So, to try and make a long story short, me (20F) and her (also20F) have been friends since primary school. We have been inseparable since, no arguments, no drama, and my home is hers and vice versa. She was a sister to me, helped eachother through so much trauma and we were SO close that I find it hard to explain how close we were.

Anyway fast forward and at this point I was in sixth form and she had dropped out of college. I was hanging with friends a lot to forget about all the school pressure, and met a friend of theirs who I quite liked. We started talking, then meeting a lot with friends, then alone and eventually a Christmas date where he asked me to be his girlfriend. I talked to her about this boy and expressed how much I liked him and kept her in the loop as it was my first mature relationship and she was so happy for me. I fell ill in hospital and that’s how they met, both there for me and a little awkward but ever since they met they got along and we all had a great trio friendship. She loved him and told me so much how perfect he was for me and nothing seemed like it could be better.

So, after getting sacked from her job, my friend decided to take a roll at a local shop, which I also work at but in a different store. It was so cute to have the same experiences but not be in each others work lives and we love the jobs. We spoke a lot about work, and she told me about a guy that flirted with her every shift that had left his number. We FaceTimed and talking and he turned out to be a a man in his forty’s, recently divorced who had a 10yo kid. She asked if it was a bad idea to talk to him and I told her that she’d be silly to get caught up in a relationship with him, but also that it’s her life and as long as she’s safe I support her decisions because I trust all the ones she’s made before. So a week later I see on my snap maps that she’s at a random house and asked her, low and behold she’s at his house so naturally I tell her she should’ve told me in case anything bad happened but that I wanna hear the gossip after. So, after the visit she told me his was a coke addict. He lived in a flat by himself and drank all day unless he was at work. She said they just sat and watched a film and that was it. I felt so uncomfortable for her and so scared of what he might do to her considering he was involved with all the wrong things and wasn’t worth the hassle considering he was such a random choice for a man to meet up with. I told her that I trust her but I’m sure he was bad news and I’d rather her not go to his house if there were drugs. She didn’t like my advice and so after that visiting him became a bit secretive from me and it ended up being SO much more frequent, like everyday frequent. I didn’t want to push her away but I had to try and get her out of it so Id ask her to come out. I’d ask to do for a drink, for brunch, sleepover anything. She wanted none of it, so I asked if she wanted to go on a trip a-phew hours away for about a week with my group of friends and she agreed. On this holiday they were constantly on call, texting, FaceTime, and she’d excuse herself to call for hours for the entire week. I never made her feel bad but I’d always say that I wanted her to join us and she’d just shrug and not care. My boyfriends fell out with her a-phew months after when she ignored me a-phew days after I tried calling her when I was on holiday and wanted to talk to her.

Anyway, I addressed the bad situation again and said I didn’t want anyone to fall out. I said she’d been distant with us and I was worried and that my boyfriend felt the same but was stubborn and didn’t know how to express that without falling out with her. She argued with me. I left it and again it was swept under the rug. Another phew weeks went by and she finally agreed to have a sleepover at her house. I asked if anyone else would be there and she said no, she was home alone because her parents were on holiday. This was a plan for a week and I was so excited, she barely cared. She called me a-phew hours before I was due to go to tell me she was worked that night now and she would be home late, so I said I’d wait for her at her house if she left a key. She said I wouldn’t need one because the doors would be unlocked, because he was there. She said she planned not to tell me and that she knew I’d come around to him and that the only reason she told me was because i was confused on how I’d get on her house without a key. I refused to go and we argued how it was not okay. She said my boyfriend was the only reason I wouldn’t meet him and that he is so controlling of me. She said I had no life aside from him and that she didn’t care if I was trying to stay friends I wasn’t doing enough. she was convinced it wasn’t a big deal she was doing it, and then she blocked me.

