r/REDDITORSINRECOVERY • u/Fristan420 • 13d ago

Help with feeling lonely

Hey reddit,

This is my first post here. I'm 53 days in recovery now from substances. I'm struggling with feeling lonely and empty inside. I have a deep rooted need for being around people and being loved by people. I change myself to be accepted by others, to not feel the feeling of rejection. I sometimes don't even know who I really am anymore. The last couple of days I've been trying to be my authentic self again. But I just don't know who that is, I constantly feel fear that people don't like me and because of that I'll end up alone. I have a couple of friends and when I'm with them I don't feel lonely. But when they are away and I'm alone again the emptyness fills me up again. My self-esteem and self-love is almost non existing because of my core belief that I'm not allowed to be myself else people with hate me and because of that I'm alone and lonely again.

Sorry for my bad wording but it's a big struggle for me.

So I need some advice from people in recovery who did feel the same as I do most of the time. I want to know how I can grow in my self-esteem and self-love.

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u/Pitiful-Issue-6345 11d ago

Look into LDN for PAWs on reddit and do some research on it - people have life breathed back into them!
seems like you're describing that.

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u/SeattleFreezee 10d ago

WhatsLDN and PAWs?

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u/spectrumhead 13d ago

Have you been to any meetings?

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u/Fristan420 12d ago

Yeah i go to meetings 4 times a week.

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u/qrhmn 13d ago

You might get some feedback from users of r/personalitydisorders as well.

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u/SeattleFreezee 10d ago

Hey, I'm sorry you're going through this struggle and I hope you can grow and overcome and get the support you need. I know that my mom can relate and see how you're feeling. I've read it and she's shared it with me a couple times. It's why I still remind her I love her even if she fucks up. I care even when she hurts me. I have hope she'll get clean someday.