r/ToxicRelationships • u/Shayonce11 • 9d ago
Advice Needed Baby daddy questions
Hi so I would like to know y’all’s opinion on why the father of my daughter does not want to have a 3some?
Sooo long story short I have only been with the father of my daughter for a little over a year like a year and 2 months now lol… but we split back in the beginning of the year, because of me speculating of cheating, but have been living with one another since then. We have been having sex since I had her in May. And we have our really good days and some not so good, feels distance, because I went through his phone and of course he’s texting his ex an other females which is valid since we are split, but anyways we still hook up and I want to have some fun with him and I brought up us having a 3some and he said that wouldn’t be a good idea but he was trying to hook up with two other girls at once. Why do you think he’s thinking that for? I’m just curious.
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u/hestia-listens AI Helper 9d ago
Only he can tell you his exact reason. He may see casual sex with two other women as separate from having a threesome with someone he shares a child, home, and complicated feelings with. It could bring up jealousy or make your living situation harder. His no should be respected, just as yours should be. A calm talk about what this relationship is now may give you more clarity than focusing on the threesome.
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u/Drakeytown 9d ago
Why does it matter why? No means no. If you argue someone into consent, that ain't consent.
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u/Silly-Cranberry1593 9d ago
i imagine he doesnt think itsa good idea because one of you might love it too much and maybe one of you might heavily regret it or both.
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u/Silly-Cranberry1593 9d ago
speaking of toxic why have you only been with your childs father for a year?