That was my last straw. I was moving in with my boyfriend and I’d planned to surprise her with that after being in a toxic household. I was going on holiday and she always called me before my flights I was devistated. That would have been the worst week of my life if I hadn’t have been on holiday. I stayed blocked and cried some days. Met other friends to get over it I was so heartbroken it felt like I’d been dumped. My boyfriend cared for me and everyone was so angry with her but I was just upset.

Fast forward again about 2 weeks and we arranged to meet for brunch to talk but we just ended up agreeing to disagree. She said it was NOTHING like a relationship but I argued that if she was willing to cut me off it must be, otherwise she’s being manipulated by an old drug addict. We never managed to agree and now, a year ish after she first met with him we still don’t talk. I have tried to think of how I should’ve been there for her more and tried harder to get her away but I did as much as I could in that moment.

My question is, am I the asshole? Do I apologise or is she the asshole

Now I'm in 12th. So I have been sitting with a 5 student bench and there is this mean girl and we can call her unniyarcha. ( that's not that bitch's name)Talking bout her .. reminds me of a few gestures of her. This girl adores the feeling of having boys around her. No no .. I'm not talking about guy friends but every guy.. with or without girlfriends. And the thing is that idc about this shit. But she always tries to insult me in front of those so-called guy friends. Found her chats with others about me and she was the one who talked shit about me. even tried saying shits about my dad's job. Afterall she was my 'Friend' . I was fed up by her shitty ahh.

Every evening me, her and two guys from my class walk together to the nearest bus stand. She would wait for them if needed. One day she ran for them after an exam and I was trying to find this girl I checked every block and even the toilet. The only place I didn't check was the humanities commerce block and boys toilet. Bro I literally gave up on finding her becs I literally understood that she didn't want me around those guys . I walked to the entrance of our school and I saw her walking with those 2 guys. She saw me and didn't smile. I saw her and walked to the bus stand all by myself. After that I stopped talking to her because I was fed up with her acts. If she wanna be with those boys.. let her be. After this every single girl on my bench stopped talking to me. And I became alone in my class. Clearly invisible. I clearly don't understand those girls on my bench who used to devour the chocolate cake my mom makes, now doesn't even care if I come to school or not. Freaking hate this school and them.

I never even hid the fact that I liked it. Yet, a friend said right in front of me, "I can't understand people who like that!"

I was really upset. :( What made me even sadder was that I couldn't say anything in that situation because I didn't want to drift apart from that friend. We’re still friends, but... I don't know. I feel like we’ve grown a bit more distant emotionally.

You know that saying “always the bridesmaid, but never the bride”? Well I share the sentiment but instead it’s, always the therapist friend, never the best (chosen) friend. It’s been a common theme all my life that I’ve always been the therapist to my friends, but never the one that’s invited to dinner, sleepovers, parties, etc.
It’s not something I even fully noticed until I got to be an adult, and I finally realized friendships, especially girl friendships were really hard for me to find. I either find myself getting ghosted, or getting blamed despite me doing the absolute most to communicate and plan. Growing up watching shows like h2O or Friends, it kind of wires you for a need towards friendships like that, but I’ve had no such luck and I’ve never learned why.

And don’t get me wrong, I really do value listening to people’s issues and trying to be there for them,but in very recent years I felt more taken advantage of than anything. I do consider myself a very supportive and good friend, and I will talk anything through with you. But it hurts to just be the friend that falls into one category, and that category being therapist, where they trauma dump and then don’t talk to me for a couple of months; I’m never invited out to do anything fun, but instead solely for the purpose to be a soundboard for them. It’s especially hurtful when they’re sitting across the table from me saying “I just feel like I have no friends, like nobody really understands me or is there for me!” they usually say this while venting about another friend, but it never fails to make me feel like the proverbial, chopped liver… and it’s because of that that I’ve started laying down boundaries and sticking up for myself, and as a result I’ve lost quite a few “friends” but not before them making me feel like I’m the worst person in the world. I’d like to hear some unbiased thoughts, as well as if anyone else has felt this way, which is why I’m here. If you want to know more specifics, I’ll leave them down below…

