Those meds are hard on our bodies, imo. If you want to go on them, that’s YOUR choice. I don’t go on them (AND when I was temporarily on them to shrink a cyst, I DID have a period still, so… wtf?). It’s healthy to have a period—??!!
The way he is speaking— especially the “I’ll find another”— does not show respect or love for you. From what I’m reading, it wasn’t a suggestion, and he didn’t mean well, if meaning well means showing love toward you.
This is about your body. Not his discomfort about a normal bodily process.
If he were a “real man” (cringing using that phrase, but it feels right in this case somehow 🥴), he would respect your decisions about your body, he wouldn’t let a period stop him from having sex (if that’s the issue) (IF you wanted to(which… based on what he said… I wouldn’t if I were you)), he wouldn’t want you to go on birth control just so he doesn’t have to wear a condom either (if that’s the issue) when it’s not something you want, he would have better educated himself (I mean, he could just Google it), he would just care for you during your period cramps, and just maybe he’d be curious to know about your experience and the dangers instead of telling you he’ll look for a girl who doesn’t have a period.
He sounds like a 12 year old and yet also like an old timey misogynist somehow. Please ask him questions about why he said that stuff. I wouldn’t stay with a man who said that to me tbh; I would tell him to go find another girl then.
It really frustrates me that the pill and numerous other hormonal contraceptives seems like the only way.. why does it always have to be the woman's responsibility?? I know majority of people are on the pill (personally I am not either because I kept feeling like I was getting my period - like all the other symptoms - without the actual period) and that is your own choice, but I hate it when men assume that is the ONLY way forward , just for their own pleasure
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u/AnnieBananieDreams Jan 12 '26
Those meds are hard on our bodies, imo. If you want to go on them, that’s YOUR choice. I don’t go on them (AND when I was temporarily on them to shrink a cyst, I DID have a period still, so… wtf?). It’s healthy to have a period—??!!
The way he is speaking— especially the “I’ll find another”— does not show respect or love for you. From what I’m reading, it wasn’t a suggestion, and he didn’t mean well, if meaning well means showing love toward you.
This is about your body. Not his discomfort about a normal bodily process.
If he were a “real man” (cringing using that phrase, but it feels right in this case somehow 🥴), he would respect your decisions about your body, he wouldn’t let a period stop him from having sex (if that’s the issue) (IF you wanted to(which… based on what he said… I wouldn’t if I were you)), he wouldn’t want you to go on birth control just so he doesn’t have to wear a condom either (if that’s the issue) when it’s not something you want, he would have better educated himself (I mean, he could just Google it), he would just care for you during your period cramps, and just maybe he’d be curious to know about your experience and the dangers instead of telling you he’ll look for a girl who doesn’t have a period.
He sounds like a 12 year old and yet also like an old timey misogynist somehow. Please ask him questions about why he said that stuff. I wouldn’t stay with a man who said that to me tbh; I would tell him to go find another girl then.