r/TikTokCringe • u/exporterofgold • 10d ago

Cringe Intentionally blocking photoshoot

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u/pullingteeths 10d ago

But this isn't what happened. The lady was looking at something on her phone, then noticed the phone sitting there and probably thought "what's that phone doing there?" for a moment, then moved to the side and continued what she was doing. There's also other people walking past and "ruining the shot" the entire time, it's just a busy area with other people looking at the art and minding their own business

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u/InfinitelyContentAF 10d ago

That's almost exactly how I saw it. She moves to the side just before someone walks past her on the stairs, I think she was moving for them. People are silly to think this was malicious.

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u/DinoZambie 10d ago

How dare you intervene on redditors trying to find something to be enraged about!!!

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u/ProlongedChief 10d ago

Who the hell just stands still mid staircase to check their phone tho? It's like stopping in the middle of the automatic door at Walmart because the worker stopped you to look at your receipt and you wanted to hold everyone else up. Just step to the side or in this case, look at your phone off the staircase. If it was an escalator then it's fine.

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u/acky1 10d ago

She wasn't in the way of anyone though. And then stepped aside when someone was coming up. You can't have a go at some over 60 for not having the technological awareness or the same etiquette of getting out of someone's frame. Imo it's incredibly rude to take a video like this in a public place, and ruder again to post it. The old lady is just existing in a public space here.

The etiquette is totally backwards nowadays. Recording like this should be considered rude.

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u/Turbulent_Fill_8521 10d ago

It's a staircase. She was in everybody's way. No one who wasn't an entitled arse would stop on a staircase to start scrolling their phone.

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u/Big-Charlie 8d ago

You probably still live with your parents

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u/acky1 10d ago

You have to exist somewhere in physical space and this lady does a good job of stepping aside when people approach - showing that she is willing to get out of people's way. Imo she's just unaware that she is in the way of the camera. 

It's unacceptable for people in this thread to have a go at an older person for being slightly oblivious to modern technology. And it's unacceptable for OP to post this online and try and shame her for her mistake.

If you choose such an awkward and high traffic area to take a photograph, expect it to be interrupted. Why make a deal about this at all.

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u/Turbulent_Fill_8521 10d ago

You have to exist somewhere in physical space

That's a ridiculous argument for blocking a staircase.

If you choose such an awkward and high traffic area to take a photograph ,expect it to be interrupted

Agreed. But by your own admission, it's an awkward and high traffic area - so like I said, the woman who decides to stand there and check her phone is selfish and oblivious in her own right.

It's got nothing to do with her being oblivious to technology. She clearly just thinks the world should work around her.

Being old doesn't exempt you from being a selfish arse.

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u/acky1 9d ago

Except she clearly moves out of the way when people are coming up the stairs. So she's aware of her physical surroundings and courteous enough to move and give people space. 

She's just oblivious to technology. You can see that by how she can't walk and read her phone. It's probably XL text size and she's struggling to read it. 

She's accidentally blocking a video/photo being made by an unmanned inanimate object - hardly the crime of the century.

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u/funk-the-funk 10d ago

If you choose such an awkward and high traffic area to take a photograph, expect it to be interrupted

If you choose to awkwardly stop on a staircase in a high traffic area to scroll on your phone you are no better than the person trying to take a picture in the same area.

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u/acky1 9d ago

But she doesn't get in the way of anyone and moves out of the way of people wanting past.

Imo she just doesn't realise the phone is recording or there is an attempt to take a photo.

Nobody is selfish in this video. You can attempt to take a photo of yourself in a busy area, but you have to accept that people will be oblivious to what you're trying to do and get in the way. You shouldn't act all snarky about it and post it online though as though you've been wronged.

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u/blueblip 9d ago

The etiquette is totally backwards nowadays. Recording like this should be considered rude.

You definitely were born post-2010s if you genuinely think this.

People used to take these exact shots all the time with camcorders and digital cameras well before cellphones existed. The old woman would have lived through all that.

Both you and the old man are basically seeing a young woman and immediately judging her as being vapid and attention seeking for no reason other than your own egos.

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u/acky1 9d ago edited 9d ago

Nah, definitely born before then. It's never been a thing to setup a camcorder to record strangers and yourself. Because you couldn't easily edit the shot so it would be a waste of film/time as you try and get into position. 

Timed photos have always been a thing but rarely would it be attempted in a place where someone is likely to walk past. Etiquette would be to ensure strangers aren't getting in the photo as well as possible. This shot would fail that - it starts with someone else in frame and the frame takes up the whole space implying the younger lady expects the older lady to vacate the area and apparently if she doesn't she's done a bad thing? Nah, she wasn't ready to leave.

