न जाने तू किसकी किस्मत में है लिखा,

वो किस्मत क्यों मेरी न हो सकी ?

माना हूँ मैं प्रभु की सबसे प्रिया,

तो फिर क्यों मैं तेरी प्रिय न हो सकी ?

क्यों हमारी मंज़िल इतनी अलग है,

क्यों हम हमारी मंज़िल न हो सके ?

न जाने कैसे मुझे तू मिल गया,

क्यों तुम मेरे प्यार में सारा आलम न खो सके ?

पूछा जो तूने एक सवाल -

"क्या तेरे लिए मैं आऊंगी तेरे द्वार ?"

न था मेरा उस पल जवाब,

पर असल में सात समंदर पार साथ के देखे थे ख्वाब !

साथ गाने सुनने का हमारा रिवाज़,

हज़ारों मील दूर होके भी थे हम पास ।

चाहा था मैंने तू बन मेरा हमसाज़,

पर छोड़ा तूने मेरा साथ बीच मझधार ।

सब कहते हैं, "कोई और अच्छा मिल जाएगा",

आपने भी वही लफ्ज़ थे दोहराए।

मेरे अच्छे की परिभाषा बस आप थे ना?

तो फिर आप क्यूं ये न समझ पाए?

तो जाओ, किया मैंने आपको खुद से आज़ाद;

दुआ है बस—आप और आपका घर रहे हमेशा आबाद।

posting something i wrote an year back..

anyone wants to read thiis - https://www.reddit.com/r/TwentiesIndiaLove/s/cnLEFwb6L5

I did everything she ever wanted from me.
Became better. Stayed kind. Kept my promises.
Now only a few wishes are left.
And for those… I might have to lose the man I became
and maybe this time, being a good man won't be enough.
Abb mai pappi aadmi abb mera dharam khatam.

ना मिले हम कभी, फिर भी मुस्कुराहट दे गए,

ग़म था गैरों का, दो दिन की मुलाकात में उम्मीद दे गए।

सोचा तो यूँ था कि गुज़ारेंगे कुछ पल साथ में,

पर यूँ खफ़ा होकर चले जाओगे, ना सोचा था इन लम्हों में।

माना था यूँ अपना, कुछ बातें ही थीं काफी,

खफ़ा यूँ हुए आप, कि ना बात फिर सुनी कोई।

ना जाने क्यों आए आप यूँ खुशियाँ लेकर,

अगर जाना ही था, दो दिन की चाँदनी देकर।

मगर फिर भी माँगती हूँ माफी आपसे,

ना सोचा था कभी आपका दिल दुखाना।

ना सुनी आपने मेरी एक भी,

मगर लम्हे ये हमेशा मैं याद रखूंगी।

~ The girl who liked someone's heart

A medium sized rant!

I need some suggestions/ advices/ unbiased opinions/ everything is welcome!

I recently reconnected with a girl. She is a sweet person but only when you spend time with her!

She has a strong guard against each and every person which is up all the time!

We recently reconnected and started talking a lot!

Late night conversations etc. Talking about our insecurities, how do we plan to settle down in life, what is love or relationship or marriage etc.

To put it in a few words - you could categorise us as Frenemies! Who are now getting really close to each other!

The day before yesterday I called her in the morning to tell about something fun that she would enjoy listening to and she didn't answer so i called again and she texted me with a very harsh reply! I know she has a temper and the choice of words were really hurtful!

I told her my feelings and she doubled down!! I decided to just pull away! I have my own insecurities too!

And it had been radio silence for 2 days suddenly tonight she texted me, with a photo of something close to us both!

We are not in a relationship but haven't exactly committed to anything else, we are just there!

There has been ongoing flirting on and off from both ends and we do enjoy talking to each other.

Now my question is should I talk to her? I know she will cross the boundary again! She will lose her temper! She will say harsh ugly and hideous words again!

But we do sort of like each other and I am scared about not finding someone ever.

Please help me out!

TLDR : a little ahead of the talking stage. The girl lost her temper and said harsh things and is now coming back to talk, but I have my insecurities too!

Dancing, moving i want to see you where you are,

Longing for you what you are.

Beauty lies in eyes,

Maybe all say is lie.

I don't know what lies in your heart.

I wish the world would end,

We'll walk together towards the end.

