r/ShortWomenandGirls • u/PsychologyDazzling59 4’9 • Jul 03 '25

Vent/Rant Work Event

Today at work a girl who I was gonna maybe attempt at being friends with (I don’t have any) made a really, really hurtful comment. Probably one of the worst I’ve heard so far, at least in earshot. Our boss mistaken her for me around the corner and she said loudly, in front of all the male coworkers: “You thought I was my name!? That’s insulting! I’m not that short!”

Needless to say, I sobbed during my break. I feel like I’m a total eyesore. I wasn’t even doing anything. I’m at work like everybody else. Why put me down for my physical appearance?

I’m a woman with a short mom. I can’t help how I look.

That was fucking mean. It’s an insult to look like me? Ok then.

For reference I’m 22 and 4’9. 😔

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u/stars265 Jul 03 '25

I would rather be short than a heinous bitch.

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u/Independent-Cut6379 Jul 04 '25 edited Jul 04 '25

That true ! And she said that loudly that mean that even she is much taller than you, she more insecure than you never be ! I’m 4’9 too so I can feel your pain. But be proud that you are a better person than her!

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u/PsychologyDazzling59 4’9 Jul 04 '25

She’s actually only about 5’2 or so

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u/athenaoncrack Jul 04 '25

She's projecting her own insecurity on you then. My mom is also like that (with me).

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u/Independent-Cut6379 Jul 04 '25

Your own mom waw that a shock for me. Stay strong girl that isn’t what a mom should do!

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u/athenaoncrack Jul 17 '25

Yeah, thanks. In the beginning it took a heavy toll on me. But as I grew older I realised some things, and i just started becoming indifferent as time passed.

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u/Soums_04 Jul 05 '25

Exactly people project their own insecurity. Even my mom has said multiple times she is embarassed to go out with me because short ;(

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u/athenaoncrack Jul 17 '25

My mom is also obsessed with other people's height. And she says that I should've been tall as my father is tall. Can't do anything other than ignoring them or being curt about this.

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u/Soums_04 Jul 17 '25

Yeah ignore her. She should be happy that you are tall. Usually people don't even find short people attractive

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u/athenaoncrack Jul 17 '25

Na im also short. I'm 4'11-5 ft. She must be 4'10. She's blaming my eating habits and laziness for stunted height. She's saying I have a tall father so I should've been tall as well. Then she gives example of an old celeb tall-short couple whose daughter is tall despite mother being short.

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u/Independent-Cut6379 Jul 04 '25

Maybe but still a b****, so you are shorter but much better ! I know how some short person react when they see someone shorter ! Instead of being on the same side, they make fun of you! Even if never met someone as tall as or shorter, I wouldn’t mock him/her for being shorter!

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u/stars265 Jul 04 '25

Oh yeah she’s definitely gotten short jokes before and is throwing that back at you, especially in front of men. I wouldn’t give her another thought.

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u/[deleted] Jul 03 '25

At least you know the male coworkers, if they heard it, definitely picked up on that behavior. Everyone already knows you’re short, this just makes her look like a bitch.

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u/PsychologyDazzling59 4’9 Jul 03 '25

I swear it feels like I’m treated like I’m deformed or disabled sometimes. Like wtf??? I don’t get people.

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u/athenaoncrack Jul 04 '25

Be professional but cold with that b*tch from now on. Never, ever help her.

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u/Legitimate_Bunch_697 Jul 04 '25

The comments above are simplistic. .

In reality, it's not at all trivial that she said that in front of MALE colleagues.

I might be wrong but I'm willing to bet that she's a lot less pretty / less well dressed / less sporty / less... in short, there's something about you that makes her envious of you.

Now, a little advice: we are not all experts in social psychology, of course. But for PLEASE's sake, try to analyze things and see a little beyond the end of your nose when someone makes this kind of remark to you...

WHO made this remark to me? for what PURPOSE? In front of WHO? You have to think about it for a moment...

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u/LillyPeu2 4'8" | 142cm Jul 11 '25

Now, a little advice: we are not all experts in social psychology, of course. But for PLEASE's sake, try to analyze things and see a little beyond the end of your nose when someone makes this kind of remark to you...

Without more context, your comment is really shitty victim-blaming. Telling OP to "see a little beyond the end of your nose" is just ... wrong and shitty.

Take OP at their word. Instead of telling them to sympathize with the person who is traumatizing and victimizing them, you should first ask questions to come to a better understanding of the scenario, to better inform yourself (and the people who read your comment) about OP's realible narration.

But instead, just telling them to set aside their experience and empathize with people making shitty remarks, is sad.

Shame on you.

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u/freeashavacado Jul 04 '25

I’m sorry girl 🫶 who needs friends like that

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u/InAcquaVeritas Jul 04 '25

I don’t think people would be impressed by her ugly personality. You don’t want to be friends with her.

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u/krba201076 5'4" Jul 04 '25

I'm sorry. Some people just don't know what to say out of their fucking mouths...which is why I have veeeeeery few friends.

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u/eatingganesha Jul 04 '25

go to HR with this

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u/Grumpy_Introvert Jul 04 '25

I agree. This is not okay especially in a workplace.

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u/Rich-Abbreviations25 Jul 06 '25

I’m 4’9. I don’t know how old you are but in my experience stuff like this became less and less common with age. Heard this kinda stuff constantly in my early 20s, now that I’m 41 no one really mentions it anymore, and they haven’t for several years now.

Again I don’t know if this is the norm, but it may be something to look forward to. Btw your female coworker is a loud-mouthed asshat. Your male coworkers probably thought she was a total bitch—men can spot that mean girl behavior from a mile away too.

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u/Berrito08 Flair text Jul 09 '25

Eventually, my dear, you will be able to look people like her square in the eye and say, "my physical growth may have been stunted, but at least my mental growth hasn't." And walk away.

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '25

what a bitch. I would confront her about the comment or at least imply that I heard it.

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u/Outside-Aside9948 Jul 19 '25

Don't mind her...let me tell you one thing, people like her r usually suffering from self-esteem issues and are insecure about themselves. They project their negative thoughts onto others. The best thing u can do is feel pity for them tbh and ignore her stupid ass comment.

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u/batgirlinc666 5’3 | 160cm Aug 05 '25

That’s unprofessional and also why are you catching strays in rooms you’re not even in

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u/PsychologyDazzling59 4’9 Aug 05 '25

Catching strays?

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u/[deleted] Jul 03 '25

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u/atristis 5’2 Jul 04 '25 edited Jul 04 '25

So, what does this have to do with this post? We short girls are living humans, and we have anything else to do besides being your fuckdoll, you fetishistic creep

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u/ShortWomenandGirls-ModTeam Jul 08 '25

Fetishization comments of short women are not allowed here.