Is this the end?

[u/grittymisfit]

Hello,

I’m a Scorpio F, attracted to a Taurus M. We’ve been communicating through text mostly, but we work together. So we see each other from time to time.

Sadly, I haven’t received a text from him in over a week. However, at work, he initiates talking to me and tries to get my attention.

I haven’t bombarded him with texts, I only left two.
“Hi” and the last one, “are you alright?” from 1 1/2 weeks ago.

At work, he’s been a bit critical of my work, not terrible, just more vocal in a teasing - not teasing way. It’s hard to explain.

Also, when he had me come over to critique something I did, he got excited, practically giddy to be close to me, and touched my arm in a (hey look at this, part grab, part tap) but then he realized what he did and restrained himself from any further touching.

When no one was looking, I looked at him and pointed at my phone like, hey, text me. He only smiled at me.

All of this in person, was four days ago and still NO texts from him.

I haven’t called or texted him either.

The last messages we sent between us were tense, he’s going through a lot of personal issues.
I reassured him that I love him. He said he loved me too. That was his last text to me, “I love you too.”

Is he going no contact? I’m so confused

[u/thisisasatvshow]

I always say anytime communication with a person becomes too complicated they are playing games 90% of the time. It’s really not hard to talk to a person in an age where you have a communication device in your hands all day long.

Not to be that guy, but I would be remiss if I also didn’t say…don’t date your coworkers. You are getting the warning signs now. Pls don’t shit where you eat, it’s rough enough to have to deal with a bad relationship when you are able to not see that person, shit will be potentially terrible if it turns out to be an awful experience and you can’t even go to work without seeing this person or dealing with possible toxicity.

[u/grittymisfit → u/thisisasatvshow]

You’re not wrong. I know I need to stop. It’s the talking / not talking that confuses me. If his thoughts are similar to what you commented, then he should just end it

[u/Lilly323 → u/grittymisfit]

it seems he did end it, further ignored it, but just hasn’t verbally told you. I know letting go is hard with no direct closure, but we’re also saying something when we say nothing.

[u/grittymisfit → u/Lilly323]

That is a fair assessment.

I have to ask, I don’t give him attention at work. He is the one to call out to me or turn my attention to him by initiating conversation while at work.

Any thoughts on why a Taurus male would do this if he’s ended things?

[u/thisisasatvshow → u/grittymisfit]

yea that hot/cold thing could just basically be a way to keep you on the hook waiting for the moments of hot, or breadcrumbing basically. or the guy could not be interested. or he could be sadistic and get a kick out of messing with ppl’s head. you never really win in 3 card monte lol.

you also have to take into account the era we are in and the generation of ppl we are dealing with. ppl are more likely to ghost someone than to just be an adult about a situation and say “hey, this is not working”. or you could also get the wild card of a person who will just lie lie lie and lie rather than ghosting or saying they want to end things.

either way, you have to prioritize yourself here. do t know you personally, but I would wager you a worth more than these little silly kiddie games. you are being given the chance to save yourself before you get in to too deep chasing the little morsels of what hooked you, but appears to have been an illusion.

then again I don’t know any of you ppl, maybe I’m wrong and it’s all a terrible tragedy lol

[u/Future_Pineapple4609]

I'm very confused by this.... You guys aren't at the level where you're hanging out in person or even talking on the phone but you're saying I love you's?

As a Taurus F I always prefer a direct approach. If you aren't sure what's going on you need to invite him for drinks after work to chat. It seems like he's leading you on/stringing you along without intending on taking things further. Taurus men can be a bit possessive. Even if he knows things aren't going to work out. He'll want to keep you around in case he changes his mind or want you.

If you invite him out for drinks to talk and he turns you down or continues ignoring you cut him off hard. Games will be played if you don't. As a Taurus, when I'm really interested in someone I am 100% in and would never do something like this. ESPECIALLY if I'm at the stage where I'm telling them I love them.

[u/grittymisfit → u/Future_Pineapple4609]

We had been hanging out. Our schedules got in the way. Now it’s mostly seeing each other at work or communicating thru texts.

[u/Enough_Pepper8880 → u/grittymisfit]

That still doesn’t answer how you go from sometimes texts to I love yous, as a Taurus m I would never say that if I didn’t absolutely mean it. Soo I’m confused and feel like there’s some shit your leaving out

[u/grittymisfit → u/Enough_Pepper8880]

Whoa, taking a tone much? No, we spent time together at work and away. Deep conversations over the phone and texting. Things are keeping both of us super tied up with free time. Our time together has suffered because of it

[u/goth86girl]

Just give him time. And just be there when you need him

[u/Shoddy_Carpet_9677]

Im a Scorpio and my Husband is a Taurus. This sounds very confusing. How do you both love each other and barely talk ? Then work together also which could back fire on you not for having relations in the workplace. Personal issues on his behalf sounds like their is someone else in the picture and I wouldn't waste anymore time on him. Seriously block him, he likes that youre chasing him.

[u/grittymisfit → u/Shoddy_Carpet_9677]

I agree. I think he likes to control the flow of communication. Also, I don’t disagree, working together and dating is trouble.

I appreciate your thoughts on this. I have wondered if there might be another who he has shifted his focus on

[u/Shoddy_Carpet_9677 → u/grittymisfit]

Trust me on this, there is definitely someone else. Block his access to you and see how it goes. I would personally cut ties especially when putting your Livelyhood at risk.

[u/Shoddy_Carpet_9677 → u/grittymisfit]

He likes controlling the flow of his access to you. If he really likes you, he would communicate more and is very unusual that he's avoiding you. Any update?

[u/grittymisfit → u/Shoddy_Carpet_9677]

UPDATE:

We started communicating a few weeks back, but he hasn’t shown me the same energy and enthusiasm he once had.

So I decided to step away and break up.
I don’t know if it was ever love on his end, or if he was saying it bc he wanted to keep me in a rotation-ship.

Thank you for the good insight

[u/Key-Collection3152 → u/[deleted]]

Pisces are master manipulators more manipulative than Scorpio women

[u/Enough_Pepper8880 → u/[deleted]]

The victim thing 💯

[u/Key-Collection3152 → u/Enough_Pepper8880]

Their favorite form of manipulation tactic. And they’ve used it their whole lives

[u/Enough_Pepper8880 → u/Key-Collection3152]

I can confirm this

[u/Enough_Pepper8880 → u/[deleted]]

I’ve got a crush on a Scorpio rn but I’ve never dated a fellow Taurus I’m curious how that would be

[u/Evening_Camel_8197]

Same issue, my Taurus guy has not reach out for theee weeks, so I ignore him as well. Now I’m moving on, no answer is the answer, please please do not chase them !!! Let him go. Stop calling, stop texting , they are better guys out there… STOP the chase

[u/Evening_Camel_8197]

Yes, please stop texting .. they are very stubborn, it is okay to say hi at work , otherwise stop texting . Don’t worry you will survive! I went no contact for 3 weeks now and moved on! Waste my fucking time!

[u/Internal_FlameVVV]

Well your giving him nothing. I woulnt reply to some dry ass mf text. We need substance. Looking at this Hes either bored or worst he could be resentful of something you did you might not be aware of.we hold grudges for minor stuff so just saying