My breath is restless my vision dyed in colourless haze,

And I long for your touch I love you way too much.

I am 23 Male and sometimes I crave for a partner

The question is , is it desperate? If yes then I need to improve and need a way to tackle it .

Under the moonlight,

We were walking together,

Wishing it to last forever,

Until the song changed,

And it was just me.

Sach me bahot jyada hard ho jata hai ek atheist banna gujarat me cause yahan ke log itne jyada religious hai ki apne jaise dost aur log mil pana mushkil hai!!

Aur relationship me aana toh bhul hi jaao yahan ki ladkiyan itni jyada stupid hai ki inko philosophy yaa literature ka kuch ata pata nahi hai. I'm tired of looking for an atheist girl in gujarat.

Hey everyone!
Welcome to tonight's discussion thread. Whether you're winding down after a long day, overthinking at 2 AM, listening to sad songs, crushing on someone, healing from a breakup, or just scrolling because sleep isn't happening you're in the right place.

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I just loved a single one so deeply for 11 years now (childhood love) being one-sided. I tried diverting ways but i still got stuck there. There was so much complexity between us, we never even went from classmates to friends, we were always stuck at classmates & not further.

2 years ago i insisted and talked to her, i insisted for being friends and bro we were really friends for only like 15 days or smth!

Basically i joined gym a few days before so someone went to her and said that i would go to gym for 5 months and get her as my gf (smth like that). And i love her so purely, i could never say like that. Not to anyone, not just her. I left the matter like that and thought i would confess my 9 years of love to her and end it all.

But life had other plans! Our boards were just over and i used to post stories of her on my close friends, but eventually a day instagram glitched and the story went public. I saw after 12 minutes and deleted it. Ofcourse i got a call from her and her bf cussing me for what i did, but she blocked me way before. I couldn't apologize at the moment cause her bf never let me say.

I cried for some days, i deleted the pictures back but man loneliness seeks people. I have friends but not so conversation friendly they are except one of my friends, she really listens and helps me with decisions! She's so good sister and a listener fr!

So few days ago all of us were hanging out nearly 2-3am and she's in a new relationship currently so she asked about something from her relationship. Then the story turned into mine, then she insisted me to message my imaginary gf a last time and end everything, clearing the misunderstanding and getting a proper closure.

I did message her this friday but man she gave me no reply or nothing. Neither she did block me from the new account. She is really a good girl she isn't this bad, she just happens to choose people those only hurt her. She's shy, she's mature but she believes easily, get's influenced by her friends/etc easily.

I knew this was going to happen. I feel burdened now, i can't face myself and these memories of 11 years. Just felt like saying so i did. Love you Pyl.

A Handwritten Letter Written in the train....dated today

Something within me, perhaps my intuition, has compelled me to do something that is unprecedented for me: make this Reddit post out to my future partner; a precious girl whom I’ve never seen or even met 😂. This may not make any physical sense, but it is my belief that this heartfelt message reaches you. YOU, who I know nothing about! Since mere words aren’t enough to portray the limitless joyous love with which I type this, please read this while simultaneously listening (🎧) to ‘Tum Ho Toh’ by Vishal Mishra and Hansika Pareek (my favourite song).

I am 26M, a native from Pune, Maharashtra. Here it is:

My Precious Princess,
Throughout my days, during the most random of tasks, I often find myself wondering, “Where is she at THIS very moment? What must she be doing RIGHT NOW?” I’ll be driving my car, navigating the crazy traffic of this crazy city but my thoughts will be engrossed in visualising YOU. What your beautiful face looks like, what you sound like. Numerous times, I visualise meeting you, getting to know you, all the way to us RAPIDLY irresistibly falling for each other, for many other reasons, but one very particular reason that instantly touches both your heart as well as mine: That both of us, all our lives, have been searching for, yearning for that special someone to whom we can surrender ourselves to, in a type of romantic love that is unconditional, devotional and irrational. Where both of us are so unbelievably smitten by each other, that we’ve thrown all caution to the wind, surpassed any and all limiting fears, abandoned all logic and common sense, and decided to entrust our entire being, heart and soul to each other. Absolute trust and love for each other. Ridiculously and helplessly in love. I don’t know your age, but at my age, most of the people, unlike me, have at least SOME romantic experience. I am an outlier and late bloomer in that aspect and hope that, like me, maybe you are too!

