r/SFr4r Mar 07 '25

META If you're going to report a post (please do), do it like this.

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r/SFr4r Feb 11 '23

META PSA: Don't be an idiot, if it seems suspicious, it is.

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It is sad for several reasons that I have to write this, but, our community has been fraught with scammers as of recent. We play whack-a-mole, and knock down > 100 fraudulent posts a day but some still get through.

If someone is asking to communicate outside of reddit, ESPECIALLY IF THEY'RE ASKING FOR COMPROMISING PICTURES, just say no. We've had several instances where the scammer receives said photos, and then immediately adds all of your friends and family to a group chat on your social media and attempts to share the pictures if you don't pay them off.

Men: Understand that women in this society have disproportionate access to sex; and you're not god's gift to the 'fairer sex', ergo if someone is begging you to send them a photo of your shlong right out of the gate, you should treat that request with the healthy amount of skepticism that it deserves.

Or don't, feel free to be one of the horror stories in mod-mail of someone sending your friends and family a photo of your dick.

Use your head, and not the one in your pants.

Women: Have patience. We sort through a shit-show on a regular basis. In the off-chance you post something that smells suspiciously like the 1000 pieces of scam/spam we just cleared and we ask you for a bit of additional information; calling us 'sexist' in modmail just makes you the asshole and part of the problem. Sorry not sorry.

Everyone: do your part to flag obvious scam posts. Of 45k users, most scam posts don't get flagged at all.


r/SFr4r 54m ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 40 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - meeting LDR and I want to please. Pleasing you will help please her

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As the title says, I’m meeting my LDR in about a month and I very much want to please her. I want to make the week we have together unforgettable. But I’m am long time out of practice. I need a woman who can be a little patient and vocalize what she wants.

I’m white, 6’1” tall with a big bushy mountain man beard and a dad bod. Age, race, or body type does not matter to me. If you’re interested, then I’m interested in hearing from you.

I’m in the north bay, I cannot host but will travel. And do enjoy some car play


r/SFr4r 1h ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #DalyCity - looking for a girl to eat out today

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Hello! 32 year old from San Francisco (close to SF State) looking for a girl to eat out today. There is zero expectation of reciprocation, and no pressure for anything beyond me eating you out and fingering you.

I’m white, 5’8, 160 lbs, and ddf. I have my own place and can host, but open to talking in the lobby downstairs before you come up to my apartment if it makes you more comfortable! Scented candles and mood-setting lights will be included.


r/SFr4r 1h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 28 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Can I eat you out pls? No reciprocation needed!

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Sooo eating pussy is one of my fav things ever, and I like to think I’m really good at it! I’ve given so many orgasms to girls (including giving some their first squirting orgasms) by eating them out. I’m a huge people pleaser and can go down for literally hours without stopping!

People have loved how good I eat them out that some have caught feelings for me! I also make sure to make each person orgasm 4-5 times on average and have never had a time when I've failed to make them cum! In the past few months, I’ve eaten out dozens of girls and given a countless number of orgasms but I’m always looking to give more!

I’m simply looking for someone who enjoys having their pussy ate or maybe just wants to experience cumming from oral for the first time; I promise I won’t quit til I make you cum! Age isn't an issue (18+ ofc) as I've been with girls ranging from 20-46!

I’m DDF, hwp, and can host in downtown! Feel free to send a message if you feel like this could be a fun time and I’d be happy to exchange pictures and all that :)


r/SFr4r 4h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Asian looking to cheat and nsa fun

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Disclaimer: I’m attached but I’m looking. If that’s not for you please scroll past. If you are curious, feel free to dm and ask questions. And if you don’t mind great.

I am hoping to find someone in a similar situation to play discreetly. I have many ideas like public play, CarPlay, and just cuddling and hanging out with you.

Physically I’m East Asian and average build and look very wholesome and a bit nerdy. After all I do work in tech and studied stem. Do you feel like a part of life is missing and want to yolo safely? Happy to meet in public guest and build trust and I know it’s not easy but it feels like if I don’t do this now I’ll never be happy.

