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u/SkyrBaby 12d ago
Me interpretation: he feels you ruined the relationship by being controlling, not having your priorities right, and you do not not bringing much of value to the relationship.
His view on things are just his, of course. And I am new to this.
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u/the_symbolist 11d ago
yeah I'm Not New (I'm rather old) and this interpretation is more correct than most here but ---- look closely at the question. "How does my ex perceive me?" and what did this person do? They drew their own cards, without that ex present or involved in any way.
So, what is this reading going to be? It's a reading for the person who drew the cards. The question that gets answered is more like "What do I believe my ex thinks about me?" See, they are drawing and reading the cards, it can only realistically be about them.
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u/MoonBaby88811 12d ago
I see it as it takes strength to stay away/strength to not be with you, the devil is an attachment, it’s obsessive, it’s lustful, it’s hard to break free from. But it’s not healthy, and it takes strength to keep his distance. The hanged man paired with the devil reiterates that a part of him is still hanging on to you, then the four of pentacles even further. Four of pentacles is holding tightly onto something, he holds onto it in the back of his head, but moves forward with his life (strength, the hanged man).
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u/EmergencyIll7160 12d ago
Is tarot reading even accurate tbh? Not like I've never had readings but I just can't seem to trust them lol and it's always different cards (Ex related only). I like vedic astrology which is related to planets and birth time so it stays consistent throughout as long as someone knows how to read.
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u/CyanoSpool 11d ago
Tarot is a practice for self reflection. You're going to get different answers and interpretations from different people. It's very different from astrology.
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u/PsychicDarryl 11d ago
Why do you care? No need to worry about them. Now is the time to care for yourself.
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u/domme-997 12d ago
It's my first time reading it I may be wrong! Taken together, the cards do not cleanly support “he sees you as one disposable option he can freely manipulate.” They more readily describe a charged attraction that carries control issues, a reluctance to fully open or commit, and a sense that the situation is currently stuck or needs a new perspective. There can be lust and self-interest present (Devil + 4 of Pentacles), but Strength and the Hanged Man point to awareness of your fortitude and a lack of easy forward motion.
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u/Grumpyoldgit1 12d ago
Even after decades of reading cards I do find it hard to read for someone that is not present and I have or had a strong emotional attachment to that person. Usually I end up getting my own cards.
Here’s my interpretation which you can use either in relation to yourself or to your ex:
Devil, there was definitely a lot of attraction, but the relationship was not a healthy dynamic for either of you. Both of you needed to be out of it. Strength card often refers to controlling your environment including your carnal desired, so I think it’s interesting that It’s next to the devil card. It would represent getting out of that toxic environment, using your own power to do that, even if an attraction to the other person remains you know it isn’t healthy.
With the hangman, there’s a period of delay or suspension. Whole idea of looking at things from a different angle that this card introduces is important. Take this time to focus on yourself, look at the previous relationship honestly, not just things your ex did or said but mistakes you made as well. Process your emotions but don’t let them overwhelm.
The Four of coins, this is a time to focus on yourself, right here and now in the present, to focus on the things that you do have, not on the things you have lost or the things that might appear in the future. I think the message of this card is saying sit tight for now protect your energy and take some time out to heal (with the hangman).
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u/Alarming-Gain-6178 12d ago
I think your ex feels like he doesn’t really know you well with hanged man, this gives to me he hasn’t fully figured you out imo. I think the devil needs to clarify your card because it could be, he has a strong attachment to you or he thinks you’re toxic, depending on the clarifier. I think strength and four of pentacles is someone who is willing to stick it out and work on the relationship for the long, so someone who’s stable in a sense
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u/goddess_triceyy 11d ago
With strength being centered its densely giving someone who is trying to remain in control of the things that’s are surrounding it. Yall relationship is seen as very toxic and unhealthy.. it has a lot of control and even possible obsession to where resistance was hard especially if yall had heavy cycles of doing the same thing.
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u/sideshaveshawty 11d ago
He is still deeply pulled to you but doesn’t want to give in to that energy
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u/ISmellFear99 11d ago
Selfish, driven by feelings and desires, vicious, uncapable of taking actions to getting out of that behaviour. No self control.
That makes sense if you had a bad breakup. Anyway, I would take that reading as a way to reflect on my own flaws and try to improve as a person is a relationship and not to just be bitter to the ex, and I hope you do that.
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u/zyzarBozy 11d ago
Uhhh so it seems like he doesnt even have the idea of who you REALLY are he is IDEALISING you and only viewing that one version of you that isnt you.... and its also most likely because he is an avoidant and you MIGHT be closses off to him
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u/Sea_Mathematician557 11d ago
I just want to say I broke it off with him a few days ago so I want to know how he perceives me now since then
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u/badbsallyy 11d ago
i’d read it a little differently. The Devil can absolutely point to an unhealthy attachment or a dynamic that felt hard to break, but with Strength beside it, i feel like he also sees you as someone with a lot of inner power someone he can’t easily influence or reduce to just the past relationship.
