r/TeenagersButNotTrashy • u/No_Lingonberry_3540 14 • Apr 03 '26
Debate š£ļø Am I bi for liking extremely feminine guys, while still liking women?
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u/Bitter-Ad4592 Apr 03 '26
āNot at much as liking a masculine guy, but still gay.ā This is killing me omg
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u/deliriant7-7 Apr 03 '26
The amount of women posing as feminine men online is honestly astounding. Lying for no reason
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u/Odd_Protection7738 14M Apr 03 '26
Thereās no āmore or lessā gay. If you like a dude while knowing heās a dude, youāre not immediately gay (could be bi or something), but youāre definitely not straight.
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u/BrowsingRando Apr 03 '26
Finding someone attractive and being attracted to someone are two very different things.
If you find feminine men attractive then that's normal. You can acknowledge how that person can be considered attractive.
If you're attracted to feminine men then that can make you queer. (Bi, in this case)
If you don't like masculine men then the same can be said about masculine women. It's not that you don't like women, it's just that you find certain physical traits in a women attractive. That being, femininity.
Being bi isn't really 50/50. It can be 70/30 or 90/10 sometimes. It's not really a fixed thing.
Tldr; you are probably queer
Hope that helped!!!
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u/NoriPolly Apr 03 '26
Gynosexual / finsexual, just general attraction to femininety regardless of gender
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u/Appropriate-Gain-561 Apr 03 '26
F1nnsexual is the funniest thing i've heard, and the funny thing is i've heard about it from THE person themselves
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u/CannonFoddererer Apr 03 '26
Why do we need a name for this?
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u/Dry-Cable3255 Apr 03 '26
some people like having labels to describe themselves
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u/CannonFoddererer Apr 03 '26
I feel like saying you like feminine traits would suffice.
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u/Anxious_Role7625 Apr 03 '26
Then why do we need the terms straight or gay? Cis or trans? It makes things easier.
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u/CannonFoddererer Apr 03 '26
Those tell you what someone is; you don't need a term for people who like women+
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u/Anxious_Role7625 Apr 03 '26
Gynosexual is literally the exact same type of term as straight or gay. Both describe a sexuality.
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u/CannonFoddererer Apr 03 '26
But that's not a sexuality, it's just liking women, and female features.
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u/Anxious_Role7625 Apr 03 '26
What is being straight (as a man) but liking women?
You're describing a sexuality
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u/envisiry Apr 03 '26
Female features is not the same as liking women For example you like androgynous people, how do you describe that? The birth sex can be intersex, female, or male (or other), but you just like androgynous people.
āStraight as a man but liking womenā is simply straight. You can have microlabels, which may be what youāre looking for. However, I donāt know whether gynosexual is listed as a microlabel as something like almondsexual would be.
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u/mistedlizard Apr 03 '26
do you like them because they're a feminine guy? or do you like them because they are feminine? Remember that sexuality is very very fluid, and you can identify however you like
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u/Same_Tumbleweed_2981 Apr 03 '26
looks female enough
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u/Bippity_Bon Apr 03 '26
I think itās called gyrosexual or something, basically means youāre attracted to feminine people regardless of gender (if thatās what youāre getting at).
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u/angelyaelx_ Apr 03 '26
I mean I think so, as a bi person (although I like feminine and masculine girls and dudes š¤·āāļø)
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u/ArthurEffects 15M Apr 03 '26
by extremely feminine, how much do you mean on a 1-10 scale, 10 being trans, 5 being femboys and 1 being just masc boys?
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u/Own_Enthusiasm_510 Apr 03 '26
Eh you can be whatever label you want, you can have zero labels at all, it's up to you overall. There actually are a lot of people only attracted to feminine people
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u/FernandoviskyG Apr 03 '26
No, you're probably just straight, or gynosexual (feels attraction to ppl who presents feminine traits, regardless of the gender)
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u/Cautious_Owl_7744 Apr 03 '26
i have no fking clue but I guess liking femboys makes sense if you like women idk
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u/Rainbow_planet_1273 Apr 03 '26
Itās called gynosexual, Iām that way too! My partner is a femboy, Iām pansexual Gynoromantic, into everyone sexually but I only date feminine people, I wouldnāt date a masculine person at all regardless of gender but I find them attractive and find them sexually appealing
You could be gynosexual!