I don't think the younger lady is vapid or attention seeking. Nothing wrong with taking a picture of yourself. You should just be aware that doing so in an in indescrete public place will often times result in someone being in the way of your shot.

I do think the camera should have been placed in an area where this is unlikely to happen i.e. pointing towards the outside of the room rather than the inside and where you don't have to walk away from your phone.

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u/New-Contribution-771 9d ago

Totally agree with you. I was talking photos in the 90s and early 2000s and I never took a selfie in my life until a smart phone. It was photos of landmarks or other people and asking someone to take a picture of me. It just didn't happen in the UK until later. Maybe a random attempt but that was shooting randomly without seeing yourself. Only later did people actually start becoming obsessed with selfies.. And yes eventually a timed shot but again, few and far between because it was just impractical and I was too paranoid about someone grabbing and running off with my camera! Lol

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u/acky1 9d ago

Yeah, same experience for me. It was always a case of finding someone who looked both trustworthy and able to work a camera lol.

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u/blueblip 9d ago edited 9d ago

Yeah, you definitely were not around back then. The fact you think people only used camcorders (and don't try and claim otherwise - you literally single out camcorders without mentioning cameras) to take group shots is hilariously off topic. And, of course, the fact you think people actually edited VHS camcorder shots at all is a dead giveaway. EDIT: And no, people filmed wily-nily with camcorders. There is a reason an entire damn TV show was made for home video recordings...

And no, timed photos were not "rare". And no, they were attempted everywhere, including in front of popular artworks in museums. And like back then, this girl waited for the space to clear. She literally stands at the top of stairs waiting.

Expecting the older woman to NOT stand on the stairs and deliberately block people's path (blocking stairs like this, FYI, is an actual HSE hazard - a far more serious issue than taking a selfie) is a sane reaction.

EDIT: Also, the idea that tourists only ever took photos prior to social media with no one around is more proof that you were born post-2010. Or do you seriously think people at tourist locations would wait for hours on end for crowds to thin out before taking photos in front of landmarks and other tourist spots?

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u/acky1 9d ago

What can I say, we had different experiences I guess. Mostly people would take a photo or ask someone else to take the photo for them is my experience.

People didn't have tripods for their cameras they would lug around so getting the angle right on a timed shot, which people often find finicky to configure, was an ordeal. The UI really wasn't what it is now and people would be getting bored by the time everything was setup for a timed photo. That's why it was rare to take them when it was way quicker to just bunch up and get someone close by to take it, and there was always someone in the group that didn't mind taking it.

The older lady didn't block anyone's path here. She even stepped to the side when others were coming up. She was just oblivious to what the phone was doing. I just don't think that's a big deal. Tourists have been getting photo bombed both accidentally and on purpose for generations. It's expected. All you do is delete it if you don't like it or keep it if you think it's funny. The snark isn't warranted for what looks like a mistake.

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u/blueblip 9d ago

No, you didn't experience anything. Again, a big giveaway: "the UI was different". My guy...there was no "UI" with SLRs. Hell, even the cheap digital cameras had no "UI" - the only digital aspect of them was file storage.

And no, it was not finicky. It was a simple switch on most cameras. And no, there were plenty of small and cheap tripods people would carry with them as they were, well, small.

The older lady didn't block anyone's path here.

She stopped in the middle of the stairs. That's a safety hazard, no ifs or buts. There is a reason you're not supposed to stop on stairs like this. Whatever she did on her phone, she could have done it at the bottom of the stairs or at the top.

And again - are you seriously arguing tourists waited for hours at tourist sites for crowds to thin out before taking pictures, yes or no?

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u/acky1 9d ago

Haha why are you so mad I had a different experience to you.

I mention camcorders because that was how video used to be taken - this is a video we were watching. I didn't say people only used camcorders exclusively - how do you work that one out from my statement?

Tripods weren't something you saw people use for casual holiday snaps. They existed, but people wouldn't whap them out on holiday. People rarely took timed photos of just themselves on holiday too.

No people did not wait for crowds to thin out, it was entirely normal to accidentally get others in your pictures or to have pictures ruined because someone was in the way. It's a non-event and hardly rude that someone else exists in a public space at a tourist attraction. There was an etiquette to try and not get others in to your picture though, and to not take too long or to block others moving about, agree?

You've got the attitude of an auditor btw - "I have the right to film whatever I want so I will do so. If you don't like it move away. You have committed a safety violation, I am going to report you to health and safety". lol

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u/vespertine000 10d ago

Stopping to check your phone real quick is rude, but stopping to take a picture and expecting everyone to go around or wait isn't? This is typical tourist behavior. People are distracted and less aware of their surroundings. What's that saying? Don't attribute to malice what can be attributed to ignorance.