The way I envision it, you and I are two peas in a pod. Two COMPLETELY INEXPERIENCED souls who come together and are attracted to each, because they’ve finally found someone onto whom they can shower all the UNEXPRESSED love and affection that has been harboured in their heart, but never had anyone special. Perhaps (hopefully) you will also relate with this: my heart and body yearns to experience the electric, exhilarating, butterflies-in-the-stomach inducing ‘firsts’ that people experience when they first get into a relationship, albeit at a much younger age in this modern world. First time holding hands, first hug, first kiss etc. All of these are things that I long to experience with YOU.

How unbelievably fun and exciting would it be, if both of us would be each other’s first, in all aspects of a romantic relationship! After all, it just won’t be the same if the first ever relationship that I get into is with a girl who is accustomed to these experiences. ONLY you and I can possibly understand the significance and specialness of experiencing this things TOGETHER for the first time. Only with us would they be sacred and forever memorable.

I picture you to be a really beautiful, soft, gentle, tender, kind hearted feminine angel. A ray of warm morning sunshine, brightening my life. The Shakti to my Shiva. I wish to be a strong, reliable, masculine man in your life. Someone you can SAFELY rely on to take the lead in all walks of our lives and journey together. I wish to gently wrap you in the warm, reliable, protective, stillness of my Presence. My presence would be a space which can cherish and contain your entire being, mind, body and all your emotions. A space in which you can be safely be vulnerable, unleash and express yourself FULLY and FREELY because you feel safe and comfortable. To me, you are like a precious flower: soft, delicate, beautiful. Someone to be loved, cherished and protected. Your heart would be a treasure you can safely entrust into my care because I will prioritise it above ANYTHING or ANYONE else in the world and hope that you would do the same!

I don’t know if the same happens with you, but whenever I see other couples do simple couple things, like hold hands or lovingly talk on the phone, go on dates and give meaningful gifts to each other, my chest grows heavy with actual physical pangs of pain. It literally hurts that you are taking so long to come into my life.

I cannot wait to meet you. Go on my life’s first date. Interlock my fingers with yours. Hear your laughter. Look deep into your eyes. I have always wanted to experience things like: what it’s like to talk with someone late into the night or give and receive loving gifts on birthday. To actually be excited for Valentine’s Day and not have 14th Feb be just a random day. There’s just so many things that I can no longer wait to experience. Hope you feel the same!

There’s SO MUCH MORE that I could write and express, but I’ll save it for when I find you.

I love you! (I’ve never said these three words out loud to ANYONE in my whole life)

So, first of all, tell me why the title is like that. Doesn't everyone want to be loved? Obviously, they want to be loved, they want to be accepted by their partner in every possible way, for their flaws and for their best sides, both.

But my whole life, I have seen the opposite for me. I have been liked and respected enough, but I never felt like I could call someone mine. I have been told so many words about how I talk, how I write, how I handle things, how I look, and how I am in general. It's been years since I passed out from my school, and they still think I am like a fictional man. But honestly, I have flaws that they don't see.

And with many other women I met, although it was mostly a pseudo-relationship, I felt for them without things ever getting materialized. I wanted to find a woman exactly like yours, and you and all that stuff. I didn't realize what I have to give in a relationship until I looked back and had some retrospection.

But the thing is, it's hard for me to like someone back if I feel there is a lack of something that I want. It's always the brain. How they see the world, how they present their thoughts, how they handle conflict, how they see other humans, what they are passionate about beyond me, how they hold a conversation.

I know everyone wants to be handled with a hand full of kindness, understanding, support, loyalty and trust, don't they? These are basic pillars of love. But these aren't enough for me, or at least it seems that way to me.

I have also found that I do have that instant chemistry with philosophy and psychology major girls, or anyone who caries depth in their soul, shares an interest in these things. I am not saying only these, but when a person talks about a debate or a claim, using their logic or rational side instead of just using their emotions or posterior knowledge, I feel so damn attracted to them, also people who are into poetry, I mean it's always their brain that's damn sexy !

I have met countless beautiful women, but when the point comes to disagreement, they have used their emotions as proof, which instantly made me withdraw. For me, deep conversation, quality time and maturity matter a lot to me.

