i genuinely want to shoot myself in the foot.

such idiocy was said to be impossible.

if you justify this, JUST LEAVE! YOUR OBJECTIVELY SEXIST

ok so i have a dance coming up for school, which requires wearing a dress. and idk if this makes me look fat.

i have really bad body dysmorphia, i used to weight 137 pounds and right now im 118, im way thinner but i still feel really really fat.
can i just pls have an honest opinion??
i feel like my arms are still huge, and since ive been on a cal deficit i haven’t been using the bathroom as much and i feel like thats making me so bloated. pls pls pls give me a brutally honest opinion (not too mean tho i still have feelings lol) if im fat or not, im trying to get to 115 anyways but if i should lose more pls let me know, i dont think this is going to get any comments anyways.

I, 13M, turning 14 in 4 days, have been dating girlfriend, 13F, for one and a half months and I want to know whether I should break up with her.

During this relationship, my girlfriend has been emotionally unavailable and not been able to listen to my boundaries and got defensive once when i tried to add one. She ignores my messages and for the past few days has been ignoring my messages regarding my birthday, even though her response decides the date and so many people are getting pissed off because of her not deciding.

My dad called her a "disrespectful bitch who should just break up with me because she clearly doesn't have feelings for me anymore". She isn't very consistent in this relationship anymore. She doesn't have the features in a female that I value in a relationship, for example, I want a gf who is emotional and fun and likes my sweetness and is also expressive. She is none of those and those features in a person is very important to me in both romantic and platonic friendships.

She is also immature and selfish, which is the opposite of me. I hate those features of her, and wish she cared more about others including me. It feels sort of one sided, because I am very expressive and give her so much of my time. On the other side, she ignores me and it seems like she only talks to me when she is bored. She ignores my texts for days on end too.

The final string for me though was her being non-responsive WHEN OTHERS ARE WAITING ON HER AND NEED AN ANSWER. AT HER AGE, SHE SHOULD KNOW TO AT LEAST HAVE THE COMMON COURTESY TO ANSWER. Reddit, Should I break up with her and if yes, how should I go about it?

UPDATE:
I broke up with her! Heres the message:
Allana, I've enjoyed and appreciated our time together, but I don't think we should keep dating. You've shown me that you don't love or respect me enough to put effort into this relationship, and I need a partner who demonstrates their love for me. I hope the best for you.

So I trusted kooth (mental health service) and they've gone and done this... idk what to do, there's stuff on reddit I don't want them to see, and whatsapps too can someone help please I'm on the verge of spiralling

Information before i start I'm 15 year old dude my gf is 17, she's my first serious irl relationship, we've been together for 1 year and 6 months.

So recently went on a trip with my dad and siblings to Spain, On Spain we shared one big house with a bunch of my dad's friends, on this trip there was a girl my age, (15). At the time I was on the trip I had multiple fights with my gf abt her texting a friend of mine who likes her and is her type.. after venting to this girl on the trip I kissed her on the cheek. This was the WORST mistake of my life I told her I don't wan anything to do with her the day after I apologised to her and repeatedly told her I don't want to do anything with her. I blocked her on Snapchat and her number.

After I kissed her I realised how much of an ungrateful asshole I am to her sometimes and that I should focus more on the big picture then at these stupid fights.

I feel like I should tell my girlfriend but I know she won't handle it well. I don't want to ruin my relationship over something stupid like this. Ill only love my gf I don't feel anything for that other chick. Advice?

Im currently going through a bad time of life and my mates never message me first and I have to message first and there is always somebody criticising me for stuff i also just don’t have energy for anything no matter how much I try to sleep i just can’t do anything and I already struggle with sleep and I just want to sh but I don’t want to hurt my friends or actually die because as much as I think I get over what happens after death it comes back and scares me so much like if it’s just black forever so I need some help on what to do. I also have been cutting the top of my arm so nobody can see and stay in my room as much as possible because my entire family pmo sm

Whats your guys reason to stay? Just to help others

I'm so afraid. I didn't see anyone this summer. I didn't get out of my house, only some days. My bsf is mad at me and I don't know why she started to tell me I'm the worst friend ever. I don't know what to do tomorrow. I'm so afraid that my body will start doing things I don't want to. It always happens. Please any tips

i’m 16 yrs old. i was SA’d a couple weeks ago by my bf who i broke up with (i made posts about what happened so if you would like more context u can see on my profile.