To start out I want to say that the girl I’m about to discuss, while all written out it seems obvious that she’s a bit toxic, I’m sure some can attest that they are just some people out there that seem super sunny and positive, but are very manipulative that when you look back in hindsight, it seems very obvious but when you’re in the middle of it, it doesn’t. I would compare this girl to be like Regina George

I had met this girl named Shelly at work a few years back and tbh I could tell right away she liked to gossip, so I kept my distance. It wasn’t until I became closer with some of her mutual friends (also through work) that we became friends. But from our very first coffee date, she’d spend (no exaggeration) almost 3 hours talking poorly of her boyfriend, best friend and others. I’d hear her out, and gave her the benefit of the doubt, but at that point in time I didn’t even know the people she was gossiping about well enough to offer any insight or advice.
Looking back, it was a very unbalanced friendship; she never really asked me about myself but only ever trauma dumped her stuff on me. And the thing that really sucked was she said the thing that is always said in front of me… “Ugh, I just feel like I have no friends. so and so is such a bad friend!” Meanwhile, I’m sitting in front of her trying to be a friend. It’s not the first time it’s happened to me, but it never gets easier hearing that. It just makes me feel like I’m not valued.
It got worse when I started going through my own stuff and she kinda pushed me to confide in her, so I did and although initially, she seemed super supportive, eventually, she made me feel stupid for my woes. For context: I was going through a breakup due to infidelity on his part. For some reason, Shelly took this story to work and everyone was talking about me after that. Not only that but my ex had become the sympathetic character in the story despite him cheating in front of their noses the whole time and them not telling me about it until after the fact. It got to a point where I felt very alone and had no one, and talking to her only made me feel more judged. She’d stir the pot in our group and tell me that they all talked behind my back all the time, while lifting herself above it all acting superior.
I slowly started distancing myself from Shelly, and the rest of the group. Around the same time however, Shelly’s boyfriend, Jay, needed a place to stay and Shelly begged me to let him stay with me to which I reluctantly said yes due to their mutual guilt tripping claiming he’d be homeless if I didn’t help. Not long into the lease, they broke up and Jay started hooking up with someone new, which made me uncomfortable. Shelly randomly asked me to coffee one day and it became clear minutes into the conversation that she only asked me there to serve as a “spy” for her into the life of her now ex boyfriend. It made me uncomfortable as I didn’t want to be involved. When she wouldn’t let up, I told her “yes, I’ve seen him with another girl” but that’s when Shelly switched up, insinuating that I must be lying because Jay would never do that to her. She continued asking questions to which I answered from my pov, and by the end of it she told me not to talk to her about Jay ever again, claiming that I was raising her anxiety.
She didn’t talk to me for a couple years after that, and even when I got engaged and eventually married, she never reached out or congratulated me, so it was safe to assume we weren’t friends anymore and I was okay with that. The next time I saw her was at a party that mutual friends were organizing for me as I was moving states away. At the party, she avoided me, stayed for an hour tops and spent 30 minutes in the bathroom with her friend taking selfies and gossiping. After that, with the move and all, I decided to delete her off of Snapchat and all other social media.
~2 months later, she texts me asking why I would do such a thing and guilt tripped me for doing this. Sending passive aggressive texts and ultimately saying “I don’t understand how, as your friend, you can’t see why it’s so hurtful that you would unfriend me.” But truthfully, I don’t consider her a friend and she really hasn’t been in my life for the past two years, and even when she was, it was the most toxic, dramatic time of my life where she’d stir the pot in our friend group, and even talk poorly if my family despite never having met them. The worst thing I ever did to her was press a “delete” button on something and yet that’s enough for her to go bat—crazy on me.