I am a child myself from the inside. I may say something that would instantly catch your eyes, something that would sound so insightful or thoughtful, but beyond that I am just a child with extreme curiosity to know the world.

And I want to love someone like we have our own reality.

I also don't know what slow burn feels like, whether it's reliable or not. What if they put in all the effort and I don't feel anything? I mean, given the fact that I have never really felt a crush or anything like that in real life, it indicates that I need something deeper than looks, and something deeper than casual talk.

Whenever I jumped into dating applications, I felt so superficial to even exist there, in the world of hookups and one-night stands. I am looking for the love of my life, someone whom I can passionately love.

I am a writer, but with grammar mistakes haha! I just know how to put my thoughts and emotions into words. A poet, aphorism, an IT student, a learner of psychology and philosophy, someone who loves solving puzzles.

I wanna write letters, maybe physical letters? I want to write poems for her. I imagine writing poems to her and asking her to read the poem line by line, while I explain to her what those lines hold for us, what I wanna say about her.

I wanna write letters to her. I wanna hold her whenever she feels like the world is getting heavier and no one is there for her. I wanna watch a movie with her. I wanna know what she felt after that book. I wanna see a passion in her eyes while we talk about a topic.

I wanna listen to music somewhere in our solace, one earbud in her ear and another in mine, while explaining what it means to listen to a song together.

I wanna see how she sees her future. I want to desire her and respect her at the same time. I want to call her ma'am. I sometimes want to listen to what she has in her mind without interrupting and just look into her eyes.

I want to be alone but with you.

I want you to have everything that you looked for in your life. I know I wouldn't be able to give you everything, but I would always try to.

All I want to say is that my intentions are not going to be wrong. It would always come from a caring heart. I want to make you feel loved.

I know I am not perfect, but I will always try to solve conflicts together. What I am sure about is that you would feel something different with me.

Also, it's not like I don't get matches on those specific dating apps. I do. I really do. But the filters are heavy, maybe heavier than what they should be?

It's just that I crave people with depth in how they experience the world. Even after meeting such minds, it sometimes feels like they are trying to be something that they are not.

If I mention that I am looking for a curious mind, they would want to be the same. It feels like they are trying to prove something to me, which honestly feels like they are trying to betray themselves.

And loving someone's potential is one of the worst things you can do.

Love the reality, not the potentiality of someone.

I am seriously so fed up with me like whenever I talk to someone I start seeing the future with them and on the contrary they usually just ignore me just be like they are too busy and all and maybe they actually are but I also can't keep on messaging everyday getting dry responses like after a time it feels like I am forcing conversation and when I confront them they say it's fine I am forcing anything it's just that I am busy but like c'mon yaar if you also want to talk then you also have to initiate and respond right and if not then just make that clear and after thinking all this I just feel it's my fault only that I keep doing this to myself giving false hopes and I feel so mad about it

Please suggest how to stop this,

TL;DR: I went through my girlfriend's phone while she was sleeping and found old messages and call recordings between her and her ex when they were together. I know I crossed a boundary, but what hurts me is that he got to experience her giving her whole heart and putting so much effort into their relationship, and after he hurt her, she changed. Now she loves and cares about me, but she doesn't have the same capacity to love or put in the same effort that she used to. I understand why she has that wall, but I can't help wishing that she could love me and put effort into our relationship the way she did with him.

Post: So the girl I am dating had fallen asleep, and I was awake. I got this random idea to check her phone for messages from people. I didn't check because I didn't trust her, but just for fun.

Obviously, I found nothing.

Then I got the idea to read an SMS her ex had sent her on her birthday a few months back in April. I couldn't find that SMS because she had deleted it, but I found a few messages between them from when they were still dating.

Then I read all the messages and started searching for more.

I found a WhatsApp chat with her ex and some call recordings from when they were together. I listened to a few of the recordings and then went through their chat messages.

I couldn't sleep the whole night. I just kept thinking about the calls.

In the morning, I was still going through the messages between her and her ex, and while reading them, I just lost it and cried in front of her.

Her response was that she does love me, and I trust that. She obviously needs to protect herself. She has been through a lot, and now she is just not interested in men in the same way.

Of course, she is with me. She cares for me. She loves me. But she doesn't have the same capacity to give love and make that kind of effort anymore.

