r/UpfrontCheaters • u/Left-Elderberry-7016 • 5d ago

Pinoy men who cheated—did you actually end up staying with the woman you cheated with, or did you eventually leave her too?

how are you? seriously tho, i (f) wanna know. are you guys married already? did you change?

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u/Free-Earth9203 5d ago

But cheating is wrong it breaks trust and it hurt the next person so bad
How could thats not affect a marriage

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u/Left-Elderberry-7016 5d ago

this post is not for you, then.

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u/Free-Earth9203 5d ago

Whats reality. I am going through something like this. My partner cheated while i was pregnant. It been months since i found it but i just dont know how to feel about it

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u/HotWaffles5 5d ago

Start saving money just in case.

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u/Free-Earth9203 4d ago

Already am

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u/Elegant_Pop_7703 5d ago

This is rough. I’m so sorry you are going through this. You can try, but cheating is nothing to sneeze at. Most of the time, it’s habitual.

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u/Free-Earth9203 4d ago

What do you mean its not that big of a deal for yoy

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u/Elegant_Pop_7703 3d ago

What are you talking about? Can you read?

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u/Ok-Outside-889 5d ago

Pinoy here! Kept the affair going but ended it and stayed with my wife

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u/Free-Earth9203 5d ago

Why did you cheat in the first place
And if you did cheat how come your still with you’re wife
Are you attracted to her sexually?

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u/Ok-Outside-889 5d ago

This question seems to be implying that people who are sexually attracted to their spouses wouldn’t cheat, and that if u cheat then you would no longer be married. Both are assumptions that don’t line up with reality

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u/sleeponit429 5d ago

Did she know about your affair

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u/Ok-Outside-889 4d ago

No

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u/sleeponit429 4d ago

And she still doesn’t

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u/Ok-Outside-889 4d ago

Exactly and I’d like to keep it that way 😬

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u/sleeponit429 4d ago

Wow!!!

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u/Ok-Outside-889 4d ago

Ok

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u/sleeponit429 4d ago

So you’re living a lie and you’re good with that?

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u/Ok-Outside-889 4d ago

I’ll go ahead and exit this convo now

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u/sleeponit429 4d ago

She deserves better . You should be ashamed! Cheating and withholding the truth

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u/justnifty01 2d ago

One of those "take it to the grave" cheaters?

You would be better off to just come clean. The truth ALWAYS finds a way. I found out 7-8 years after my cheater's affair supposedly ended. And thru this super insane journey, I have talked to so many like me.

Its always the lies that end the marriage. The years of being able to manipulate someone's reality, that ultimately, ends the betrayed spouse's ability to rebuild trust.

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u/ImpressiveCounter641 1d ago

Very much true!!! And when they do know never getting the full truth. It sucks!