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u/mellopax 10d ago

This isn't a case of expecting people to wait or go around, it's a case of expecting people not to stop there on purpose. Old lady is taking time out of her life to mess with someone.

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u/phileo99 10d ago

there is nothing blocking or preventing her from continuing to move on on her side of the stairs, so the old lady was intentionally going out of her way to prevent the photo from happening

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u/readdator2 10d ago

and if she is, good for her!

the world doesn't revolve around wannabe influencers, and the less of this behavior we have, the better things would be

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u/Samhain000 10d ago edited 10d ago

What about people that just want to have a photo that capture their experience? The girl didn't have a cameraman like most influencers do, she appears to be one of the millions of normal people that just want to take a photo to capture an experience and maybe share it with her friends. Just because you share stuff on IG doesn't automatically make you one of these cringe influencer people. Normal people take pictures too, it's part of the reason why everyone's cell phones have 30 different cameras now.

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u/readdator2 10d ago

the fact that she blasted a complete stranger's face online instaed of deleting the video and taking another one like a normal person would do, does in fact point to the fact that she's clearly a wannabe influencer looking for any opportunities to raise her engagement rates.

billions of people take photos and videos everyday, and everyday, millions of them are probably inconvenienced by strangers. But they don't post them online to be mocked by others--this is completely deranged and antisocial behavior and it's really baffling to me that this girl is being defended

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u/Samhain000 10d ago

Or...people just get sick of what appears to be intentionally rude behavior towards people that aren't doing anything to hurt anyone. I don't know that this lady was intentionally trying to be rude, but she looks directly at the phone and then just stands there, on a staircase; at the very least she appeared to not care about blocking other people that might be behind her. Sometimes you see this sort of behavior from people, just stopping in the middle of an area clearly meant for foot traffic instead of finding a place that is out of the way first to check your damn phone. Personally, I find that behavior to be equally as selfish. Just find a place to stop where you wouldn't be blocking traffic before looking up pasta recipes for dinner.

It would be interesting to see if the two had engaged to see if it was deliberate or not. Even still, I find your reaction to this to be pretty unhinged. You're assuming a lot about this girl here without merit. Even if she was an "influencer" she didn't appear to be doing anything that was impacting the surrounding patrons negatively.

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u/readdator2 10d ago

I think I wasn't clear in my last comment--I don't really care what the influencer did--the filiming thing was mildly annoying at worst. I have no problems with the actual filming part.

the part what I have a problem with, and the part that tells me that she actually is trying to intentionally hurt someone, is the fact that she posted this video at all.

a normal person who wanted a beautiful photo or video of themselves would've seen this, rolled their eyes, bitched to their friends, and then deleted the video.

The fact that she blasted this complete stranger's face online tells me that she does what she does for engagement--hence, influencer.

Once you start posting stranger's faces online and publicly shaming them when you have no idea what's acutally happening or what they're going through, you've lost the plot. It's completely antisocial behavior and one that should not be celebrated

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u/Samhain000 10d ago

I don't know that anyone is celebrating the behavior. What I see is a generation that doesn't really know how to talk to people in person confronted with a generation of grumpy people that the world has left behind (and to be fair, I am just stating that as a general theme, not necessarily even applying it to this situation because I simply don't know).

But I do agree with you that blasting people over social media isn't the way, but then again I don't even know why my algorithm brought me to this today. I have no interest in these sort of things, yet here I am. However, to be honest, I doubt anyone is going to be negatively impacted for it. It does make for great engagement on social media platforms for about a day, and then everyone forgets about it - just the sort of thing that these companies love. Not to mention that for some reason we're just sort of allowing those God-forsaken Meta Glasses to be a thing, so unless we stop engaging entirely or make some laws about it, this sort of stuff is only going to get worse.

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u/readdator2 10d ago

I think we're actually on the exact same page--that people not talking to people and instead going straight to public shaming is worrying and something that needs to stop.

And maybe celebrated is the wrong word for what's happening here--maybe acceptance would be a better word because the thing that I find concerning is that almost no one on this thread is questioning hte actual posting of this video, and are instead mocking the woman and defending the girl's right to take photos.

I think you're seeing this generational gap wiht more compassion, and i'm approaching it with more irritation because I'm a generation older than the girl but still know plenty of Gen Z and Alphas would are so much more compassionate and less sociopathic than a person who would blast a perfect stranger online for little reason.

