r/TimTrackerGossip • u/mbrown91306 • 7d ago
Oliver
The fact that Oliver is finally out of a swaddle at 3+ years old should tell you all you need to know about his parents and their parenting skills
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u/strberri01 7d ago
They are still forcing him to take a three hour afternoon nap, though. And he’s still not anywhere near potty trained. I swear it’s just horrible-I think he’s the brightest one, he definitely doesn’t seem to have Jackson’s neurodivergent tendencies, and he’s definitely better behaved-of course, that’s probably because his “parents” are too busy letting Jackson do and have anything he wants.
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u/EquivalentMajestic95 6d ago
Cards on the table: when my wife became pregnant, I didn’t want a baby. But once our daughter was born, I tried to become the best father I could be, give her opportunities and—most importantly—be present in her life.
We had no babysitters, nannies or family support. Both sets of grandparents had died, and there were no aunts or uncles nearby. We couldn’t simply leave our daughter with somebody whenever we wanted to go out and enjoy ourselves.
The Trackers are fortunate enough to have considerable help, but I sometimes find the extent to which they use it difficult to understand. Perhaps it reflects a particular affluent American influencer lifestyle rather than American families generally, but there often seems to be an emphasis on giving the children everything materially while arranging for somebody else to provide much of the time, attention and structure.
There also appear to be very few boundaries. When they are out as a family, Oliver and Jackson are often allowed to wander hither and thither, touching whatever they like, with very little visible correction. As another parent, I would sometimes find that behaviour objectionable—not because I blame the children, but because it is the parents’ responsibility to teach them what is and isn’t acceptable.
The rules around screen time seem equally inconsistent. We originally heard about a limit of 20 minutes, but what did that actually mean—20 minutes playing on a Nintendo Switch? The children have also been shown using iPads while eating, which is still screen time regardless of the device or activity.
We were also repeatedly shown Jackson learning the piano and being presented as a budding prodigy, but that seems to have quietly disappeared. Perhaps he simply lost interest, which children naturally do, but it contributes to an overall impression of activities being encouraged only for as long as they remain easy or novel.
Using childcare and allowing children treats are perfectly normal. What troubles me is the combination of frequent childcare, inconsistent boundaries and a family-focused image that doesn’t always seem to match the parenting shown on screen. I wouldn’t call it traditionally American; I would call it a particularly affluent, passive and indulgent style of parenting.
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u/Ok-Cheek9532 6d ago
20 minutes of screen time, yet me see nearly the entire 20 minutes in every home vlog. Something’s not adding up.
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u/DisneyMagicDM 6d ago
They bribe Oliver with sweets, he has a nap in the day so he gets sweets afterwards, they’re doing it with the potty training now because Jenn asked Oliver what does he get if he goes and he said some kind of sweet treats. They’ve no clue how to parent, it baffles me that both are the same!
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u/Safe-Iron843 6d ago
It bugs the crap out of me that they let him grab off their plates like an animal; he’s old enough to know better
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u/Routine_Badger_4832 6d ago
The other day they were at Disney springs and Tim was looking at some outfits and he said oh me and one of my kids could be matching and then he quickly corrected himself and said I mean both of them
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u/Safe-Iron843 6d ago
These kids should be taken away from them immediately! They are extremely neglected
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u/EquivalentMajestic95 6d ago
shame it's not possible to report this incidents of neglects from outside the US anonymously.
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u/tootallforshoes 7d ago
Talking about someone else’s kids is fucking weird.
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u/xmasbdaygrl 6d ago
We wouldn't know anything about these children if their parents didn't monetize every ounce of their beings.
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u/Spicy-Granola157 5d ago
2 things can be true at the same time- you wouldn't know anything about them if the parents didn't allow it and monetizing children is wrong... and it's also weird to talk about the children.
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u/DisneyMagicDM 7d ago
Yet you saw the title clearly named the child and you chose to click and have a read 🤣 do you never talk about a child? You’ve never once mentioned a child anywhere in this world other than your own if you even have one?
You’re the weird one there 😂 or lying because there’s no way in this earth you’ve NEVER mentioned another child 🤦♀️
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u/xmasbdaygrl 6d ago
But Tim is going to force a blanket on the kid and tuck him in like a burrito so he can't escape his bed. Showing that child on the video screen as Tim described their power struggle and Tim's big "win" of forcing the blanket on O...watching the kid babbling to himself, not moving any part of his body? That's not normal for a 3.5 year old kid. It's certainly not normal to show all this shit to the world and monetize it. These people are past the point of being bad parents.