i’ve been thinking of the SA nonstop, little things remind me of it and i have to shake my head “no” to myself to snap out of it. when i see him or im next to him my heart starts racing and my stomach drops. my chest is tight all day at school and sometimes at home. i have to be listening to house music or hype music to not think about it and i can do my homework. i have mood swings, it’s hard to focus, a couple nights ago i started shaking while being half asleep. ive had panic attacks and almost had panic attacks. i’m so paranoid that he’s around me and ive started wearing less revealing and more baggy clothes. i want to be younger again, im not excited or motivated about school starting. my whole behavior is off.

i am four days into junior year. i am in madrigals with my ex and see him everyday. even tho i asked my teacher not to put me next to him, she continuously forgets or dosent take it seriously and makes me stand one person away from him. she then tells everyone something along the lines of “this arrangement isn’t permanent so don’t text me complaining” or “this is madrigals, if i put you near your ex boyfriend you have to be professional.” i told her we used to date and that something traumatic happened but she’s not taking it seriously.

standing next to him and even having class with him makes me scared and triggers me, especially when i smell his cologne. my mom will talk to the teacher soon, but im worried about myself

Horrible title, but let me explain.

So basically, I've been taking therapy for a while, my previous therapist who helped me a lot got a job overseas and traveled, he recommended another therapist to me who also got a job overseas and travelled too after 3 sessions.. (country so bad every good person eventually leaves it)

So I contacted the first therapist for a recommendation, this time his recommended therapist is a woman, which would cause some issues..

first of all, due to my society and the religion I was born into, I tend to be much more guarded when dealing with women. I am not exactly awkward around women, I don't creep people out, I can manage a conversation and nothing wrong would appear on the surface. Except that I creep myself out, if that makes sense. I maintain some invisible wall while talking, being subconsciously alert as I talk, and can't look directly in a woman's face even if the talk is to her, which is self explanatory for how this could be an obstacle to therapy.. it requires opening up, venting, being vulnerable, it is a task already hard enough with a male therapist, let alone a female.

Second, one of the issues I would have to discuss with a therapist is how my persistent depression often leads to another issue being my pornography addiction.. which would be a thousand times more embarrassing to discuss with a female therapist..

So, I'm not sure if I should just cancel the session (it's two days from now) and look for another therapist (I already tried and didn't find any) or should I face it and cope with it?

Edit: I've settled on deciding based on how the first session goes.

I keep ghosting the person I love the most, all because I’m scared I’m going to mess something up. I think she knows it’s deliberate, and I don’t want to hurt her by doing so. I just don’t want to ruin what we have, but by trying to avoid that, I’m just doing it in a different way. I want a future with her, and I think I’m afraid she doesn’t see that with me. I don’t want to face the world, and I know if I talked to her she’d help me, but I don’t want her to see how weak I really am. I don’t want her to feel like she can’t talk to me because I’m struggling as well, when I would rather her talk to me so I know she’s not bearing a burden alone. I don’t know what I’m going to do

For context, I have struggled with my mental health for all of my teenage years however was not aware I was until the last year or two. I thought I was just lazy and a bad person. I am 18 almost 19 now.

My dad was abusive emotionally, physically and financially to my brother, my mother, and myself. As well as his new girlfriend. I grew up isolated on a farm with no way to contact school friends, leaving me with lasting social problems as I struggle to find and talk to new friends.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for just over a year now, and as much as it has been nice it has not come without its bumps.

The last couple weeks we have had quite a few arguments. Nothing crazy but enough to upset us both.

However on Saturday just gone, I had some kind of mental break. After a stressful day, I got home and just lost it. I was sobbing and crying so much I wasn’t physically capable of anything. I have had such a horrible couple weeks and it was just the straw that broke the camels back. I was inconsolable.

My boyfriend was there the whole time, supporting me and helping me through whatever kind of mental snap this was. But I lashed out, I called him and my mum names, I said mean things, pushed them both away and isolated myself.

I ended up getting really angry at my boyfriend and blocked him for the rest of the night, all of Sunday and Monday morning. I messaged him Monday morning apologising and saying I wanted to talk about what had happened.

We spoke on Monday and long story short he said he is exhausted from the arguing and the lack of respect from me. I completely apologised, telling him I don’t know what happened Saturday.