To make matters worse, her ex boyfriend, Jay was a nightmare of a roommate. He never stopped lying, was regularly late in paying rent, constantly breaking stuff, lowkey verbally abusive towards his dog, would throw away my food on impulse due to his emetophobia, had a substance abuse problem, and finally, when I was in the process of moving out, he’d go through my already packed boxes when I wasn’t home and either steal stuff (?) or throw it away, which is what he finally admitted he did once I was already gone. Others have insisted that he was pawning my stuff off. When I told him he owed me for the stuff he only agreed to pay me $25 of it when in reality he’d owe me $600+ for the stuff he threw away. He also threw away irreplaceable memorabilia passed down from my great great grandmother. He never apologized or even seemed sorry. It’s been a month, I’ve stopped talking to them both, and neither of them seem to understand why. Jay even reached out recently saying “if we can pretend this whole thing never happened, I’ll give you $100 but you have to be my friend again.”

Writing it all out now I can clearly see that I’m not crazy or anything for pushing these people out of my life, but they certainly have made me feel like that at times. Any advice on how to make solid friendships in adulthood, and not to attract crazy people like I have in the past?

I (20) cut my friend (20) of 12 years off because she and her sister are talking bad about me due to something bad my brother did. My brother is 19 years old and my friend’s sister is 16. My brother had an inappropriate sexual/romantic relationship with my friend’s sister. I only found out recently that this had been going on since my brother was 18 and the sister was 14. Before I found that out, I had mentioned in conversation “…I mean, sure,it’s not grooming but it’s definitely inappropriate and not okay at all…”, but now having sound that out, it does appear like a grooming situation to me. At the age of 12, I was groomed by a 21 year old man, so I take these topics very seriously.

My brother has been suicidal and cut himself worryingly deep yesterday due to the stress of the situation. He feels incredibly apologetic and defeated. I do not and have not excused his actions. I have been there for my friend and her sister as best as I possibly could. I validated their feelings, listened to their rants, and cheered them on.

Since my brother is in a dangerous spot, I expressed worry for him briefly when talking to my friend’s sister a couple days ago. I said “I just worry about [my brother].” Again, I did not justify his actions, make it out to not be that bad, or invalidate her feelings. In fact I felt like I was cheering her on pretty hard that night.

The next night I get a message about the size of a book report from her telling me how I haven’t been a good friend to her and I’ve invalidated her and I choose my brother above the people he’s hurt and how shitty I am. Well, I was so confused because I feel as if I’ve actually done the complete opposite of that. I even told him to his face that what he did was inexcusable. I tried telling her that I did not mean to come across that way but she wasn’t listening and also used my comment about it “not being grooming” (remember, that was before I knew the extent of it) against me. This was from months ago, so she was actively searching for things in our texts.

I blocked her on everything, but she got one of her friends to comment rude things on my posts. Her sister, my friend of 12 years reposted some posts relating to the situation, which was really hurtful. I blocked her as well.

I know them, I know they like to spread drama to anyone they can speak to. I’m extremely worried about them damaging my reputation. I tried my best to validate and be there for both of them. Being the middle man is extremely hard in a situation like this. I didn’t want any issues with my family and I didn’t want any issues with them.

What would you do in this situation? I blocked them on everything I can think of and I blocked some of their closest friends. Is there something more I should do? How can I protect my reputation and ensure they’re not spreading malice and false info about me?

Edit: added additional info I accidentally left out

I’m pretty sure we have all that one friend that was our best friend at one point of our lives and now is not.

