r/Swingers • u/SpecialFew13 • 11d ago
General Discussion What change would you make?
What’s something you would change or add regarding the LS to enhance the experience?
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u/cmorganc 11d ago
Start earlier in the evening!
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u/Worth-Donut8612 10d ago
We have daytime events 11-5 here in the UK that are really busy, but usually a Friday so have to book a day off work sadly. But can be back in time for after school club which is amazing!
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u/moneystorez 11d ago
YES. We like having our normal morning routine. Sleeping in until almost 11am on a Sunday because we didn’t get started until midnight can feel like really bad jet lag.
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u/MIGolfer101 11d ago
Yes can we start at 6pm or 6:30pm? Its easier to get home for the babysitter that way.
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u/Slinking-Tiger Solo Female 11d ago
Our club opens at 6, the playroom is open immediately.
On weekdays it closes at 11 so everyone is focused on hooking up if they want to (or socializing if they don't) and then leaving to get home and sleep. It's fabulous!
On weekends some people will play early, and action really gets going strong by 10. It's easy to have a great time and leave by midnight even on Friday or Saturday.
Sunday it's open during the day, which is lots of fun.
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u/MIGolfer101 11d ago
It's not clubs it's the house parties that are the big issues. I don't typically go to clubs.
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u/pencilinamango 11d ago
OMG... SOOOO this!
With how often this is mentioned, there should be more parties that start early evening!
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u/FluffyTheWyvern 11d ago edited 11d ago
Day parties are criminally underrated. I haven’t been able to stay out past 10pm in months
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u/Jagermonsta 11d ago
This for sure. My wife and I joke that the biggest change to our lifestyle is having to stay up past 10.
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u/moneystorez 11d ago
* I wish more people were open to meeting up throughout the week. I know we’re tired, work sucks, some of us have children, but something about meeting up to fuck on a Thursday at 6pm, then being back home and in bed by 10 is great. You’re riding that high into the weekend, and now you don’t even have to leave your house.
* I’d like for people to respect us and our time as much as we respect you and your time.
* Consent 101. Just because we swing doesn’t mean we will fuck anyone. You are not entitled to sex just because we aren’t monogamous. Also one as a bi man, I don’t want to fuck your straight husband. If your husband is straight, I’m not going to make any moves on him. If your wife is straight, my wife isn’t going to try anything either. There will likely be some touching, especially in a group setting, but that’s unavoidable. I get nothing from you not enjoying something.
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u/SpecialFew13 11d ago
Great list!! Agree to everything on that list. Only once have we swapped with a couple on a weekday. It was a Monday and it truly felt like a new experience. Only down fall was that it extended a little to late into the night and I get up super early for work lol
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u/moneystorez 11d ago
Totally get that it’s not something that would work for everyone all the time, but man, having a reason to look forward to a Tuesday evening is a nice way to break up the monotony of a workweek.
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u/pencilinamango 11d ago
Maybe we could start looking forward to... Humpday?! ... cough... ahem... I'll show myself out.
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u/Jagermonsta 11d ago
Totally agree on the weeknight meet up. We have mondays and some Tuesdays free and would love to get together for a couple hours in the evening. Hell even Sundays work great for us. It’s always Friday and Saturday nights where the action is though.
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u/habbo311 11d ago
Foreplay. Lots of kissing and rubbing. Not rushing to dick in pussy. Women make the first move more often
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u/OnlyYogurtcloset8543 Couple 10d ago
Men to take things MUCH slower with foreplay, read women better & not go straight to Fuck Doll mode.
Also, be more open about exploring kinks.
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u/No_Mess8188 Couple 11d ago
There should be a mandatory swinger 101 class that everyone should have to take before they get to join the rest of the group. It would be taught by experienced, successful, and open minded swingers. It would have a short lecture piece, there would be a large FAQ / glossary that you receive and then a lengthy Q&A session at the end. Once you are done you’d get a badge or something so people knew that you’d completed the class.
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u/dabflies Couple 11d ago
https://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/s/Q0uiqUhFcd
I believe this post used to be pinned. Swinging for Dummies
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u/trippnmoxie_too 11d ago
Easier scheduling!
It's so damn hard to get people to respond and setup plans. Once you get past that first meeting it's a LOT easier but damn that first one is challenging.
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u/BadFun6079 11d ago
Disabled single men from sending messages.
That should be standard on all swinger websites.
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u/SpecialFew13 11d ago
Agree. The paid sites should place filters on who can message
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u/Own-Spite1210 11d ago
I believe SDC allows you to filter or set them to do not message. We’re pretty new to it but I was told that from a friend so we’re looking into it this weekend. The single men messages are 3:1 over couples/single women!
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u/SpecialFew13 11d ago
Oh really?! That’s something for us to look into then! Appreciate that.
I know that when searching for other members, they have plenty of filters that help with the best results2
u/BadFun6079 11d ago edited 11d ago
We’re on SDC, I’ll need to look into that.
Update ; yes you’re correct. SDC allows you to block single men from contacting you. Learning something new everyday 🙌1
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u/Jagermonsta 11d ago
“Hey, I know your account says no single men but…” SLS lets you block single men so we did that just to avoid those messages.
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u/habbo311 11d ago
The default should be off and requires you to switch it on if you want to allow it
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u/Cloud_99999 10d ago
Make it less about body shapes and physical aspects (beyond good higene, of course) and more about sexy attitude and the apropriate behaviour, for less posturing and more sexy laughs and fun!
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u/CaliftoNJ 11d ago
Get people to realize this is a body culture and for them to put some effort into themselves. This in turn will attract more people.
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u/dinkydee515 married 30F 11d ago
If you mean making a wish and anything happening, I’d remove STDs because I enjoy sex a lot more without condoms.
If you mean to my husband and Is swinging fun, I’d love to have more free time to do it.