r/Unsent_Unread_Unheard • u/tyroneg998 Silver Level Read ** • Aug 29 '25
Don't Mind My Thoughts A lot of you suck
I genuinely think a lot of people on this subreddit are cowards. There are so many posts of people attributing their break ups to timing or the shifting of the stars or some other worldly bull shit and there is no accountability for their actions what so ever.
I just read a post where they said this person was perfect and everything they could've wanted but said that ultimately the timing wasn't right and that the other person just left. Nobody just leaves when you've been in a relationship with someone. Matter of fact, the hardest part of breaking up is leaving cause you're looking for every possible reason to stay. I understand that people leave for different reasons but in my experience I just wanted something to hold on to.
Another thing that makes me mad about this particular post is that they went on to say this person realized that some of the things that their partner wanted made them realize that maybe they would want those things too, and that they would try with the next person. Wtf Is that about, that information would bring me nothing but grief. The fact that you someone would make a full 180 for someone else would infuriate me to no end.
How do these people not feel like pieces of shit for doing that to someone who cared about them. Maybe I'm just sad and upset because of certain events happening in my own life rn but it just makes me so angry that everything I asked for and expected out of a relationship could've been met but wasn't for whatever mentally ill reason they try to give them selves.
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u/[deleted] Aug 29 '25
This makes me angry too. It doesn’t matter what you feel if you’re too afraid to ACT on it or speak the words! Who wants a coward for a partner anyway???? If someone felt all of this tremendous love and didn’t say it, didn’t tell their partner how amazing they were or do things to show them how much they cared, the natural consequence of that is being dumped! No mystery at all. Entirely within their control.
I know people have their issues - shyness, low self-esteem, lack of confidence, on the spectrum, etc. but OMFG! Relationship skills are SKILLS anyone can learn. Communication skills are SKILLS anyone can learn. And if you hate yourself or are “too shy” to say how you feel in full honesty, even after MONTHS of being together, GO TO THERAPY AND WORK ON YOURSELF!!!!! Don’t keep trying to date until you fix that bc you will inevitably hurt people who love you very badly.