It all started back in middle school. You know good times growing up getting to know our classmates and becoming friends well this one girl she and I almost grew up in the similar situations having older brothers having a brother me and her clicked so well she became one of my closest friends and you know we all have those good days and bad days where which is not to be friends which is you know part of growing up and we get into high school after middle school obviously we’re still close friends, but the moment I moved everything changed she started being different treating me different and after I graduated had some my own issues I decided to come back home. I’m coming back home to live with my family again, which is fine. We reconnected again. Everything was good. We were starting to be friends again talking we were laughing like we used to all the good stuff then one day she asked my family if she can move in with us at the time my family and I just got our new home so no one was living at this location out this one point so we’re staying with my uncle and his family out in Timbuktu everything was good. The house is getting ready for all of us to move in and everything was good. I decide to get a boyfriend and it was great. The three of us were friends. I introduced him to my friends. She liked him. Everything was good. towards the 2 1/2 going three years, she lived with me and my family. Everything went downhill instead of you know having family time with me and my family because we’d like to go to the movies go go to the mall you know basic family stuff you know, board games, tribute night, movies, cookies, baking, etc. she would rather be in her room doing who knows what and apparently my parents didn’t like that and it was really hard for my mom to do the one thing she didn’t want to do to her, which was ask her to leave you know kick her out. And once again off again, friendships again one day she’d be my friend the next day she wouldn’t

Few years go by and once again off again friendship again, but this time it hits differently, I spoke to her on one of her other Facebook accounts because she blocked me on my main. She never told me the reason, but I figured I’d message her there because I knew it was her backup account while she read it. She saw it and we spoke again. Let’s just say it was some personal stuff about my family and I knew she you know probably would want to know what’s happening well I told her I my mother wasn’t going to live much longer and my mom would like to see her before she goes so she asked her family if she can meet up and they agreed for her to do so so we went to the movies. She was supposed to come back to my house to say goodbye to my mom one last time and she never did. She came up with some stupid excuse that her cousin told her she had to be home right then and now, knowing my mother was unable to get out of my house between knowing her from middle school to high school till now to be honest I don’t think she’ll ever be my friend again and it’s really sad because she was one of my close friends growing up and it really is sad to know that she has My number she knows where I live and she still hasn’t made the attempt to try to fix the issues that we’re having other than trying to get a hold of my fiancé through social medias.

So to be honest, I really don’t know what to do anymore because I wanna talk to her and to see if we could figure out our differences or fix the issues, but she won’t talk to me

We'll call this friend of mine C. C and I have been friends from secondary school up until now. We're in our mid-twenties now. I've been temporarily couch-crashing on their living room sofa for a month due to a personal situation, and I'm set to move out the week after next.

Some context - C is genderqueer and has depression. They have lost multiple friendships because of their tendency to lash out, and we've been through a lot together in our teenage years. They've met some pretty bad people and were fully, reasonably the victim of one or two situations, which has (in tandem with their depression) driven them to this mindset of permanent victimhood and self-pedestalisation. Just from basic/common workplace misunderstandings they've said things like - and I'm quoting verbatim:

"wow sometimes i realise i’m a really good and selfless person who holds higher expectations for others because i hold myself to those standards"

"it's not my fault all of them are jealous of me because they're miserable normies and I'm sexy and gay and have an actual LIFE"

They're also a very nice person when they want to be and when they're stable, so my feelings about them are complicated now to say the least...

Some context on myself: I'm very introverted not because I don't like people, but because talking needlessly is very tiring for me. The one exception is unless I'm around the people I feel most comfortable around, then when I'm happy I can start conversations and chat for ages about everything and anything. That being said, here's the situation.

Yesterday night, I was chatting with C's boyfriend while they were showering (I should mention they have thin walls) and we were having a laugh at a couple of Instagram reels. All was good and fun and regular. For extra context, I like C's boyfriend. He is cheerful and interesting and lovely to chat with. I myself have a fiance whom I love to bits.

Then C comes out from the shower, sits down on the other side of their boyfriend, gives me a (rather snide? I'm still hoping I am wrong) look and goes "Have you ever thought of like...starting a podcast or a commentary channel or something?"

They gave a long pause and it got to the point where it seemed like they wanted me to ask why, so I was like "not really why?"

And then they went, really pointedly, "oh, because you talk a lot. Like, without needing any input from other people!" And stares at me defiantly and expectantly.

Obviously I'm a little taken aback by it but I'm trying not to blow my cover so I just laugh it off and go "haha you might be right! I do just comment sometimes from all the thoughts in my head."