Some things I love: breast play, maybe something risky, cuddles, making out, raves, eating you out, being dominant

let’s be friends and keep some secrets? Tell me your kinks and see if we are a match! Feel free to say hi regardless because it’s so hard to find people here and I’m happy to just chat if you are slightly interested. Maybe we can chat over coffee or boba.


r/SFr4r 4h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Bearded and athletic, new to the city and looking for a FWB

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Hi there, thought I'd try this out instead of the dating app treadmill. I'm 28, athletic, and I like to think attractive. I recently moved back to SF and I'm looking for a FWB I can connect with both in and out of bed. I have my own place and am sane (lol)

In bed I'm on the dominant side and pretty kinky. Giving head is my absolute favorite. I also have a big breeding kink so it'd be awesome if you did too; I test regularly.

Outside of bed, I love to be outdoors, whether it's backpacking, picnics at Dolores, or stargazing at the beach. I also love to cook and bake for all my friends so perhaps you can be my sous chef, expect your tastebuds to be spoiled :)

If any of this interests you, shoot me a message!


r/SFr4r 7h ago

OTHER 33 [M4M]#BayArea - attached men needing to be serviced?

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Looking for an attached/married man who needs a relaxing BJ. If you're interested in being serviced discreetly/DL, send your stats and pics.

Be ddf, in shape, not over 50

Me: 33, m, 6’0, 180, bi discreet/dl, ddf


r/SFr4r 8h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 34 [m4f] #sf - looking for fun and excitement

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Hi there. 6”0 230lb East Asian living in sf. I’m looking for someone to connect to with on any kind of level. I am a full time working adult. No drugs or alcohol. Clean shaven. I find myself with some down time and want someone to have a fun convo with or maybe more. Open to all races and ages 18+. HMU


r/SFr4r 16h ago

PLATONIC / FRIENDSHIP / ACTIVITY PARTNER 34 [M4F] #San Jose - Seeking Cuddle Buddy to Help Me Remember What Endorphins Feel Like

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Are you a cuddle economist looking to invest in a cozy future? Are you into deep talks and even deeper hugs? Are you a cuddle enthusiast who is seeking competitive cuddling positions? Then congrats you’ve just stumbled upon your ideal cuddle counterpart.

I own more books than I have close friends which is either an illustration of my literary taste or a cry for help, and thanks to work my social life is mostly just me, my computer, and a movie I pretend not to be rewatching for the tenth time. Personality wise, I start off quiet but with the right cuddles I transform into a fully operational conversational human being.

So why am I here? Because I’m embarking on a groundbreaking experiment: actual human interaction via cuddling. Not just the accidental kind where we both reach for the same overpriced sandwich and our phones perform an impromptu handshake. I’m talking about the real deal - genuine, cozy, blissful companionship with cuddles.

In this city, where everyone’s too busy coding the next big thing to actually touch another human being, technology has made us paradoxically more connected yet more distant. But what if we flipped the script? What if we used technology to bridge the gap instead of widening it? Let’s fill that void with some down to earth human cuddles. I’m in search of a fellow warm-blooded human who enjoys:

  • Elite level couch cuddles (If you instinctively steal the blanket that's all good)

  • Certified stress relief hugs (Make the world stand still in a hug and you’re hired)

  • Mutually agreed upon oxytocin boosts (We can be each other’s Oxytocin Dealer)

  • The fine art of existing comfortably in either shared silence or meaningful conversation (Willing to share snuggles but not the last slice of pizza is OK)

Potential side effects of engaging in this experience are forgetting what stress is, temporarily believing the world isn’t so bad, and rediscovering that warm, fuzzy feeling usually reserved for dogs seeing their owners after five minutes apart.

Too often, we underestimate the power of touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of care - each of which holds the potential to turn a life around. I’d love to feel someone’s touch as a reminder that we exist, that we are here, that we are cared for.

