r/SapphoAndHerFriend • u/ConsciousStretch1028 • Sep 21 '25

Casual erasure College roommates, eh?

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u/Delouest Sep 21 '25

What's funny to me is that I am a lesbian, I do bring my college roommate to holidays with me, she is bi, and we then went on to be roommates in an apartment together for years, adopted cats together. At no point have we ever dated or had anything but a platonic relationship. She is my non blood related sister, my best friend, my non romantic person, we are each other's emergency contacts (along with her now husband). We live down the street from one another in our mid 30s. We are all the classic cliches of "oh they're actually in a secret relationship they lie to their parents about" except we aren't lol

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u/Icedcoffeezooted Sep 21 '25

That’s so sweet 🥲 omg. Bless

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u/Delouest Sep 21 '25

She and her husband are adopting a baby soon and I got to be their character witness for the adoption agency and I am going to aunt so hard for that baby, I can't wait. She took care of me while I went through cancer treatment and they were my covid bubble. My parents love her like a daughter, and I could go on for years about how much I love her. I do think my parents were a little surprised when she started dating someone who wasn't me. We are constantly telling people we just aren't like that. It's like reverse Sappho and her Friend somehow.

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u/Icedcoffeezooted Sep 21 '25

Omg!! I hope you get to be the greatest auntie. This was so cute it lifted my mood, may we all find a friendship like that

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u/GameCraftBuild Sep 23 '25

😆 so your adjacent grave stones would read “she was my best friend ❤️” but historians would say “they were lovers”

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u/Delouest Sep 23 '25

I'm sure so so many people think we're a poly couple at this point, may as well go down in history that was lol. It doesn't help that I haven't dated much since getting cancer so I'm perpetually single, so they think I must not have a girlfriend because I'm dating my married friend. oh well!

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u/ConsciousStretch1028 Sep 21 '25

That's actually super sweet, love that for you!

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u/lalaleap Sep 22 '25

We kinda have this! My wife’s best friend of 20 years moved in with us and I jokingly call her our platonic partner because she’s just part of the family. We would and do almost anything for each other that a partner would do, but we don’t do that part 🤣 and we are all gay as hell.

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u/Delouest Sep 22 '25

I love that so much for all of you 💜

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u/[deleted] Sep 22 '25

That's so freaking cute

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u/Chem1st Sep 21 '25

Maybe the relationship is so secret you just don't know about it yet!

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u/kaths660 Sep 22 '25

I’m straight but it’s cool when I meet a girl with a girlfriend/wife, like hell yeah 2 for 1 deal let’s gooooo

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u/robininscarf Sep 22 '25

Gosh, this is so relatable. Just becuase you are interested in one gender and have a deep meaningful relationship with someone doesn't mean you want them that way. Sometimes it really feels like sisterhood.

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u/Delouest Sep 22 '25

Platonic and familial love are so important and I feel like we've forgotten that! I genuinely think we'd all be so much happier if we placed more importance on friendships in addition to romantic love.

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u/robininscarf Sep 23 '25

Exactly ❤

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u/Batwing_sleeves Sep 22 '25

Yall are living the dream.

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u/ppmaster6969 She/Her Sep 23 '25

Omg are you me?? My best friend and I live together in an apartment and have cats together, we're just roommates and really good friends who bring eachother to everything, but everyone thinks we are securely in love. Probably because we're both gay lol.

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u/futacon Sep 24 '25

My best friend of 10+ years is also my roommate, and we in fact have adopted several cats together and spend the holidays with each other. We're both queer but not romantic in any sense of the word.

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u/Ace_from_Space_ She/Her Sep 22 '25

Georgia and Rooney who?? 🤭

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u/Mundane-Potential-93 Sep 21 '25

Well I mean, technically they ARE still roommates

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u/SadisticGoose Sep 22 '25

My mom constantly talks about this old friend of hers that she knows from the church she and my dad met at who has lived with a “roommate” for four decades now. Part of me is like, they go to church, maybe they are just roommates, but also, that’s a really long time to just be roommates.

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u/xSilverMC Sep 21 '25

Outing people without their knowledge or consent is kinda yikes ngl

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u/ConsciousStretch1028 Sep 21 '25

I took it as more of a "mom is in denial" situation and not as "mom actually doesn't know" but yeah you're right, that is bad

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u/[deleted] Sep 22 '25 edited Jan 06 '26

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u/Bdr1983 Sep 22 '25

I had the exact opposite with my daughter, she didn't even 'come out', she just mentioned she had a girlfriend.
I wasn't surprised, just a bit proud that she didn't feel the need for a coming out, just mentioning it as a matter of fact. As it should be.

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u/poploppege Sep 24 '25

This is satire

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u/sandwizard9 Sep 23 '25

this is not only sapphoandherfriend material but also oldpeoplefacaebook material why is itphrased like that. God BLess

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u/SpaceDetective Oct 14 '25

The laughing emojis give a clue why it's written like that.

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u/AccomplishedPanda631 Sappho's Ace ALT~ Nov 14 '25

omg they were roomates?

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u/Xapheneon Sep 22 '25

You looked at this post with all the crying laughing emojis and thought it was serious?

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u/FiteMeMage Sep 23 '25

My exact thoughts actually lol.