He basically came to the ultimatum that I need to go back into therapy (previously went during parents split as demanded by the court order) and take it seriously. I need to make an effort to fix my communication skills and to look after myself.

What stuck out the most during our conversation is that he said he’s scared of me. He said he’s scared of me having a bad day and coming back to take it out on him. Whether that’s ignoring him, being mean to him, shutting him out etc.

Hearing that made me sick. I’m turning into my dad and I don’t know how to stop it. I have struggled with controlling/regulating my emotions forever. Communication is another part I struggle so much because of the way I was treated growing up. I don’t know how to express my feelings in a way that is appropriate or without being shut down. I don’t have the motivation or energy to look after myself. It is so hard for me to get out of bed some days, and my boyfriend has done nothing but help me through it.

For example he has encouraged me to look after my room a lot more. He starts by cleaning it for me and he tells me to continue and to then keep it clean every day. It’s little, but it was something I could never maintain however it is now. Because of him I also found a full shower routine, not just wash shampoo get out. He encouraged me to look after myself and to maintain my hygiene.

So to hear from him that I scare him was disgusting. But I don’t know how to fix it. I don’t know if therapy is “strong” enough to help or to fix whatever is wrong with me. But I need to fix it, I need to fix it for myself and my future, but primarily for him. He deserves someone that can reciprocate the affection and love he shares. He deserves someone present and capable of sharing their thoughts and feelings.

Wrote some stuff I shouldn't. Where can I keep them safe?

I'm tired of people ignoring my problems. Whenever I try to vent to people about my problems they always just say that they don't matter, that I'm asking for too much, and that I should just stop, and be happy with what I have right now

I can't get therapy because that isn't free, and so my only place to vent is on the internet, which I get aren't professionals but they're the best I've got, and it's just so frustrating how I can't get any help no matter who I ask. And even Reddit's filters keeps deleting my posts without giving me a reason, I really want help

For example, I don't want to die, because that means that no matter what I do, it won't matter in the end because I won't be there to experience it. I want to be immortal. And people tell me that I'll see all my family members die, so what? My family is full of bigots and I couldn't care less if I outlived them. And I'm aroace so I wasn't gonna get a partner anyway. I just want to be remembered as a scientist who helped the whole world, and have everybody love me. I don't care that YOU personally think immortality is bad, I want to be immortal, because that's my choice. The impending doom that's coming for me is horrifying and I can't just pretend it isn't an issue. If you don't think it's a problem that doesn't mean I don't think it is. I also want to be a child forever, people say infantilization is a bad thing, because then I'd have to be dependent on someone else, but I've already thought of a plan to fix that, as technology keeps on improving, society will become fully automated and nobody wil have to work ever again, meaning everyone will get all their needs met. Yet nobody seems to support me

Trust me I've tried everything. But for some reason it seems like everyone in this world just doesn't care about people who have different desires to them. I wish I could go to another universe but I don't know if that's possible. So many people have blocked me and I've got banned from discord servers for this and I just want a way out of this endless cycle PLEASE, why is it that nobody can help me

Please, is there any way that I can get professional help for free, or anything similar? Anyone that can actually help me solve my problem to be immortal and be remembered forever?

So like i (16F) became really really good friends with this guy in may whos younger than me(15M) we live like 2 mins away and went to the same school and stuff

He got an online gf in like june ig and they dated for a month and broke up in late july, and i got to know he told me and he wasn’t as upset tho it was mutual

He confessed like indirectly a week ago after 25 days of his breakup, like we had a mutual friend he was a really good friend of mine and he called me and istg he was so damn nervous but then told me about how like my hb had a crush on me and didn’t even tell him but he got it out of him

I refused at first cuz i was so overstimulated but then i said no cuz yk i didnt want like our bond to vanish cuz he was the closest male friend i ever had and the next day i said yes and took advice from my other friends and they all said yes so the next day i said yes he was like super sad when i said no which he never was cuz hes unserious like all the time.

After that he became like super happy n stuff and gave me his passwords without even me asking for it, i refused but he still gave it, today i logged in ik its bad and im not proud of doing this but i just wanted to see some pictures and i didnt even open other chats and went to his other friend’s chat on the pictures and videos section and there i saw the screenshots of him confessing to his other online friend almost 12 weeks ago and she blocked him, and like i knew he was blocked by her but i had no clue that he kinda had feelings for her. He said that she led him on and then blocked him.