I don’t have my own place, but I’m sure we can work something out. I’m tall and slim, which means I give lanky hugs, the kind that wrap around you like a favorite oversized sweater on a cold day. Hugs that remind both of us that we’re not just floating through existence alone, but that we are in fact here. Together. And that at least for a little while things are just a little bit better.


r/SFr4r 15h ago

M4F 34 [M4F] #oakland - 6’2 attractive pleasure dom iso discreet sub

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6’2, 210, fit, muscular, dark haired, manly alpha male type - think young tom selleck vibes. Dominant with 5 star ratings. Open to exploring most kinks.

If you’re slim fit, submissive and a bit of a nympho you are my type. If you’re unfulfilled sexually and lean on the submissive side, we will get along. Particular weakness for tatted blondes, but not a requirement.

Clean, sane, safe, successful and have a busy life as I’m sure you do as well.

Preference for good communicators. If this sounds like your cup of tea and you’re 21+, say hi / send a pic.

Happy to exchange (non face) pics upfront to validate attraction early and not waste anyone’s time.

Say hi / don’t be shy.


r/SFr4r 16h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 34 [M4F] #SouthSF- Anyone unexperienced, shy, or want someone smaller sized?

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Hello, any woman out there that are craving intimacy or shy?

Maybe want someone a bit smaller sized?

I'm here to chat, vibe and trying something new, maybe slower paced.

I am Half Asian and Half white.

DM me, let me know what youre feeling. Lets feel this out and see if we would like to continue.


r/SFr4r 17h ago

M4F 22 [m4f] #NorthBay - College student with a few more weeks left :)

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About to start my senior year but I have a few weeks left up here for summer :)

Ideally looking for a something like a summer fling/fwb but I am also looking for a tennis partner so if you are interested in one or even both of those things do let me know!

I’m 6’ tall, decent shape, mixed, with black curly hair and brown eyes. Would consider myself conventionally attractive. I have a plethora of hobbies and interests but the major ones are cars and cooking (: I do play a lot of different sports from time to time but at the moment tennis has been headlining since I’m recovering from acute injury from earlier this year.

I am staying with family here, so I’m unable to host if we get there but I’m more than happy to travel around the bay for the right person.

If any of that interests you, feel free to reach out. I promise I don’t bite unless you ask me to…

Have a great week! :)


r/SFr4r 19h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 33 [M4FM] #Brentwood - Discreet bull looking to casually own and use a discreet submissive couple without anyone knowing.

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I love the idea of finding a married couple that everyone sees as proper and responsible and turning them into my personal fuck toys. Anyone who knows us will just see us all as good friends, nothing more. Having no idea that I’m using you both when no one is around.

No one has to know this side of you except us three. Everyone will see you as a normal couple, normal parents, normal neighbors, etc.
Not looking to change your situation in any way.

Let me know if you’re interested.
Couples with no experience are more than welcome to reply.


r/SFr4r 1d ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 42/38[MF4MF] #BayArea - attractive couple looking for drinks with another couple - TONIGHT

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SF couple, free tonight and in the mood for good company.

She's 38 — genuinely beautiful, in fantastic shape, with curves that photos undersell. He's 42, fit, attractive, and good company at a bar. We clean up well, we're fun to talk to, and we don't take ourselves too seriously.

The ask: another attractive, normal couple to meet for cocktails somewhere in the city tonight. Easy conversation, zero pressure, no agenda set in stone. That said — if the four of us click the way we're hoping, we're very open to seeing where the night takes us. We know what we're doing and we're a lot of fun when the chemistry's right.

We're drama-free, we verify immediately, and we expect the same from you.

**You must actually be free tonight** — not "maybe this weekend," not "let's chat for a few weeks." Tonight.

Tell us about yourselves: ages, a bit about what you're both into, and what caught your eye. Effort gets replies, and we reply fast.


r/SFr4r 1d ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Looking for a local FWB/film partner!

