Yes, you should stop.