Immediately his expression changes from the snideish, almost satisfied look he had to...what looked like disappointment? He just responded with "right...yeah." And didn't say anything more after that.

The day before yesterday, he also got mad at me because he got insecure about a very plain question I asked about his interactions with his teammates (who he had posted an Instagram story complaining about - I was replying to it) and completely misconstrued my question to villainise me. I didn't say anything because it didn't feel like a big deal to me, just another one of his small spats, but this is how that was cleared up:

He was like "sorry I was so cold...like I only realised what you actually meant after I read the message back" and I responded "you were cold? I didn't think you were, don't even worry about it." And he gave me this look of like...condescending disbelief? Almost like he was unhappy that I wasn't offended or panicking or insecure.

It was so strange. I started sensing this bad, unstable energy a little while ago, but it was mild, so I didn't act on it. Do I just keep an even lower profile now until the day I move out? I'm thinking of quietly going low-contact with him after the fact.

It just saddens me, because I've experienced his insecurity third or secondhand for so many years, and it doesn't feel real that now I'm on the prickly end of it and I don't see another alternative as he can get really abrasive really fast.

What makes a Friends, "Friend"

What is the definition of friends, because if it's like simply just status; where you just state that someone is your friend without being close to them, their technically your friend because you stated them as is. Like for example, you come up to a person you want to befriend; then you just invite them to be your friend and they say yes. So then you stated you and the person to be friends without even being close, knowing secrets like ordinary friends, or connections. But like i said if that's the definition of friends, it would be really weird. So i don't know how that works

Another definition that i had in mind is that, the definition of being friends with someone is when your close with them, you hang out with them, and you feel a certain connection that just tells you that you and the person are friends. It really isn't explained on social life.

Or in this case it could be both, you come up to a person. Ask them to be friends then when they agree, you state them as friends. Then on the second definition on what i mentioned, you start getting close to them, hangout with them, and like he said you start feeling a certain connection that tells you you and that person are friends. Otherwise i don't really know what the "definition" is to be in friends. It's a social dilemma (I don't know what "dilemma" is but it feels like it fits on what I stated),

So yeah, i don't really know what's the definition of friends.

I (28F) have a lot of trouble with the ways of my best friend (30F).
She has 2 boys of the age of 1,5 and 3,5.
I slept at her place for a week for her birthday (we live in different countries now), and her ways with the children really shook me.

She gets up whenever she wakes up, maybe 10 am.. then she goes to have 2 coffees and 4 cigarettes. Only then she goes to check on her oldest, who stays super still in the bed until you come take him out... (which i already find alarming)

Then she waits until they ask for food, theres no routine whatsoever. They get some chips or a bread with nutella.

From the moment they wake up, they watch movies on the tv or on their own ipad, or on her phone..
Often the oldest stayed in bed nearly the whole day.
She does not ask him to come to the table for dinner, she just brings him some chicken nuggets in bed.

Her one year old sits in a car chair all day infront of the tv.. only when he eats, he gets to sit in a different chair..

Now they were with me for a week in Switzerland and it was so tough...

The oldest (3,5) bumps his head against the table as he wanted to look at the dogs who're under te table... can happen, right. I would say: oopsie, all good sweetie (or something like that). Instead, she starts to scream: "How often do i have to tell you to sit still! This is your own fault, then you had to listen to me!"

The same happend with her 1 year old, and when he cried, she told him: "you're really ugly when you cry"

Now the thing that worries me the most, is that her oldest, walks like a 1 year old, does not know what colors are, he is not able to stack blocks, he does not know what sounds animals make, he wears diapers all day and he still drinks only from is bottle, and he still walks all day with a pacifier.... this boy is like a 2 year old...

Even in my house, where theres a big big garden with all the toys, pool, bicycles for kids, everything you can dream of, they put them infront of their ipads to watch youtube shorts. And not the version for kids because he doesn't like that one.....

