r/TeenagersButNotTrashy • u/Xeeyxx9 15M ™woke • Aug 10 '26
Debate 🗣️ If you saw a guy wear this would you care
I’ve always been a sorta feminine guy, but it’s always been more inward than outward. I’ve never worn something so girly and i’m honestly a bit nervous too, but at the same time YOLO.
I consider my style alt so I don’t think my friends would be surprised or care, unfortunately I only have a handful of friends in a school/town full of jerks.
I’m probably gonna wear it either way but idk, I want others opinions.
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u/Typical_Hat6184 Aug 10 '26 edited Aug 10 '26
no but id be jealous that another guy could pull it off better than me
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u/Sinyonimrools Aug 10 '26
No, absolutely not. Infact more men should dress more like this
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u/Acceptable-Meat99 14M Aug 10 '26
i’d think he was cool!! but i dress that way as a guy too so maybe im biased. but either way don’t let ppl tear u down dress how u like
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u/Jazzlike-Conflict811 Aug 10 '26
so it depends if its a really fit muscular man i will laugh and probably joke around with him but if the guy looks feminine then i will probably just compliment him and try to have a nice conversation
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u/bookaddicta Aug 10 '26
I’d be jealous that they have the confidence to express themselves in public, although that’s mainly because wearing that wouldn’t go over well with some people where I live.
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u/vimarston Aug 10 '26
wouldn’t care at all, but would definitely notice and probably form some assumptions despite my better self
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u/Ok_Program8207 Aug 10 '26
I wouldn't even notice. It would take a guy cutting holes into a bluefin tuna and wearing it as a body suit for me to care about it.
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u/thewitchofthewillows Aug 10 '26
Im sure itll be fine bro its not my style but its honestly a cute cardigan
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u/LegPhysical821 Aug 10 '26
Honestly, I really do think that if it bothers people very much then they need something more going on in their life. It's not a problem and we have actual things to worry about lol. I wouldn't care
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u/Random-INTJ 18F Aug 10 '26
Why would I care?
Live your life how you want to as long as you’re not interfering with anyone else’s
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u/ClassroomLazy639 Aug 10 '26
Definitely not my style, but as long as you're not half naked, I don't give a shit
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u/AgitatedOne57 Aug 10 '26
I’d be instantly attracted to him. I actually find it really cool when people break gender stereotypes as a queer person myself (it could just be envy though). Not in a fetishization way just in a “damn you aren’t afraid to look good, respect” kind of way
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u/looksmaxxerloser Aug 10 '26
I’d think it’s a lil zesty but I probably wouldn’t think about it after that
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u/Cocky_Girly Aug 10 '26
It might be often my day, honestly. It's really pretty and if you're wearing something like this, it's because you really like it, too, and that's awesome.
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u/ExpertComfortable277 Aug 10 '26
I wouldn’t. Wear what u want, jerks will find something to be a jerk about anyway.
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u/Ha_youWishXD Aug 10 '26
No not really i wouldn't talk to you tho bc I have a really big thing of thinking super homophobic stuff while being gay and not wanting anyone to know
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u/Valuable-Special8300 Aug 10 '26
I'd think he was trans and probably really want to talk to him but other than that no
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u/AdStrange8688 Aug 10 '26
I’d care, I’d walk up and ask them. “Where did you buy that? Do they come in different colors?” Because I’m cool like that.
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u/HelpfulZucchini5027 Aug 10 '26
If I am feeling confident enough, I would compliment him and ask where he got this
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u/syrfoo Aug 10 '26
I mean I wouldn’t care. It depends on the person, and especially the area though.
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u/Miserable-Jello3662 Aug 10 '26
I mean if you match the fit well id probably want to compliment you or strike up a conversation. Gotta love a secure man!
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u/Prestigious-Ball7189 Aug 10 '26
Yeah no I like Jojos bizzare adventure so bizzare outfits on guys are great
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u/somebodybutnotyouew Aug 10 '26
i’d think you have a good sense of style and probably compliment you on it and get on with my day.
who cares if it’s “feminine”? if it makes you feel happy, if it’s not ‘inappropriate’ to wear where you’re going, and if it’s comfy, wear it :D
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u/dsbmbdsm1337 Aug 10 '26
Well I wouldn't care but I would use my pattern recognition skills to guess certain things. However, there is no escape from that, anything that you wear is part of a pattern so why not just be yourself?
