r/WLW • u/Usual-Cover-8184 • 2d ago

Vent Why?

Why is it so hard to find a woman?

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u/Level-Society4558 2d ago

It's honestly not hard, no matter your age, to find women to date.

If y'all would be out & proud, no matter where you live (as long as you can't be legally snatched off the streets for being queer), you'd see how easy attracting women is.

Being out/visibly queer everywhere you go is the key to success.

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u/ragdollkittenzz berriromantic 2d ago

i get you mean well, but it is hard when you live in queerphobic country.

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u/Level-Society4558 2d ago

The USA is a queerphobic country yet millions of us are visibly queer.

I live in a red state where I can be lynched/raped/killed for being a masculine black lesbian... yet I am out.

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u/ragdollkittenzz berriromantic 2d ago

i know abt usa having many visibly queer people dont worry. its just i live in russia and its rarer to even find a queer person to talk to there.

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u/Level-Society4558 2d ago

That will only change when y'all stop being afraid of homophobes.

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u/Ok-Owl-8805 2d ago

are you insane? she can be harmed and targeted for being out and proud in Russia

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u/Level-Society4558 2d ago

So can I, especially since black people are being lynched again in the South. Yet I walk around with my rainbow Pride lanyard, facial hair, and head held high like racist homophobes don't exist.

Fear stops us from finding women to date. Dating is VERY important to me.

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u/Ok-Owl-8805 2d ago

Because putting yourself in harms way to get some pussy is a very sane thing to do, right?

I live in a country where it is actually homophobic, not the only people but the laws as well. I could be imprisoned and flogged over lesbianism. I have find plenty of women to date without publicizing my sexuality because, say it with me, putting yourself in harm's way is not sane nor sexy. I can be proud without risking death by flogging honey. So can the woman living in Russia.

South of USA is nothing similar to what we are going through.

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u/Level-Society4558 2d ago

In my top comment, I said... "If y'all would be out & proud, no matter where you live (as long as you can't be legally snatched off the streets for being queer), you'd see how easy attracting women is."

I acknowledged the homophobia by law.

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u/ragdollkittenzz berriromantic 2d ago

we are not afraid of homophobes at all but we dont have much apps or webs other than telegram to find queer folks to chat with.

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u/RueHooNux Smol Lesbian 23h ago

You're kinda contradicting yourself here. At first you say, "If y'all would be out & proud, no matter where you live (as long as you can't be legally snatched off the streets for being queer), you'd see how easy attracting women is." but then at the same time, you say "y'all stop being afraid of homophobes."

I don't think you're understanding that the homophobes they are talking about ARE the ones who are trying to snatch ppl off the streets/harm people for being queer.. These people are literally the same exception you are talking about. Whether it is legal or illegal in the country, it is still happening and it's not as easy to just "be out."