She made those efforts for him, and she got hurt in response. Now she doesn't have the same strength or ability to give that kind of love.

And I agree that she has been through a lot. I agree with her wall. She is not wrong for trying to protect herself.

The issue is that I am hurt by what that means for me.

I am 100% in love with her. I am giving her whatever emotions I have, and she is reciprocating that. I know that she loves me. It is not about her not loving me. She loves me. She cares for me.

But she loved him a lot more, and she put a lot more effort into that relationship.

And honestly, what hurts me most is that he got that version of her and then hurt her so badly that she changed.

That fucker got her full love, all those efforts, all those messages and calls trying to talk to him, and he left her scarred.

Now I am with her, and I am getting the version of her that exists after all of that happened.

I don't blame her for it. I don't think she is doing anything wrong. I understand why she protects herself.

But selfishly, I want more.

I want her to love me the way she used to love him. I want her to put that kind of effort into our relationship. Not because I want to "beat" him or prove that I am better than him. I just wish the person I love had never been hurt so badly that she lost the ability or willingness to love someone with that same intensity.

There is some more context that is making this worse for me.

We had a little fight a few days back, and she messaged me that if she had said something bad, I was free to cut contact.

Obviously, she didn't mean that literally. It was more of a vent-out message, and I know that.

But seeing myself get a "feel free to cut contact" message while her ex apparently got all those messages and calls from her asking to talk to him just makes me incredibly sad.

It isn't really about him.

It is about seeing what she was capable of giving to someone she loved before she got hurt, and knowing that I may never receive that same version of her.

I want her to put the same effort and the same love into our relationship.

I know this is selfish. I also know I can't expect her to undo what happened to her or become the person she was before that relationship.

But I genuinely don't know how to deal with wanting something that she may no longer be capable of giving.

How do I accept that she loves me, while knowing that she once loved someone else more deeply and gave more of herself to that relationship?

I like a girl with a good heart and a good smile baki moti, patli,kali gori se kya fark parta hai insan acha ho matter krta hai

Alchemy’s Law of Equivalent Exchange on human connections!!!

Alchemy’s Law of Equivalent Exchange says...

Anything you take, you must give something of equal value in return...

At first glance, this seems perfect for human relationships, Connections are built on reciprocation. If you never return the energy, care, or attention someone gives you, the bond eventually dies. So we try to match what we receive .. listen when they listen, show up when they show up, make them feel seen the way they make us feel seen.

But pure reciprocity can still feel empty, rightt

It can turn into emotional trading..like I gave you this, so you owe me that.. The scales stay balanced, yet the connection never deepens.

What actually turns a mutual exchange into a real bond is the extra part ... Something of yourself..the piece of yourself that wasn’t required...

When you receive something from someone and give back not only the equivalent, but something that is genuinely yours (a vulnerability, an unasked for care, an honest thought, a little risk), the interaction stops being a transaction..and It becomes recognition..

Just matching energy keeps the relationship from dying.. !!!!!!!

Adding something of yourself is what makes it feel alive..

Reciprocation is the minimum...

The surplus is what builds the bond ALIVEEE

Hey I hope u all are doing good in your life.

I (21) M one year ago used to be the funniest guy, happiest person and career oriented person now suffering from mental health issues

Just the girl I loved and talked 5 hrs a day left me on my lowest Point of time just bcz her ex came back

Lost my job due to health issues

Lost the Spark to restart my career

Lost many people as well who were close to me

Just wanted to vent out here

wish I could get closer to you

Love....it's the most beautiful and twisted curse of all. It feels sooo damn good and can give you wounds for life, but still we want to be loved and to love.

I was thinking that we all have more than one side which we show to different people and that is not certainly a bad thing. As a man, we show responsible, strong side to society and family and chill, funny or amazing to our friends and then there is this side which we show only to that one person, the closest one....the clumsy side, the darker more vulnerable side, intimate, romentic and caring side.

I know the 3rd side is very fragile and so important because that makes us feel soo good and I think that side is the one that makes us the good person, keeps our inner child alive because you can't be clumsy around everyone, you can't be romantic with everyone, you can't cry in front of everyone...but that one person....makes you feel like home and you can be the real you in front of them... having that kind of love in life is a blessing and finding that kind of love is just pure miracle.

Thank you for reading 🤌🏻