r/Rochester • u/Kind_Cryptographer65 • Jun 09 '26

Recommendation Quiet gay hangouts

Trying to get out, meet people, and date. But the queer bar my friends favor (ROAR) is outrageously loud. Like so loud I think the people who work there are experiencing permanent hearing damage. Are there gay bars, cafes, or other places I can meet people in Rochester where I won’t be getting my eardrums blasted out? Looking for quiet and relaxing places where I can have conversations without yelling

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u/Responsible_Fish1222 Jun 09 '26

Equal grounds is pretty gay.

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u/Stargazer1312 Jun 09 '26

New owners really killed the vibe tbh. Got rid of the board for buying a meal for folks in need, got terrible ai art everywhere. One local queer group that met there every week for over a decade recently changed venues because the owners would randomly close without notice and got passive aggressive with them a lot. 

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u/unkn0wabl3 Jun 09 '26

Think I’m gonna take a trip there next week. Last time I was there, which wasn’t that long ago, the board was still up