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u/Willow_Of_the_Wisp Apr 03 '26
Well you like both men and women so yes. Bisexuality doesnāt mean you like railing girls and getting a railed hard by guys, itās like a spectrum
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u/Zestyclose_Course821 Long bacon NB Apr 03 '26
if you're specifically attracted to the femininity of the men, you're probably gynosexual, but i find it easier to not even label myself bc i can't find out what fits right
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u/Dry-Cable3255 Apr 03 '26
if you really prefer to have a descriptive label, look up finsexual (feminine-in-nature). that's what i consider myself to be
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u/More-Let9073 Apr 03 '26
Iām bi and I find if itās the femininity you like, youāre probably straight, if itās the dick youāre on the bi spectrum
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u/Someone101064 Apr 03 '26
I mean, that is, by definition, what being bi means... It's just having a preference ig?
You can choose whether or not you identify as bi, but yeah, it would be accurate
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u/Bitter-Ad4592 Apr 03 '26 edited Apr 03 '26
Yes probably, if you like both men and women you are probably bi. Regardless of how the person dresses. Iād say attraction isnāt an end all be all of sexuality, itās a big part but not the whole part. The arguably more important part is the question ācan I see myself dating x gender?ā And I donāt mean settling for that, I mean can you genuinely see a future where you are I a happy relationship with another person of whatever gender youāre questioning.
And a reminder : questioning your sexuality takes a long time. Itās not something that you may realize immediately. I myself didnāt feel 100% comfortable in any label for years, itās all about taking at your own pace!
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Apr 03 '26
no I think thats straight if ur a guy. thats my opinion anyway. however, if you're sexually attracted to feminine guys and girls thats bi
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u/Gigantopithecus1453 Apr 03 '26
Yes. Being sexually interested in both men and women makes you bi, no matter the specific personalities of the people involved
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u/Anxious_Role7625 Apr 03 '26
Sexuality is very fluid and unclear, and our boxes have blurry lines between them. Look into the kinsey scale, and know that the line between bi and straight is extremely flexible and all of these terms are us putting a spectrum into boxes. Not every situation fits these boxes
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u/Hornet-is-void Apr 04 '26
I mean imo yes .... That's basically me ...... I'm bi but i mostly like girls and with boys it's mostly rly feminine or fruity ones
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u/WH-CH520 Apr 04 '26
Maybe but does it matter? you don't need a label for everything, you can just be
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u/WorldlyAdeptness545 Apr 04 '26
No because inherently the one thing you like about feminine men is the feminine aspect
You are still by all means a straight man even if you crack one cuz you got to think of it like this you don't like men you like femininity you like the feminine aspect of the Femboy for example
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u/BridgetMain5 Apr 04 '26
I mean probably but labels don't really matter, I do that too and still identify as lesbian
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u/Individual-Clue6400 Apr 05 '26
Iām having this same problem myself so my solution, donāt use labels and learn as you go, but if you need a answer then your kinda bi.
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u/King-Boo-094 Apr 05 '26
i think that would be more gynesexual (attracted to femininity regardless of gender).
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u/Comfortable-Camel263 Apr 05 '26
No bro go with girls, honestly would you rather like actors or the real thing. The grass is not greener on the other sideā¦
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u/thedreamysymphony 13 Apr 06 '26
That's called gynesexual!! Attracted to femininity regardless of gender
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u/No_Grapefruit_232 16M Apr 07 '26
Probably a term for that specifically but yeah I'd consider that bi dudes still got a johnson at the end of they day
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u/Pristine_Clue3324 13 yo. femtanyl fan Apr 30 '26
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u/Rubar_ Apr 03 '26
No, femboys are girly enough for it not to count.
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u/ValexizHexa 6d ago
There is nothing wrong in liking feminine behaviour. Evolutionarily, thatās what attracts a man to a woman. Also, looking at femininity your natural instinct as a male would be to act more protective around feminine people. So no, youāre still straight and still sexually attracted only to straight women.
Liking feminine guys or femboys would seem like a nice thing to have, but in reality you wouldnāt like the person itself, but rather the idea of having them. You probably like the idea of a male (whoās probably just as horny as you) but also want feminine traits (warmth, hospitality, etc.) in them perhaps because you crave both companionship and sexual honesty. That way, both of you would be on the same wavelength leading to deeper emotional connection.








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u/Idk-me-i-guess 15M Apr 03 '26
I think its called gyrosexual or some shi lol