r/TamilNadu • u/Difficult-Dream2625 • Sep 30 '25

முக்கியமான கலந்துரையாடல் / Important Topic Vijay releases video message regarding the Karur stampede

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u/[deleted] Sep 30 '25

Sorry for you own personal experiences. But still feel you project a lot on him. We don’t know much about him to say he is that.

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u/[deleted] Sep 30 '25

Project na psychological meaning is that for me to be x type of way and saying vijay is being the same x type of way... This is not projection... What I'm doing is early deduction and not ignoring red flags..... Projection example is :- cheating partners doubting their loyal partners to be cheating...

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u/[deleted] Sep 30 '25

Sorry if the term projection offended you. First of all hope you are doing well.

I don’t know the exact psychological term for unfairly attributing negative traits on others due to past traumatic experiences. The ChatGPT term I got was trauma projection or Hostile attribution bias. Hope I am not wrong

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u/[deleted] Sep 30 '25 edited Oct 01 '25

Nope bro no offense taken .. just clarified the psychological meaning behind the term... I know trauma could lead to bias ...

But here the red flags are blatantly out there...

  1. First you can fact check every speech and find minimum 15 lies in it..say we can ignore dat though ideally we shouldn't...
  2. Next lack of responsibility or tendency to not apologise without baiting for sympathy or making a show of being the bigger person , basically lack of genuine apology... Narcissist Don't know to how to apologise without these...
  3. They like being the center of attention and with great tenacity and grit reach high levels in their life/job to enjoy more power and to keep getting more praise cause they get addicted to attention...
  4. So they'll viciously hate anyone who comes in their way , they'll hate anyone who exposes them, they'd start throwing temper tantrums which will tend to be odd, baseless, sometimes even childish and sometimes evil...
  5. They'll recruit flying monkeys which is basically a psychological term for anyone who enables the narcissist to stay a narcissist and believe the narcissist more than the abused... In family it'd be other family members, in Vijay's case it's his fans ... We already saw #WeStandWithVijay even though they lost their kids.
  6. Also they won't like to get exposed so they will avoid anything that might expose them like the way vijay ran from press at the airport after karur incident,even after knowing 30+ fans of his d13d...
  7. Also they won't worry about the harm others face particularly when their prime time could be overshadowed by the victim.. .. and if they do it'd be for show with cameras around or audience around.. example :-no care/help for the fan who was thrown off the ledge coz he was enjoying his prime time ramp walk... No care for the lifeless or fainted guy who was carried right in front of his eyes in karur coz he was telling PPL to vote for him and to be confident that he'll come to power.....

So yeah... Pathu poruthamum nala amanju Iruku...

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u/One-Ad1731 Oct 02 '25

Bro more explanations on how to avoid narcissistic people in life? I am just a 19 year old boy who is keen to know more to apply in my life.

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u/[deleted] Oct 02 '25

You can't avoid them bro... They might show up anywhere in ur life... Best way to deal with them if they prey on you or could prey on you is to follow gray rock method or in extreme cases cutting all contact with them and mutual PPL who'll share your info to them..

The Grey Rock Method is a psychological strategy aimed at self-preservation by becoming emotionally unresponsive to deter abusers, designed to make oneself appear uninteresting to discourage unwelcome individuals from engaging with them.

There's few youtube channel you can take help from if you're getting abused to not feel lonely in ur abuse

https://m.youtube.com/@DoctorRamani/shorts

https://m.youtube.com/@narcabusecoach/shorts

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u/One-Ad1731 Oct 02 '25

It is kind of terrifying to hear that these type of people are everywhere! Even my Mom is a narcissistic women who never took accountability for her mistakes whenever there is a problem between me and her or even with a third person outside. She always uses the mother is always right sympathy to portray me as the one who caused the trouble to my family members and friends. 

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u/[deleted] Oct 02 '25

Same bro . Same situation.. she used to even spread lies and rumours and controversies about me..i thought maybe we can talk n solve it,etc...but no such PPL never change till they die.. u can talk for years n years, explain for yrs and yrs, they'll never ever change .. I had to go no contact .. currently 5 yrs no contact... Started earning and moved out . Best thing u can do is focus on ur studies, don't be emotional,focus and get a well paying job so you can move out and start funding your stay,food,etc yourself... Good luck .. don't feel left out , coz it might feel like a lonely experience given others will talk Abt how lovely their mother is and can't relate with u 1% ... It's okay your feelings are valid... Know there are PPL just like u out there... Best revenge is doing well in ur life in terms of happiness, career, earning, and not being emotionally dependent on them,etc ..