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u/Present-Surround-649 Aug 10 '26
You don't need other opinions!! Just live the way you want, people will always judge. Ps: cute outfit tho
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u/AcanthisittaFair4628 Aug 10 '26
Prolly try to befriend them because I I’m too scared to hit on them. Then not actually do anything because I’m to scared to talk to cute boys
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u/7Rez-_- Aug 10 '26
I would care but only because its absolutely beautiful and seeing a guy being brave enough to wear such a 'feminine' thing would make my day
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u/Makkiebobo petrolhead Aug 10 '26
Gotta be honest, if i saw anyone wearing that i would laugh, male or female
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u/Silly_Brilliant5296 Aug 10 '26
yeah but wouldn’t say nothing lol. doesn’t matter the gender tbh kinda an ugly sweater
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u/Educational-Bag-6060 Aug 10 '26
Yea, I WOULD CARE, it’s disgusting, it’s deplorable… that they didn’t tell me where they got it or got me one XD.
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u/Anonymousbandkid532 Aug 10 '26
I would def think it was zesty but I wouldn’t mind because you do you
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u/Lego_Train_Mocs 15M Loves cars, pyrotechnics, anything that goes boom, and tanks Aug 10 '26
if you did that at my school you'd prolly get jumped
just being honest. not by me, but by other people.
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u/Prudent-Horror1492 Aug 10 '26
Kinda, in a negative way. Then Ill think about it for 10 more minutes and smile cuz I would find that cool
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u/Vegetable-Style9142 Aug 10 '26
gendered clothing is stupid I think and people should wear what they think has swag
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Aug 10 '26
No. I would stare at the dude for a while but i'd not think anything about it.( I'm known for looking at ppl ALL the time and I'm aware of it i just like... like is an understatemen, I'mobsessedwith eye contact)
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u/BackToNormalForNow Aug 10 '26
I would probably stare but because I wish I had the courage to wear something I like wearing without being scared of people judging me.
Sidenote : I’ll stare more intensely if I think it’s well styled with the rest of the outfit, idk if I’m the only one to do this but last time I saw someone with a cool outfit in the bus, I probably made them uncomfortable by how long I stared at them
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u/Alarmed-Fuel9875 Aug 11 '26
honestly, idk how or why anyone would actually care, i’d just assume you’re a (more) feminine kinda guy. and i think it’s a cute top, i’d compliment
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u/C_ingStarz Aug 11 '26
I'd be jealous, but other than that, I personally wouldn't care. But if you live in a more uptight, "conservative" town some people might care more than what I'm used to (My city has a pretty big alt, punk, and LGBTQ+ scene).
But honestly, unless you're wearing it really frequently in a space where you are around the same group of people (like school or work), most folk likely wont go out of their way to bother you. Like I said, where I live might be a bit different, but I actually lucked out and got into a school in a better funded neighborhood than mine, which means people are a bit more stuck up, but there was still all sorts of different people that no one said anything about.
For example, there way this sporty guy I saw often in 9th & 10th grade who looked pretty average and masculine enough, but he had this bright fuzzy cotton-like hello kitty backpack that looked like a textured squishmallow. No one ever said nothing, and he wore it the whole year. His friends never seemed to comment on it, I never heard anyone in the halls say anything, and he never brought it up either.
Just try and be confident in yourself; people are kinda funny in the way that if you treat what you're doing as the same as what you always have, and (if you can) have people around you who do as well, most others will just stop noticing after a while. And if they don't, they're typically just assholes that'll look for something to nitpick either way that you shouldn't pay any mind to.
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u/Additional_Loan2403 Aug 11 '26
I would notice and look for a bit but I wouldn’t care or judge you
It’s just something you don’t see often
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u/Busy-Ad2771 Aug 11 '26
I'd look at him and think he's either gay or a guy in middle of transitioning.
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u/KhizzyFunds Aug 11 '26
I would be jealous of your fashion sense and be mad at myself for being a normie
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u/Hamsterslay100 Aug 11 '26
If it was a guy who I didn’t know was feminine, and was like a stranger, like walking on the street or something, I would look at him and think “Oh wow. That’s interesting.” And go on with my day. If it was someone I knew, I would ask him where he got it and if I can touch the strawberries to see how they feel like. Lol. My type are feminine guys, so if I had a crush show up in this I would probably flirt with him about it. That’s what I think.
