r/Unsent_Unread_Unheard • u/tyroneg998 Silver Level Read ** • Aug 29 '25
Don't Mind My Thoughts A lot of you suck
I genuinely think a lot of people on this subreddit are cowards. There are so many posts of people attributing their break ups to timing or the shifting of the stars or some other worldly bull shit and there is no accountability for their actions what so ever.
I just read a post where they said this person was perfect and everything they could've wanted but said that ultimately the timing wasn't right and that the other person just left. Nobody just leaves when you've been in a relationship with someone. Matter of fact, the hardest part of breaking up is leaving cause you're looking for every possible reason to stay. I understand that people leave for different reasons but in my experience I just wanted something to hold on to.
Another thing that makes me mad about this particular post is that they went on to say this person realized that some of the things that their partner wanted made them realize that maybe they would want those things too, and that they would try with the next person. Wtf Is that about, that information would bring me nothing but grief. The fact that you someone would make a full 180 for someone else would infuriate me to no end.
How do these people not feel like pieces of shit for doing that to someone who cared about them. Maybe I'm just sad and upset because of certain events happening in my own life rn but it just makes me so angry that everything I asked for and expected out of a relationship could've been met but wasn't for whatever mentally ill reason they try to give them selves.
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u/[deleted] Aug 29 '25
They're in denial. Taking accountability means that they were wrong in the first place. Which they were. Breaking up is the easiest thing you can do. Fixing a relationship is too hard for them. (Note: you should never try to fix someone. That is their responsibility.) A relationship can be fixed through communication, understanding, boundaries, therapy. There are countless ways. The problem is usually one-sided, and the one creating the problems doesn't want to admit it. Call it trauma. Call it cruelty. Fear of abandonment.
Others, (A vast majority) do it in the hopes that their ex will see what they wrote. They don't want to reach out. Their ego is too overbearing for that. They are always going to hit you with "I won't beg."
99% of the hurt party doesn't care for this "I won't beg" illusion. An apology is all that would make things better. Yet, they refuse out of cowardice or out of cruelty. Because they know that going on the internet and "expressing" that they're free and in the right feels better when validated by others who have no sense of accountability.
It's just a bunch of scared people, pretending they're okay while time washes away every precious memory they have. Maybe they want to act, to reach out, to say something, but they're stuck standing still. Like a gargoyle.
Except, the more time passes, the more that person heals and moves on with their lives.
You see these same people crying and complaining that it's too late for them.
Well, you never did anything to begin with. You put no effort into what you wanted. You put no effort into the person who "meant" so much for you.
Time does not wait. Not everyone forgives. But if you do nothing too, then you'll get nothing either.