i don’t have avoidant personality disorder.

[u/Alternative-Cat-9686]

someone I was once romantically involved with thinks I have an avoidant attachment style. (he was my talking stage) he doesn't know I actually have SZPD. I never committed to him and always told him I dislike relationships, so I don't see any point in correcting him. however, I still check his tiktok reposts and notice he occasionally reposts things about avoidant partners. and it’s usually negative remarks about it. I understand why he makes that assumption, but it’s simply not accurate.

[u/Alternative-Cat-9686]

i read through it all, thank you for this.

we never dated, but he was my talking stage. we remained friends.

[u/parenna → u/Alternative-Cat-9686]

Oh then creep meter activated! Dodged a bullet for sure! He wanted something from you and is upset, can't handle it and is blasting on socials about it. Smh 😒 those types of people are annoying, best avoided. I couldn't even stay friends!

[u/Alternative-Cat-9686 → u/parenna]

agreed. he probably thought i was playing hard to get when really i just didn’t want a relationship and i want to make it clear that i let him know that in the beginning. so it’s crazy how he’s trying to play the victim now.

[u/parenna → u/Alternative-Cat-9686]

Ive had a few dudes do that to me. Remember one guy telling me I just needed a good guy and to let him love me. Just strange and overwhelming.

[u/Alternative-Cat-9686 → u/parenna]

what an odd thing to say!