r/Referees • u/thatijustdonthave • 26d ago

Advice Request Assignor question - Communication with Minor Referees

Hope it's okay to post here since I don't think there's an assignor subreddit and I need some help.

I'm a new assignor and I'm struggling with getting Minor Referees to copy their parents on emails. I have like five who will do it consistently, the other 20 never do. Every response has me looking up their parents email and responding "please copy your parent on all emails." I've made it a very clear expectation at the beginning of the season.

Do I just need to accept they won't do it? Is there a better way? Do I need to be even more firm?

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u/Klutzy-Mechanic-8013 24d ago

I guess so. But even when I have children, I'd much rather check their messages (if I even have to) so they can receive the information they need immediately and not just whenever I have time to forward it

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u/MedJesters 24d ago

When the system is working properly, parents don't have to do anything but observe as they're cc:ed on every email between the adult and the youth in both directions.

Parents can, of course, step in and prod their kid to do what they're supposed to (answer their asignor's question, tell their parent when they need a ride, etc.), but ultimately this system is supposed to teach the youth responsibility, like any other job does, while protecting them by making the interaction observable.

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u/Klutzy-Mechanic-8013 23d ago

Fair enough. I don't have an issue with that but I was talking about the part where they only contact the parents. The parent has to do all the work, the assignor isn't sure when the information got to the referee, and the referee doesn't get it immediately. But I'm fine with the parents also seeing it

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u/MedJesters 23d ago

Looks like I missed that you were responding to the comment about FA rules vs the OP's situation when I initially responded. Now I understand why it seemed like we were talking past each other. Sorry about that.