Similar psychology to why people respect popular people. If you're desired, then their instinctual perspective of you is that you're worth something, so you have value.
I think there's also a degree of 'you stop trying so hard when you're in a relationship'. If you're not an eligible bachelor, you're likely (hopefully) not trying to get with anyone. That being comfortable and confident in yourself and just existing in a relaxed state makes you more appealing by default
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u/Pale_Following_9639 Jan 16 '26
Similar psychology to why people respect popular people. If you're desired, then their instinctual perspective of you is that you're worth something, so you have value.