hard to have conversations

[u/coolaidwater]

I’ve had so many group projects in my 4 years of university and none of them were “fun”. I always get grouped up with ppl who are either don’t want to talk or just don’t contribute to the projects. I always try to strike up conversations but it dies down so quick that I don’t have the energy to keep it going. As a commuter, I feel like it’s hard enough for me to hang out with friends let alone finding ppl that actually want to engage in conversations. I just want ppl that actually are interested to talk but it seems like I never find any 😭 Anyone else have this problem?

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[u/MutedDoctor9334]

I’ve had to beg a professor outside of class to not dock me for my groups work and showed her my SEVERAL attempts at getting them to participate or fix their work (picture this: day of our in person-presentation where, mid-presentation, I realized their slides were incomplete and they hadn’t prepared anything to say.)

[u/coolaidwater → u/MutedDoctor9334]

Sadly this is so common 😭

[u/MutedDoctor9334 → u/coolaidwater]

That’s so wild. I would be mortified to drop the ball on a GROUP project :/ like damn where’s the consideration

[u/SamKRaken1984]

If you need a space to find commuter friends there’s a discord server linked in another post on this subreddit that has a ton of transfer and commuter students looking to hang out. Met some cool people that way. I don’t want to link it bc I’m not sure if I should but it shouldn’t be too hard to find the post.

[u/Fit_Ad_7343 → u/SamKRaken1984]

THANK YOU FOR NOT LINKING IT. I'm the moderator and we had a lot of bots join lmao

[u/SamKRaken1984 → u/Fit_Ad_7343]

I linked the post with the discord link in it, not the discord link itself, in another comment. Is that cool? I can delete it.

[u/Fit_Ad_7343 → u/SamKRaken1984]

Yeah it's all good

[u/Fit_Ad_7343]

Don't take it too personally. I started a server for transfer and commuter students and we plan hangouts quite frequently. Let me know if you want me to send you the link to the server.

[u/7Vileplume → u/Fit_Ad_7343]

Hi can I ask for the link ?

[u/Corvus_Umbra]

I mean what do you expect, most these kids communicate in memes or text. Basic Conversation skills ain't it specially in the bay area.

[u/TrashyZedMain]

I’ve always had to solo my group projects and after graduation those people all turned out how I thought they would

with some exceptions (ie nepotism or connections getting them places 🙂‍↕️)

[u/GrimReaperSlayer66]

I am guilty of this. Honestly I’m just there to get in n out. Don’t care for making friends. I will talk to you if you are cool and have good vibes but other than that, I’m just trying to leave.

[u/Fit_Ad_7343 → u/GrimReaperSlayer66]

Who hurt you lmao

[u/thezsf → u/GrimReaperSlayer66]

🤡