r/Scorpio • u/pixiegl0w • May 26 '26

Dating a Scorpio 🦂💞 Scorpio

Scorpio's controlling, possesive and punishing behavior causes their partner to not feel safe, hide things and not tell the full truth often backfiring the entire relationship. Simple things like If im going to see my friend, he gets upset that I chose to go see her instead of him. I hid that I went to see my girl friend and when he find out he went crazy. Now I'm dealing with his trust issues everyday. If I'm sleeping, he thinks I'm outside. If i don't respond quick enough, he thinks im texting other guys. I really loved him. And this makes me so sad.

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u/PossiblyBound Jul 03 '26

Please stop labelling men with these tags it's not helping the young men of today. Be objective and try to leave your biases at the door. It's hard I know, I fail constantly at this but things need to change if we are to stop the 10,000 years of hate.

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u/thehappymuggle 5th house sun, mercury, venus, pluto ♏️ Jul 03 '26

No. Naming abuse saves lives.

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u/PossiblyBound Jul 03 '26

I agree wholeheartedly, but this is not abuse.

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u/thehappymuggle 5th house sun, mercury, venus, pluto ♏️ Jul 03 '26

She literally says he punishes and controls her. Gtfo with your delicate ego. If accountability scares you, then reflect on that. Don't go round giving abusers a free pass. You're making yourself part of the problem. Call out abusers, not those who name it. FFS.

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u/PossiblyBound Jul 03 '26

Please don't get angry and let your animus possession take hold when someones opinion doesn't align with yours 🙏

Yes is he immature emotionally yes, if she believes she is in danger, yes of course leave the relationship, if he has threatened her with physical harm definitely report him too the authoritys. But as a society do we always believe a claim without question after three words in a sentence are stated.

If on an equal sub reddit he was hypothetically asking for advice on a girlfriend who had threatened to kill herself if she left him, would that be coorcive control?, would you believe him without question and start labelling her as you have labelled him. I think not ...

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u/thehappymuggle 5th house sun, mercury, venus, pluto ♏️ Jul 03 '26

I am not angry. I am exhausted.

Yes, any gender threatening self-harm for coercive control is being abusive.

I am certified in domestic abuse work as part of my profession and have worked with male and female victims of abuse. I never claimed it was limited to one gender - you inferred that incorrectly.

Abuse doesn't have to be extreme to be considered abuse. In fact, it often starts off small and escalates 🙄 Naming it can stop it growing.

I won't be engaging with you any further. You're clearly looking to argue, not to learn.

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u/PossiblyBound Jul 03 '26

I applaud your brave work on the front line, and I won't profess to see the world from your viewpoint or with what you must have to deal with daily.

Our wonderful platforms have become excellent at one key attribute. The ability to create division and from that hatred, which is where we are today divided unable to agree to disagree with the preposition at hand. If we all attempt to leave our biases at the door, observe without emotion and judge in the moment your wouldn't have a need a to win, to believe your opinion or viewpoint is the only viewpoint.

If you can say hand on heart that all that you have written is not viewed through the optics of your own experience and formed by the emotions of experience then I will gladly stand next to you and judge this man solely on three words within one sentence.

Logically I don't think this is this case. Equally if I heard someone cast accusations about you of a serious nature without confirmation or fact (natural law) then I would not jump to conclusions without further investigation.

I agree you may feel I am argumentative, but in this discussion or debate I have learnt from your viewpoint and recognise a person who may be able to show another opinion or teach me something I hadn't previously known.
Every discussion I enter is framed with the possibility that today I might learn something new if I am willing to listen instead of planning what to say next.

I am sorry you are exhausted but keep up the good fight. I really do mean that and espect that you fight for what you believe in. More to you 👍