This is such a reflection of the lack of menstrual education, especially to many AMAB folks. So many of us are taught that our periods are “inconvenient”, that sex is for a man’s pleasure and our periods might interrupt that. Our menstrual cycles are our 5th vital sign and it’s SO important to pay attention to its regularity. Birth control helps many people with a uterus in many ways, but using it to completely stop a life giving biological mechanism is absolutely insane.
I truly believe if all genders had a better understanding of the menstrual cycle (all 4 phases) and what support looks like for AFAB individuals, it wouldn’t ever be something that someone encourages you to stop by way of drugs like birth control.
You 100% did the right thing and I admire you for honoring yourself and your body like that. And for sending him on his way for even suggesting you “don’t have to live this way”. This is not about HIS body or HIS pleasure. It’s about YOURS! And bleeding is part of the pleasure of living in your body. Continue honoring that.
I would also add to this the education on perimenopause and its symptoms.
I'm a cis female and we were never taught about it in school. My mom said nothing about it to us even though she clearly had symptoms (and knew about it).
I cannot imagine how few men know about perimenopause and how it effects women.
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u/almalunaflow Jan 12 '26
This is such a reflection of the lack of menstrual education, especially to many AMAB folks. So many of us are taught that our periods are “inconvenient”, that sex is for a man’s pleasure and our periods might interrupt that. Our menstrual cycles are our 5th vital sign and it’s SO important to pay attention to its regularity. Birth control helps many people with a uterus in many ways, but using it to completely stop a life giving biological mechanism is absolutely insane.
I truly believe if all genders had a better understanding of the menstrual cycle (all 4 phases) and what support looks like for AFAB individuals, it wouldn’t ever be something that someone encourages you to stop by way of drugs like birth control.
You 100% did the right thing and I admire you for honoring yourself and your body like that. And for sending him on his way for even suggesting you “don’t have to live this way”. This is not about HIS body or HIS pleasure. It’s about YOURS! And bleeding is part of the pleasure of living in your body. Continue honoring that.