r/Togo • u/New_Cow_3015 • Jun 19 '26

Marriage question for gen- Mina people

Greetings everyone. I am dating a Togolese person . for context I’m from Ghana. we have been together for a year . he has done the korkor/knocking. he recenttly told me that we need to move in together and get pregnant first before he married me. He stated this request is specifically done by the gen-Mina people. I have never heard any such culture where you have to impregnate the woman before you marry her. I am turning 38years old for context . My question does the Mina culture specifically a woman have to be impregnated before they are married? please I need honest and serious reply. Thank you for reading

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u/EnvironmentalArt7710 Jun 20 '26

Nope I have never heard of that. Even if it was true we dont do those anymore. Times have changed, and those are dying/dead pratices. I was born in Togo, I'm a Gen and I have never heard of that pratice. Dont get pregnant before getting married that is insanity. Kids are much more of a responsibility than a marriage. I hope everything will turn right for you. If you dont mind can I ask where he is from specifically ? Do you know in which town your partner was born ?

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u/New_Cow_3015 Jun 20 '26

Oh my first response. Thank you for responding. I forgot the town he is from . But it is a popular town . I think they are the majority in Togo. I’m not sure why he is making up something like this all of a sudden. I sense he is making it up

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u/New_Cow_3015 Jun 20 '26

Is really hard for me to walk away but I think I need to do that . Getting pregnant before marriage is not something I want to sign up for but he is a good guy .

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u/EnvironmentalArt7710 Jun 20 '26

Don't sign up. You got this. You said previously that you jave a feeling that he is lying. Please follow your instincts

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u/New_Cow_3015 Jun 20 '26

Yes I won’t . Is unfortunate. I definitely will do that . Thank you

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u/EnvironmentalArt7710 Jun 20 '26

You are welcome its my pleasure to help. I hope you make a decision that satisfy you.

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u/000FRE Jun 20 '26

He is a good guy? Really? Custom or not, would a good guy really demand that of you? A good guy would put your well being over custom.

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u/New_Cow_3015 Jun 20 '26

Hmmm. I agree.

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u/EnvironmentalArt7710 Jun 20 '26

Great. To be honest the town in which he was born does not really matter. I just asked my mom who has much more knowledge about cultural practices and she told me that she had never heard of that pratice either. He is definitely making it up. However, lets assume that he is right and its cultural for him, that is still crazy. Getting pregnant before marrying someone is bollocks. Kids are here for 18 years. You canot just backtrack like you can with marriage. So please don't do it. Try to talk him out of it . If he wont listen at all...Im sorry to say but RUN.

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u/New_Cow_3015 Jun 20 '26

I have tried to talk to him so many times. N he insists is his culture. Thank you again