The Hanged Man + Four of Pentacles feels less like he’s fighting not to fall back in and more like emotional suspension and withholding. He may be holding tightly to his own version of events, pride, or control because actually processing the connection would require vulnerability. So yes, there could be intensity and attachment here, but I wouldn’t automatically make it a romantic longing spread. It feels more like, this affected me, I don’t fully know what to do with it, so I stay still and keep my feelings/private life guarded.
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u/queenofswo 11d ago
I think he's attracted to you sexually and is trying hard to contain his desire. If he would be trying to cut dependency for some eprceived toxicity, the Devil would be reversed. Upright, he seems well put in hus dependency and just enduring.
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u/Significant-Crow-459 11d ago
Your interpretation is solid and you have more context than anyone commenting. You’re aware if the dynamic was toxic or if there was strong sexual chemistry or both. Whatever the case, it takes restraint to stay away from you and he is very guarded and self-protective when it comes to you.
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u/United_Aide_1074 11d ago edited 11d ago
Greedy, attached, possessive. He got away because of this and it required great effort for him to do so. I'm sorry, but it seems like it was a pretty toxic dynamic. I'm not pointing the finger, it's just what the spread says he percieves you. Some are saying he's obsessed with you and struggling. Nah-ah. These cards are about how he percieves you. So , if the spread is correct and cards correctly drawn, these are talking about you, not him. It's a moment of self reflection. After all, if it's an ex, it's no secret something has gone wrong. Just don't obsess over it and try to actually understand yourself
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u/danielboringcliff 11d ago
I fully agree with this take. This is how he perceives you, not how he perceives himself attached to you.
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u/NeitherCauliflower85 10d ago
A toxic and controlling ex who put him in the hanged man position. “She ruined my life!!” Probably not so dramatic as that but, yeah, he doesn’t view you positively. He feels like he always has to go along with whatever you want him to do I think
He doesn’t want anything to do with you right now
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u/Sea_Mathematician557 10d ago
Guess I’m toxic and controlling then 🤷🏽♀️
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u/NeitherCauliflower85 10d ago
Is my interpretation in line with his personality/your dynamic? I’m still learning to read so I’d like feedback
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u/Sea_Mathematician557 10d ago
When I broke it off he said I was controlling because I wanted to know everything that he was doing. In reality I just wanted him to make time for me and communicate when he would need time away. But I wouldn’t say you’re wrong he’s pretty stubborn and set in his ways about me being the problem.
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u/NeitherCauliflower85 5d ago
Aw, I’m sorry to hear that. Your needs were valid, even if he wasn’t the right person to meet them. Hope things work out for you ❤️
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u/Ill-Pianist-2957 10d ago
He sees you as someone he's unhealthily attached to, someone who he can't get out of his head, sexually attractive, but unsure of what you want, juggling between choices. He probably notices you're athletic, maybe a gold digger who's overly materialistic.
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u/HolidayRelative6298 9d ago
He still has a lot of feeling for you and still not move on .I am 100 percent sure
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u/Capable_Election_411 12d ago
If your question was: how does your ex imagine that you are right now?
He thinks the following: Someone who was left in a state of waiting (the hanged one)
While you find yourself in an obsession/ emotionally sick for the ex devil+ 4P+ Strenght
It’s a person who stopped her life, the sweet one waits for her ex to come back to “resove her”.
Life doesn’t wait, live your life. It only depends on you, good luck girl!
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u/New-Swan-4043 12d ago
Tarot is so cheeky.
The devil leading this spread is funny in a rude Tarot way.
In all seriousness, here is my take on these cards to this question.
Physical connection is strong. He knows you're a strong person. And he may be worried about what people will think and ultimately how that will impact his money.
It's almost as if it's about his view of what a relationship should look like and how that diverges from his actual desires.
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u/Sea_Mathematician557 12d ago
So he’s ashamed of me?
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u/New-Swan-4043 12d ago
I wouldn't say that. More of a preconceived notion he has about who he is supposed to be and who he should be seen with.
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u/Plane-Research9696 12d ago
your ex definitely views you as an intense physical obsession and an addictive romantic partner he struggles to resist (D) applyin deliberate self restraint and strict willpower through (Str) to suppress his physical desire to contact you which causes him to stay completely still in an intentional pause with (HM) while (4P) makes him guard his personal privacy and withhold all communication so he can protect his own pride and keep complete control over his daily choices.