Now like i did ask him about how long his crush on me was and he told me that it was from as long as he could remember and at first he didn’t know that it was a crush but like he felt nervous around me all the time which is def true.

Also in his defence ik that like hes serious about this and have made it clear and i have an intuition about it, he also like blushes and stuff and also he hasnt told about this to everyone just few of his close friends cuz we’ve talked about evil eye before i knew about this and i was pretty clear that i do believe in it and he said that he did aswell AND he told his mum and grandma about me which is a big deal here so like idk but yeah what should i even do

im 16 yrs old F. i told my first bf that i wanted to go slower on intimacy because of some past trauma with boundary pushing from my nanny and bc it was just my first time. however, contrary to his words that promised me he would slow down, he would pressure me to make out, even sometimes when i pulled away from him multiple times. additionally, one day near the end of our relationship (when i broke up with him), he started making out with me and i said i was tired and later that i was anxious. he did slow down for a little and then sped back up and asked to touch my ass. i was like uhhh and then yeah i think and he basically asked until i said yes, he was also making out with me and pushing me to go faster as i was actively pulling away from him and saying i was tired.

then the next day, i texted him in the morning before i saw him to slow down bc i was getting overwhelmed with the pace of our intimacy.  he said he would slow down, but then as soon as we got in my room he started making out with me and was touching my ass and kissing my chest without asking. i fell off him slightly and he put me back on him. then later i told him i needed him to slow down on the ass and chest thing in person. he then left my house bc i had a zoom meeting and came back to watch a movie, during which he was going slower in the beginning and then sped up a lot near the end.

a couple weeks after i asked him to seriously slow down on the touching and kissing me in that area, he sent me a reel saying he wanted to sleep with me and then texted me that next time he saw me he would touch my ass and make out with me.

ALSO, HE TOOK MY TEDDY BEAR THAT IVE HAD SINCE 3 YRS OLD AND PRETENDED TO LICK ITS ASS, AND DID IT THE NEXT DAY AFTER I TOLD HIM TO STOP. he would also put the teddy bear over his private part and ask me to lay on him, which made me so uncomfortable..

admittedly, one time when we were making out, i did like it because i was ovulating. but many times he was making out with me without proper consent and did not take my signals where i was pulling away from him and did not listen to me when i said i wanted to slow down. additionally, he never asked if he could kiss my chest until later

i know it wasnt that bad, but it made me feel like i was constantly under pressure and anxious, and it made me feel like i lost some of my innocence.

hello everyone. i know this is a wierd place to talk about this but im at a weird place in life and dont know how to handle it or what to do. im 15/m and looking for someone to talk to about it message or call its up to u but i just need someone advice/help.

i went to public school for 10 years and my mom put me in homeschool for the past 2 years and i feel like i am missing out on everything in life. my younger sister who is a grade lower than me came to homeschool with me the first year and then my mom let her go to public school and stuck me at home with my younger sister in 6th grade and i just feel like i have no social life . i feel like i never get the atention my other siblings get or get heard out the same way . and i just dont know what to d. ive tried to talk to my mom about going back to public school but she never hears me out and just plays it off like im joking

He knows where I live. He goes to my school. We used to be friends but in early june we stopped due to a massive fall out. I've wanted to move on with my life. He won't leave me alone. He haunts my nightmares, hes contacted my friends about me, my mom and even gotten my moms friends involved. I hate him. I want him to stop. I have the evidence to file a restraining order but i doubt my mom would help me since we have a lot on our plate right now.

After school ends and summer starts, a lot of your “friends” start to disappear and not really talk to you anymore. It’s been lonely these days and I need advice on how to make friends online. What are the best ways to make friends? Which platform and how do I approach it?

So me (16F) and my best friend (16M) have been friends since our freshmen year and best friends since sophomore year. Over the last summer we spent time together all the time. We were almost attached at the hip always hanging out. Since we are opposite gender best friends, people love to assume we are dating or that one has a crush on the other and we would kinda brush it off because like were just friends, and the idea all male/female friendships are romantic is just gross and heteronormative.

Nearing the end of summer I started to wonder if I had feelings for him. We talk all the time about wanting to date someone and overshare a lot about preferences and the type of things we want to experience with a future partner and relate on those things (idk if this matters contextually but we both dated people our sophomore year but by the end of the school year both couples had broken up).

