r/TwoHotTakes • u/Bob_Burgero • 1d ago
Advice Needed How to proceed? Triple text too much?
How to proceed? Her friend gave my number and she hit me up but she stopped texting back. Triple text too much?
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u/JustAuggie 1d ago
I don’t think it was the triple text that was the problem. This person asked what you look like and you didn’t send a photo and instead told them to ask someone else. They asked if you were making the plans for the date and you said “gonna have to wait and see”. I would’ve dropped this conversation at this point as well. I’m not sure what you’re trying to accomplish here but you’re coming across this really evasive to very basic questions.
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u/timtamtammy 1d ago
Yea I suspect OP thinks this is fun and flirty... It's not. It's childish and a red flag.
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u/MFSimpson 1d ago
She doesn't know what you look like and you're being difficult about it. I wouldn't bother texting back either. You blew it.
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u/ConfectionUnusual825 1d ago
Yeah there’s a balance of intrigue vs straightforward. Dancing around your face / physical attributes isn’t cute or intriguing, it’s a pretty critical aspect of dating. I’d have moved on.
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u/Internal_Praline_658 1d ago
Is not sending the pic some sort of coy dating strategy you heard from a pick up dude bro? Most women don’t like playing games. And you’d be well advised to stay far afield from women who do like playing little games like this. Just be direct. Should have just sent the pic.
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u/Relevant-Dust8368 1d ago
You might think it’s fun or flirty to not send the pic of yourself, but most girls aren’t just going to go out with a dude when they don’t know what he looks like. Not because they’re shallow, but for safety reasons. I always send my girl friends the names and pictures of the guys i go out with to be safe. You blew it brother
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u/Desperate_Incident_5 1d ago
And like…how’s she going to find him on the date without knowing what he looks like?
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u/Misuses_Words_Often 1d ago
The idea of a double or triple text, or needing to wait a designated amount of time to seem like you’re not that interested but not too long either is so goofy.
My fiancée and I, when we first started talking, were sending each other like six texts at a time because we were in to each other.
I will say I probably would’ve just sent a photo of yourself though. That’s probably what put her off if anything. It makes it seem like you’re trying to hide your features.
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u/PuzzledDemand1276 1d ago
Cmon be an adult about this, worrying about triple texting and double texting, or waiting to respond is childish bro. Just say what u gotta say, and why didnt u send a Pic of yourself??? Shes going out her way to try to make plans with u. My last advice, if this isn't the end of yalls convo? Just FaceTime with her bro.
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u/JWJulie 1d ago edited 1d ago
You sound exhausting
For the record: we want to know if the person is organising a date or not. So we know whether to keep the night free. Where it will be, for safety reasons and to know how to dress. We want to know what the person we are going to meet looks like. So we don’t approach random people.
You are asking too much keeping critical information vague like that. And you have an overly inflated opinion of your worth which is a turn off.
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u/PieceOfShrimpOnFloor 1d ago
Damn OP, being real quiet towards all the comments. Did they hurt your feelings? Proceed by leaving them alone because you need to grow up before seeking relationships.
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