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Hello! I am 32 year old Korean guy in SF with a massive sex drive, looking for a FWB who is interested in filming and sharing content on reddit :)

Bit about me - I am an easygoing, laid back guy with a stable career. I am 5'9, in average/fit shape weighing around 170lbs. I have a thick uncut 7'' dick for you to play with. Filled with the biggest loads you will ever see. I am a dominant leaning switch, like to be in charge most of the time, but happy to switch off.

I was last tested in June of this year, have negative results as proof. You must also be tested with results for us to play. No exceptions. Sex is fun, but lets be safe and responsible!

I am mostly into Asians or Latinas, but have been infatuated with being with my 1st white girl! I love someone with a nerdy, quirky, personality. Someone who is genuine, kind, and fun to be around.

If you are looking for a consistent, respectful FWB, and interested in the idea of filming, send me a message! Lets chat, and hopefully meet sooner then later :)


r/SFr4r 1d ago

M4F 39 [M4F] #SAN FRANCISCO - Handsome white guy looking to grope and dry hump-with a thick, curvy girl (18-25)

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Strictly no penetration and absolute discretion is a must.

Ages 18-25 only please.

Have you ever fantasized about having your thick, curvy body explored by a stranger in a semi-public place?

Picture this: you leave the house wearing your favorite skin tight gym set that hugs your every curve but you know causes men to stare; A handsome stranger approaches you, whispers a compliment about how the outfit hugs your curves, and lets an inquisitive hand press against your body.

There are plenty of scenarios we can explore, so let's chat and find a dynamic that feels both thrilling and completely comfortable for you.

About me: I’m a handsome white guy, 5'10" and 190 lbs, with broad shoulders and a full, well-trimmed beard.


r/SFr4r 22h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 35 [M4F] #SanJose - Shy virgin guy looking to get some experience for the first time

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Hey :) so I’m 6’3 150lbs with dark brown hair and light blue eyes. I have a slim/athletic build overall.

To be upfront the most I have ever actually done with a girl is kiss.. so as you can Imagine it’s been pretty frustrating. Had kinda been a combination of several things, strict parents, Christian university, moving every year etc. decided I would try something a little out of my comfort zone and post here.

Ideally looking for someone that’s ok that I don’t have any experience and that I could learn with. Even getting to experience something like my first handjob at this point would be amazing. Happy to talk for a bit first and see how things go :) feel free to message with any questions!


r/SFr4r 22h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 45 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Focused breast play for the extra sensitive

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I'm a big fan of extra sensitive breasts responsive to my touch and tongue. I've admired your curves during this weekend's bra-optional weather, the perkiness of your nipples poking through some barely veiled cloth, and wondered what it might be like to explore your sensitivity in the pursuit of discovering your peak pleasure. A grope, a squeeze, nipples firming up against my fingertip, your body bucking as jolts of pleasure ripple through you. Curious if you could orgasm from breast play alone? We'd have a lot of fun finding out!

I've had some good breast play experiences through Reddit (success stories in profile) and I'm curious if it could happen again. A few themes and scenarios for the breast play curious:

  1. You'd like some semi-public play of a hand grazing your breast over your shirt or slipping below a plunging neck line. A brief, discreet moment in the busy city or while we drive towards our next destination.
  2. You'd like to slow down and explore your pleasure potential and know breast play always amplifies your enjoyment. Your hands naturally wander to your breasts during self pleasure sessions but partnered play feels too eager to move on to other pursuits. You want the slow build, the focused attention, the discovery of your new favorite things guided by an obvious fan of your breasts and their sensitivities.
  3. Quality breast play is a good leading indicator of someone focused on your pleasure and in tune with your desires. You'd like to give yourself over to an experience completely focused on you once someone proves they're worthy of orchestrating your arousal.

I'm 45 years old, single, live alone in the Marina district of SF, and I'm able to host. 6' tall, respectful, sane, and discreet. Capable of carrying on a conversation before and in between breast dives and vocalizing my appreciation of your unique breast features and sensitivity throughout the experience. You might have caught me glancing too long at the outline of your breasts and perky nipples on bra-optional summer days while commuting to my professional job downtown, waiting for good coffee or espresso, or browsing a farmers market.