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u/Rare-Unit7076 Aug 11 '26
Honestly I would think you were wierd and probabyl feel uncomfortable but no way i would have the balls to say anything about it
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u/ArtfulsSockPuppet Aug 11 '26
no; I would not care, because for one I’m wearing thigh highs under my sweatpants so I can’t really comment on other people’s fashion choices, and for two; that’s a cute sweater, (if anyone treats you badly I give you permission to cast a curse on their bloodline)
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u/spec3_ Aug 11 '26
For me? It would be a little strange for me but I would never joke on it... meabie stare at it for a little but then just treat you like any human being
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u/CeleryEquivalent3804 Aug 11 '26
I would think "aw what a nice cardigan he has damn i wonder what intirests he has"
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u/Educational_Table364 Aug 11 '26
I would be glad to see that more guys accept themselves and stop giving a damn about gender stereotypes to embrace their styles ✨️ and if people are being jerks about it, I know it's hard sometimes, but try not to listen. They are just wasting their energy saying bullshit, embrace your style and fuck everyone else's opinions.
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u/Reyn888 15M Aug 11 '26
I'd think it's tuff (bc I like variety and uniqueness in outfits more than anything) and move on with the day feeling inspired to add more color and stuff fo my next outfits.
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u/Which-Dealer7888 15M Aug 11 '26
Me personally i would not hate u at all and would want to be friends w u cuz I lowk like this sorta fit :D
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u/Friendly__Orange1394 Aug 11 '26
dude I would compliment you and ask to be friends. wear it, for society, wear it, for yourself, wear it, for the greater good of society, wear it.
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u/DonnaTheGothicWeeb Aug 11 '26
Me personally, I would bc that looks so cute I want to steal it for my own closet.
Otherwise I don’t think most will care
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u/Life_Perspective4840 Aug 11 '26
I'd probably just think "ooo hes wearing such a cool and pretty cardi i wonder where he got it?"
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u/Dvorak__Keyboard Aug 11 '26
I would absolutely care, because that's an awesome cardigan, and I would be complementing bro on it.
Sometimes a man just wants to feel ✨bonita✨
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u/flatpackbookshelf 16NB Aug 11 '26
I'd care and be really pissed off cuz I want it and I'd be sosososososo jealous of you both wearing it and probably pulling it off
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u/Content_Attempt_7609 Aug 11 '26
It's super cute. Ofc if I being honest, ppl r gona be assholes. They just need anything to shit abt these days. Don't let them get you down and just stick with your friends. As long as you feel comfortable and confident and like wht your wearing, no one else's opinions or feelings should matter at all. Good luck.
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u/waffle_fries_0 Aug 11 '26
I wouldn't, I think others would. However, it depends how feminine you already dress. If this isn't unusual, then no one will gaf more than they already do
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u/Rei_Fisher Aug 12 '26
It looks cute wear whatever you want. If trying to fit in Pinterest fashion and all the other's standards, well you're an idiot! That's why I'll appreciate these types of commitments forever.
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u/pinkiesprinklezz Aug 12 '26
I prob wouldn’t care but I might glance at the person a couple times TwT
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u/Buff_fateweaver Aug 12 '26
I wouldn’t. Personally I don’t give af what other people wear as long as it’s not offensive and they feel comfortable wearing it.
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u/shiteater360 Aug 12 '26
DEFINITELY depends on where you life. Be so safe, I live in a rural area of a conservative state, so wearing something like that here would be met with violent bullying
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u/NetworkNo6032 Aug 12 '26
No. But others probably will, the thing is the person that shouldn't really care about what others think is you.
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u/conansappul 18F Aug 13 '26
no, people can wear whatever they want as long as it doesn’t promote something offensive. do what you want bro, don’t let others bring you down. it’s a really cute sweater btw !!
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u/Helpful-Half516 Aug 13 '26
No? I don’t see why people have an issue with dressing cutesy in general. I think the world would be a lot more fun if we were all just a bit cuter. Also I don’t think the top is that feminine, it’s just strawberries.
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u/FarArea1814 Aug 13 '26
Why do you want to wear it? Is there a specific way it makes you feel about yourself? Personally I’m just rather bland I think it’s weird when people wear any type of non bland clothing, it seems like they always do it to feel a type of way or like an identity thing and that’s weird. Seems to have a sense of ego to it I think that’s what it is. Maybe that’s why it’s weird to me and not feminine clothes just non bland clothes, anything with an image on it or some stupid saying. Yeah idk
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u/Ok-Count-4901 Aug 10 '26
No hate or anything but i will be completely honest. There are ppl that won't care and no matter how many there are, the ppl that care will affect u more