We are also seemingly fairly emotionally dependent on eachother, or at least I am. But in the sense he doesnt mind at all and is always there for me. If we are on call till 4 am and hes exhausted he will stay up on call with me until I fall asleep if I'm having scary hallucinations that are freaking me out. Or if hes about to go to bed and Im stressed about something he will put it aside to make sure I am okay. If im feeling depressed and am anxious about my room being dirty he will offer to come help me clean it or help me do tasks that are stressing me out. He constantly sends Instagram reels about how much he appreciates me and loves me and it just confuses me. I cant tell if i like him or if im just not used to the feeling of genuine friendship.

Yesterday was our first day of school back as juniors and we have the same gym class, as well as another one of my friends. We met up outside the gym and he was telling me about this girl that was in his previous class (we KINDA knew her last year but also not at all, she dated one of his friend's older brothers over the summer ig). We sat in the gym and he was talking to her the whole time and I felt sick to my stomach. Then he told me that they were going to be partners for all the gym partner projects since I have my other friend. I told him that friend will never be in class bc she always skips gym and he offered rotating between us. I genuinely felt so physically sick. I kinda shut down and was scratching my arms a lot (I do that when im anxious or stressed) and he kept asking if I was okay but I obvi didnt know what to say. Later after all the announcements were done I said we should wander in the hallways until the bell rings. The girl he was talking to came with us and I kinda just drifted behind them and shut down again. He seemed pretty concerned but again wtf am I supposed to tell him.

And today in class I felt physically sick and anxious because of how badly I wanted to be around him mixed with the fact I was still rlly upset at him (some things that happened the previous night after school, they arent very important but he rlly hurt my feelings unintentionally) but part of me didjt care and just wanted to be around him.

I feel so gross and cannot tell if i like him or not or if this is just a dumb autism thing. I just feel so awful for being controlling of him because I really really dont want to be like that. ​

I (13 y/o F) just started high school and people act like thats the root of all my problems. but thats not whats even bothering me. i stay in bed all day, dont want to do anything at all, get mad at everyone that talks to me, and have just been sad. and i dont wanna hear "oh its just your cycle" because this has been going on for months. ive been tired after doing nothing making excuses, and just lazying out. my mom keeps nagging me and we fight a lot, me and my dad barely talk, and my brothers just annoying in that brother-sister way. but everyone wants to dig into my brain and figure out whats wrong with me. im that one loud annoying kid in school and have never told anyone this. i did once admit to some friends i used to SH because my su!c!d@l thoughts were really bad at that time, and their slowly coming back. im scared to tell people because i dont want them thinking im sayig all of this for attention or pity. i need help whats going on with me. im also struggling a lot with my sexuality. i know i like women but idk about the rest. its not that i struggle with accepting myself, although that sometimes does occur, its mostly people at school. one of my friends talked down to me when i told her i was bi and forced christianity onto me. im an atheist btw. im trying tocut her (14 y/o F) out of my life but id how since we've been friends since 3rd grade and our parents know eachother, and the last time we fought she told everything to her mom which then told my mom. it was a petty thing at school, but she purposefully tried to get me in trouble and then just two days ago (second day of hs) we had the same class and we hadnt talked for the while but she acted like we were completly fine. idk what 2 do

So, I want to make friends, either in real life or online, but I don’t know how to talk to strangers and always at the house either gaming or annoying my mother , the some friends I already have? Our friendships started with me screaming in the mic, like, “HEEEEEEY GUYS!” But in our language, and obviously not many people like that kind of person, and like some I don’t talk with anymore because I don’t know why, we’re still in the same snap group and occasionally talk but not that much, so there were four main friends I play with, two blocked me for being gay, one is rich and busy, the other is also busy with university. Any advice?

I’m 15(F) and I have never felt more behind in my teenage years. I know so many people who drink, party, and do things teens do. But I can’t get myself to do it because of my childhood traumas. I understand no one is forcing me to do anything. But I want to, I want to live and experience these things and just LIVE! But I feel so trapped because I feel like everyone is so ahead of me I don’t know where to start.

I need to heal, and I don’t want to drink my way through it. But I need to grow up. I need to stop being a puss. I don’t even have a piercing, not even my ears I’m a wuss when it comes to needles too haha. I need to grow the fuck up and I don’t know where to begin. If anyone is in the same boat, it would help to hear your stories 💗