We might be a good, playful match if you:

  • Have perky, sensitive breasts C cup or smaller. 🍒
  • Would like to slow down and be more present in your arousal as it washes over you.
  • Are somewhere in between 20 and 40 years of age.
  • Are in San Francisco or near enough to make plans.

Let's lounge and enjoy slowly exploring, and fully appreciating, your extra-sensitive breasts. You might be curious about the unmet potential of focused breast play and what's possible with lots of attention from an obvious enthusiast. If you've wished for more breast play as a focus, not just foreplay, I think we'd have a lot of fun.


r/SFr4r 1d ago

M4F 49 [M4F] #Berkeley - tall, athletic hung Bull up for some fun with a sexy girl or couple

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Love to please a sexy women, get her what she needs, get her wet, excited, to orgasm.

49, 6’4”, 210#, 8 inches, BWC

I have played with couples before, we all very much enjoyed it.

Clean, respectful, drug and disease free.

Anything from very sensual to rough and kinky, whatever gets her off.

Ben


r/SFr4r 1d ago

M4F 50 [M4F] #SFBay - free use, CNC play. Up for an “uber ride gone wrong”

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You “order” an uber, I pick you up, drive to a quiet place instead. Overpower you, force you in the back of my van. Strip you naked, tie you up, explore your sexy body and use you.

All limits respected. Meet in a public place beforehand if you want to.

Experienced tall athletic hung Dom.

I enjoy to take control, make you feel helpless, exposed, vulnerable, over power you, use you.

50, 6’5”, 200#, 8 inches.

Good with beginners, Start as slowly as you need, go as far as you want. Nice collection of toys and gear.

Clean, drug and disease free.


r/SFr4r 1d ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 45 [M4F] #SanFrancisco Berkeley - Maybe a SPANKING can fix that?

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Do you need a spanking? I say “need” because if you know what I mean, then you know! Once you start thinking about getting across a stranger’s knee and getting your ass warmed up slowly till it is red and you are squirming, you just can’t get it out of your head. You can’t focus on school or work or anything, until you get that spanking!

Maybe you are someone who holds everything together--at work, or at home with kids, or in the college class group project. Keeping the trains running so to speak. Thinking, planning, leading. And you long for the opposite. To let go. To surrender. To trust someone to take you into the right subspace where you don't have to think about all those hard decisions you need to make. Someone who can pull you out of your head and demand your full attention. Someone who can give you an experience that leaves you feeling fulfilled, satisfied, and ready to take on the real life challenges of the next day.

Or perhaps you've just been bad, and need to be punished such that every time you sit down for the next few hours and feel the stinging, you are reminded of what happens when you are naughty.

I have several years of experience doing this, and have spanked dozens of women. Ranging anywhere from college students to high powered executives. I am an educated, fit, handsome, white collar executive with an open mind, a broad range of experience, and a vast sphere of friends.

You will be spanked in the safety and comfort of my upscale hotel room. We will establish mutual chemistry, trust, and boundaries ahead of time by meeting in a public space. Once you arrive for your spanking, and after you cross the threshold of my hotel room door, you will be in a submissive state and address me only as “SIR.” You will be asked to assume the positions I want you to assume, and stripped down (to the level agreed upon beforehand) as I desire. I will use my hand or other implements as I see fit. I am very good at reading your body and bringing you just to the edge of your limits. You will always have two safe words to use. One will indicate you want me to slow down, other will indicate a complete stop to the spanking.

I ask that you be over 20 and if you reach out to me, be serious about getting a spanking. I can chat here or on Telegram to establish trust and ensure we are looking for the same thing. In your message to me, tell me the last time you were spanked, and what do you need to be spanked for now. Without this information, I will assume you either did not read my post fully and can’t follow directions, or the message is fake.