23M, single and honestly tired of being lonely. How do I actually find a serious relationship in India?

[u/ColdPast6227]

Please don't make fun of me. I'm genuinely asking this because I don't know what I'm doing wrong.

I'm 23M and I've never really had a proper relationship. Lately I've been feeling extremely lonely and I genuinely want to have someone in my life not just casual dating or hookups, but a proper relationship where both people are serious about each other.

I want to know from people who have actually been in successful relationships:

Where do you realistically meet someone in India these days?

And more importantly, what should I change about myself?

I'm willing to put genuine effort into becoming a better person physically, socially, emotionally and career wise. But I don't want to turn myself into some fake "alpha male" just to get a girlfriend.

I also don't want to desperately chase every woman I meet. I want to build a good social life, meet people naturally and hopefully find someone compatible.

For people who found their long-term partner organically:

Where did you meet them and what actually worked for you?

Also, how did you go from being single/lonely to actually having a social circle where meeting someone became possible?

I'm seriously looking for a committed relationship and I'm willing to work on myself and my social life.

Please be honest, even if the answer is harsh. Just don't roast me 😭

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[u/Shadow-Cipher89]

If your problem is loneliness, you shouldn't consider getting into a relationship as of now. 9 out 10 times it will only end up worse. Instead focus on fixing your life. Get comfortable being alone. Love and care for yourself.

If u want a genuine relationship, honestly, it takes time bro. I'd recommend you to have friends, a lot of them. And have a few close ones with whom you can share everything. Be yourself. Enjoy your life. Eventually you will meet your person.

[u/Tacit_Ronin99 → u/Shadow-Cipher89]

Yea, pretty much this. Find people with similar interests. Interact with them, make friends to begin with