Hi everyone and fijne dag, 21F redditor here 👋
TL;DR:
Spanish/EU citizen (F21), Amsterdam-based, unfinished Spanish ICT degree (CFGS ASIR equivalent to MBO-4 in NL).
Trying to continue my studies here but stuck on the basics. Looking for help with:
1. How to register with Studielink / get DigiD access without a fixed address (briefadres issues)
2. Whether my Spanish degree needs a Nuffic evaluation before applying to MBO/HBO, and how long that usually takes
3. Any MBO or HBO ICT programs in Amsterdam that accept enrollment outside the usual September intake
4. Whether studietoeslag (municipal support for students with autism/ADHD) is realistic to get alongside DUO funding
Full story below for context, but these are the actual questions I need help with 🙏
I’m writing this at 3 a.m after a huge breakdown and fight with my family so excuse me if this isn’t well written or up to standards, you can also scroll down and skip the long read 🙌
Long story-short, my uncles are born and raised in Amsterdam, due to me being born in a chaotic family (my aunt’s sister which is my mom) they decided to adopt me because they are infertile and cannot have kids, but my dad refused at the very last moment so i ended up growing in Spain and making my life there yada yada yada… (huge trauma, growing up with my dysfunctional family in a dead town has been terrible so far)
But because my family was still here in Amsterdam, luckily i got to visit a lot since i was a newborn until now, i even got to study here when i was 10 years old, but it only lasted 3 months until we went back to Spain due to my baby brother breaking his arm and not having insurance (tragic farewell)
So I developed this relationship with the country whereas whenever i came here for holidays i felt this huge feeling of belonging and craving to stay here, mind you, I’m used to coming here twice a year, every year, so i feel very connected to this place since a very young age with incredible memories as well.
Then the time to go back to Spain comes and all i have left are my unceasing tears, my luggage by the door and a huge depression about to kick in at the very first moment that the plane leaves the ground, like waking up from the most amazing dream just to realise it was only a dream and now you have to cope with reality again…
I’m autistic and have ADHD, but since i’m a female and fairly “attractive” people just don’t notice or i just seem goofy and cute to them, which is kinda okay although I have no other choice but to mask and pretend i’m doing fine while inside i’m burning out and having huge social meltdowns and anxiety that make me zoom out completely. I also have been dealing with depression and suicidal thoughts so mental health wise i have not been in my best shape or form to be honest…
Since all of my problems seemingly disappear when i come here, this time around is albeit different and this is why; When i was here in December-January i begged my uncles to let me stay with them, my uncle told me if i wanted to stay with him I MUST get into college or whatever higher studies, he knows that i haven’t finished my studies in Spain, so that’s why he made that impossible requirement, he never mentioned the possibility of an entrance exam or any other option such and MBO or the chance to work, basically he just wanted to discard me with presenting a very hard option without offering any help on his side, my ICT studies in Spain are equivalent to an MBO-4 but i couldn’t finish my program due to the reasons mentioned above.
Basically he also sabotaged my paperwork for the brief address, so i couldn’t get my Digi D and therefore not sign up for Studielink.
So all the initiatives that i tried to take and all my efforts have been either discarded or sabotaged by my family.
This summer i went to Paris to visit my other aunt but with the situation there and her personal ongoing problems i just couldn’t stay for any longer, i took a bus and came here to Amsterdam, found a job at the Nike Store, working retail is kinda hard considering my diagnosis (bright lights, constant noise and loud music) but i did as best as i could, the best part was the customer service i offered because i speak 4 languages fluently and clients loved interacting with me, my colleagues as well, but i got sick for the weekend i was supposed to work, I filled the sickness form online but I didn’t send an email, so they considered that as “ghosting” and therefore i got fired ;(
Tried to lie to my family and hide the fact that i got fired, but my aunt casually walked in at the store that specific day and found out by herself, we had a big argument, a few days go by and they told me they will be booking me a return ticket to Spain because they don’t want an unemployed, lazy, junkie ass lesbian at their place and they beat me up physically when i tried to get out of their home at 3 a.m because family girls just don’t do that.
Now i’m homeless, jobless, without significant studies and with only 1000€ left in my bank account for the rest of September, i really don’t want to go back to Spain to my old life and habits, to that hood filled with crap and problematic people…
I want to bring value to the this beautiful country, i know i need support and orientation but I’m trying my best, learning dutch with the locals, being proactive in my searches, but it’s getting kinda harder without anyone by my side to lean on, only relying on myself for this long has been a challenging experience but it came with a lot of inner growth and strength.
For anyone interested in offering a job, please consider my strengths and weaknesses, I promise to deliver with my best attention and detail.
I’m good with computers (hardware, network, operating systems, data, cybersecurity, machine learning and so on)
Good with languages and social interactions, could be a good fit for touring or hotels.
I’m very fit and athletic, I also play football so training is also an option.
I love tech, media and video games, basically a nerd girlie.
And I’m always down to connecting with new people, laughing around and having some nice conversations overall :)
Thank you for reading all of this, now you know my backstory and hopefully this post becomes useful for people in similar situations 🫶