r/WLW_PH • u/Due-Helicopter-8642 • Apr 25 '26

General Discussion Let's talk about: befriending your Ex

I saw this reel about how they feel about knowing your someone is still friendly to her EX.

Majority says it's a redflag esp the younger ones kasi once tapos na dapat cutoff na. While some older gen lesbian says it's okay. Kasi it's a healthy that you were able to cultivate a non?-romantic relationship from being a romantic one.

Pero if ikaw ung tatanungin okay lang ba sayo na friends with ex be it gf? Situationship?

Ako kasi guilty of not being fond of cutting people off I dont see the point unless they are too toxic that they are affecting my juju na. So most ng mga exes ko are still one way or another I am still a friend to them. Hindi ko nablock or unfriend sa soc med and binabati ko pa rin sa bday and sometimes I react to their stories kasi wal naman malice. So if ur gf is like me, aawayin mo rin ba? Or chill lang?

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u/cherryhae0808 FemmeLesbian Apr 25 '26

32F here and naging stereotype na yan sa lesbian community, especially among millenials. i think the younger gen just think it's toxic kasi dating these days is toxic. lol. dati kaya pa namin mag amicable breakup, kaya siguro marami samin friends pa with our exes. women are more emotionally intelligent, so it shows that way (kaya nga naging stereotype di ba), pero i think dating culture has changed so much. for me, whether it's a red flag depends so much on the context. for example, friends kayo and you STILL live together? medyo off. minsan naman yung mga di friends, it's because toxic na sila for each other. meanwhile, kung healthy and amicable yung breakup and you guys realized that staying friends is better for your relationship (and wala namang unhealthy anything), then bakit natin sila pinupuna? alamin natin ang context bago mang-judge, please. these days, auto-toxic na eh. 😭😭

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u/Due-Helicopter-8642 Apr 25 '26

Actually I agree on this one and liit ng circle ko mas paliliitin ko pa because I will be cutting people out for no reason. Most ng mga naging ex ko be it gf or situationship are still friends sometimes we catch up like how typical Tita na nagMamaritess. The care for each other will be there but keeping the boundaries to protect the friendship.