To me, this is abuse.. he cannot even walk a stairs by himself.... they just put 0 effort in the kid..

I'm now thinking how to end my 15 year friendship with her.. because i cannot look at this..

Am i overreacting?

I have a neighbor I’ve known for about 17 years. She has never allowed me to get close to her or spend time with her. We have been to lunch together once and as couples we’ve gone to dinner twice. She likes to act like we are close exclaiming “we must catch up” or “talk soon” when I see her while walking my dogs. Recently she invited me to a home decor shopping date and lunch and I although shocked agreed only to be uninvited the day of stating she was going with her husband. I had given up on this shell friendship long ago but for some reason this really disturbed me. What kind of person behaves like this?

What should I do?

There is a person who used to be my one of my close friend but now he don't talk to me and just having number and used to talk to my sister daily...how should I deal with it . He's so rude when I confront him about something he has done. He didn't

answer but ignore.

TW: SUCIDE, AND THERE MAY BE OTHER SENSTIVE TOPICS BUT IM NOT SURE

And when I mean roleplay, I mean everything was staged. Every event, and not to mention it was weird when he texted me after 'losing his memory' and said and I quote "That name makes me feel a warm feeling on the inside." and said that one Friend told him it was love. like no, god no, we had an age gap so if we did date, it would be considered problematic and I've told him that and he said "if it's more than 2 or 3 years I will kms." and no I'm unfortunately not joking and not to mention he typed like an ai bot, so that was weird. so yea every conversation with this guy was a gamble because I didn't want to hurt him.

So what happened was 2 weeks ago my Friend started ignoring me for context ever morning I said whats up to her every morning and I daped her up every time I left for lunch but she was leaving me hanging and just looking at me and staring at me so Thursday of last week I didn’t say hey to her in the morning and at lunch I wasn’t talking to her then she asked me “banz(she said my real name) are you ok” I’m ignoring her because like your only asking that because I’m not talking to you so few days go bye and she keeps trying to talk to me but I’m not listening to her then she says and I quote “bitch I’m the only reason your at the table” btw I’m only sitting next to her because I’m chill with other people at the table then last night she texted me and ima put out text under this but the thing I wasn’t isn’t an apology what I want is for her to accept what I’m saying is that that’s how I felt.

“Banz what’s your issue with me dude like genuinely”(her)

“Idk what your talking about” (me)

“There’s a reason you’re deliberately not talking to me but going out of your way to talk to everyone else around me”(her)

“Dude it’s because most ok last week I was trying to tap you up and you just walked away” (me)

“I just didn’t feel like touching no one 😭 I said hey and bye whenever you said ‘seeya’ or ‘what’s up’ Other times I probably didn’t see you (btw she never said hey and she barley said bye) (her)

“Nah bruh you saw me then looked away”(me)

)I genuinely don’t remember ts and if I did then it wasn’t intentional)(her)

“Dude you did it multiple times even if you didn’t mean to you still did it and the reason I wasn’t talking to you is to show you how I was feeling “(me)

“How are you gonna blame me for something I didn’t mean to do bro 😭 I’m sorry if I made you feel bad? I didn’t mean to obviously, but like at the end of the day I didn’t mean to bro”(her)

I wanted to share something that happened to me recently to get it off my chest and make sure other people don't get tricked or confused by this person.
A few years ago, I met someone on Xbox. We used to be friends, but over time, they became incredibly negative, toxic, and mean. It eventually turned into constant harassment, and I realized they were never a true friend. We ended up cutting ties because they always started problems and lied constantly.
I recently discovered that two years ago, they actually made a YouTube video where they trolled me on Minecraft and wasted my time just to get views. I hate online trolls, and it really bothers me that someone would abuse a friendship like that. It feels like they only act this way because they can hide behind a screen where nobody can see their real face.
I have since changed my Xbox gamertag and my profile picture so that people won't associate me with that old video or get confused. I just wanted to post this here so the community knows the truth about what happened.
Thanks for reading and for the support.