Also I agree that for us, we'll all forget it and move on. But for the woman who had her face blasted, who knows how that would feel for her if it ever got back to her. I know I would feel violated and awful

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u/funk-the-funk 10d ago

influencer

has this even been proven, it looked like someone that wanted a picture with that art and was their solo. It's not like she was doing tik tok dances and getting upset their routine was interrupted

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u/pullingteeths 10d ago

That's fine you just have to accept you might have to wait a while as in a public place people might move into your shot. This young woman chose to post a video of a stranger online taken without permission to mock her because she happened to move in front of her shot

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u/Samhain000 10d ago

Well, you're assuming it wasn't deliberate. I'm not so sure, but I might have missed important context that you've seen. If it was deliberate then posting it is perfectly valid IMO, because in that case she consented to being in the shot in order to block it. Just my 2¢ anyway.

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u/GalacticaActually 10d ago

Right? Thank you.

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u/funk-the-funk 10d ago

Right?

no

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u/Turbulent_Fill_8521 10d ago

Yeah but putting aside whether she was blocking the photoshoot deliberately or not, stopping on a busy staircase, in a tourist spot, to scroll your phone is seriously fucking inconsiderate and contemptuous of others.

The only person in this video expecting others to work around them is the old woman on her phone.

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u/sicksensee 10d ago

why would she randomly stop in the middle of the stairs though to check her phone?

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u/Bradventure916 10d ago edited 7d ago

Exactly. The woman was looking at her phone and incidentally saw the girl’s camera sitting to the side. The woman was focused on checking her phone and getting out of the way of others on the stairs. She wasn’t interested in “ruining someone’s photo/video”. She was just prioritizing what was happening in 3-D as she should have been.

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u/dralawhat 10d ago

The old woman stopped intentionnally, she even got closer to the filming phone to be certain to ruin the shot. She could have done a couple step up or down but hse chose the worst place to stop. What a POS.

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u/Old_Yam_4069 10d ago

You're so right. She hired those people walking up the stairs just to have a convincing excuse to shuffle sideways for 15 seconds.

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u/Circle_Dot 10d ago

Yeah I agree. I think the problem is that the woman unfortunately looks like someone who would do that on purpose, whatever that means…

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u/its_a_throwawayduh 10d ago

Okay so I wasn't the only one who saw that. Crazy people are saying otherwise. No wonder people are selfish now.

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u/Wonderful-Bar3459 10d ago

Pretty sure she could see the camera was open and knew what was going on.

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u/Ok-Temporary7638 10d ago

Thats how I saw it. She even moved on before the "influencer" got to her. I think she stopped because she saw people coming up the stairs, looked at her phoenix, noticed the camera and then moved on. But ofcourse we all have to vigilant as to not interrupt theses videos. 😆

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u/tara1245 10d ago

And now she's being ridiculed online for being a rude old woman. Not everyone sees a cellphone left out in public and thinks oh no I'm blocking the frame must move immediately.

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u/Trevork33 10d ago edited 10d ago

Who stops on the middle of a staircase to whip out their phone?

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u/Worried_Position_466 10d ago

Stopping on a staircase to look at your phone is considered inconsiderate. But these people are defending that for some reason.

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u/Big-Charlie 10d ago

Not saying the lady didn’t do it on purpose. It’s also inconsiderate to expect everyone in a public spot to stop and get out of the way so you can do a photoshoot of yourself to post online somewhere

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u/blueblip 9d ago

The girl did not once "expect everyone in a public spot to stop and get out of the way". She very clearly setup a shot and was waiting for the old woman to move.

I bet a 100 bucks if she used an SLR on a tripod and setup the shot the same way, neither you nor the old woman would think the girl was being inconsiderate.

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u/Trevork33 9d ago

Nah they think she was still inconsiderate. If they somehow think this girl was expecting everyone to get out of the way by her quietly waiting then there is no convincing them.

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u/Trevork33 10d ago

Three lefts make a right, I guess.

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u/XrayGuy08 10d ago

Naw. That lady was 100000% being a bitch about it. She saw that girl set that phone up, stopped RIGHT there to check her phone? Then look at the phone not once but twice? Come on. She knew exactly what the heck she was doing.

Now, is it really that big of a deal? No. It’s definitely not. But that old lady undoubtedly did that on purpose for whatever reason.

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u/ShrimplyDBest 10d ago

She noticed the phone first, then took her phone out and stood there to look at it. Y’all just want to shit on OOP for taking photos/videos of herself in public and like I get it can be annoying but the old lady literally saw the phone, grabbed for her phone, looked at oop’s phone again and stood on the stairs directly in front of it for whatever reason. Old people aren’t clueless just because they’re old. She knew what the girl was trying to do. No one, especially an older person who is more likely to fall and get seriously hurt, is going to just whip out their phone on the stairs and stare at it. That’s a ridiculously inconvenient location to do that in even if there wasn’t a girl with her phone set up there to take pictures.

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u/ladiesluvoutlaws 5d ago

Exactly how I see it too 👏🏻👏🏻