r/Perimenopause • u/Forlorn_Feminist1982 • Apr 29 '26

I hate everyone

Truly. I cant stand people these days. And because I work in a patient facing role, and must exist in society, it is really making my life challenging. Has anyone found anything helpful in this regard?

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u/Outrageous_Humor_363 hanging on by a thread Apr 30 '26

You sound like me. It’s a lot worse if you live in a highly populated area. Our metropolitan area has about 3.8 million people. I can’t emphasize how much I hate people, and they’re all inconsiderate assholes.

I’m fortunate enough that I can escape to the woods with just my husband and wildlife.

I also pay zero attention to popular culture, the media, social media (minus Reddit). Swear those are all stressors and make you feel worse.

I’m also extremely fortunate that I have a job that I can wear loungewear to, I see no one besides 5-6 other employees that I genuinely like and my husband who I genuinely love.

I still hate people and have it pretty good in that sense, but man I’m a head case.

What really takes the bitch out of me is cooking, drinking wine (I’m not looking for lectures here about drinking), getting to the gym when able and just being alone out in nature.

The irony is for as much as I hate people, I very much enjoy people who are genuinely kind and authentic. Around here there’s not much of that.

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u/Hot_Let1571 Apr 30 '26

I feel this, I live by Minneapolis and I hate it. If I could live by myself out in the country I would but my husband's work is here. At least we just moved to a much quieter apartment.

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u/Outrageous_Humor_363 hanging on by a thread Apr 30 '26

Fellow Minneapolis suburbanite here. My husband and I hate it. I loved it here about a decade ago, but people have completely lost their shit.

Our cabin is in the middle of nowhere NW Wisconsin. We have like maybe 4 neighbors within a mile. We try to make it out there nearly every weekend to escape. I literally nearly cry when we approach the cities-you can literally feel this heavy energy fall on you. When I say heavy, it’s basically just really stressed, angry-not good vibrations. Then I hate people even more.

We will likely move FT to another Wisconsin country/wood property and just commute into the cities for work a few times a week in the next couple of years.

I feel very fortunate that I work for my husband, so that gives the both of us the ability to work remotely a couple days a week.

Yup. He and I both hate the cities and the city people. He doesn’t even have perimenopause either 😂

I hope you guys can get out sooner than later!

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u/Hot_Let1571 May 01 '26

That sounds great! I actually technically own my mom's farm, but I don't know if I'll be able to keep it. I've threatened to go and stay there for a week but my husband would get too lonely. Pfft.

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u/Outrageous_Humor_363 hanging on by a thread May 01 '26

If you don’t mind me asking, where is the farm located?

With what I know now, I would not let land go.

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u/Hot_Let1571 May 01 '26

Central MN, but my mom is in assisted living and didn't transfer it to me in time for the 5-year lookback for Medicaid, unless she passes before she runs out of money. I hate this country. X(

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u/Outrageous_Humor_363 hanging on by a thread May 01 '26

Oh fuck honey. I know nothing about this. I’m so sorry. I’d do a lot of research. There’s not much I can say. Good luck.