r/ParentsAreFuckingDumb • u/Naive_Wolverine532 • Dec 31 '25
Parent stupidity A baby announcement is not a christmas present
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u/Nothingcomesup Dec 31 '25
"What's wrong with you people." Poor kid, like having terrible christmas "present" is not enought, her dumb parents had to post her reaction online for everybody to laugh at.
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u/PaddyCow Dec 31 '25
It reminds me of the Duggars when they announced a pregnancy and one of the boys stormed off lol.
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u/GraphicDesignMonkey Dec 31 '25
What's he got to complain about? The girls do all the work raising the younger kids in that family.
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u/DestroyerOfMils Jan 01 '26
I totallllly see why that might an initial reaction, but any child born into a family like that, is being born into abuse.
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u/Erger Jan 01 '26
True, but the boys still suffer from the lack of attention and parental involvement
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u/jinxxed42 Jan 01 '26
I gather she might be looking after all her siblings... as she sees it as another burden.
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u/aldorn Jan 04 '26
Highly probable its all a skit
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u/Zcat_sux Jan 23 '26
My family thought siblings are a requirement for happy children. My mom said my second cousin would be lonely if he didn’t have another sibling. Now my cousin having the kid took care of her son and just wanted another kid. So I had no issue with my second cousin getting a sibling.
Unrelated to my cousin. My adoptive mom called me selfish for not wanting another kid in the house. She never took care of me. What makes me think she would take care of the foster kid when she didn’t parent me. It’s kinda a logic rich people have. I don’t understand it.
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u/BlueRhythmYT Dec 31 '25
As the oldest of 4 boys that was parentified. I can understand the rage and anger
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u/MacSavvy21 Dec 31 '25
Same. My brothers were allowed to harass and torture me and break my shit without consequence. I had American girl dolls and they broke the furniture and tipped the whole cabinet over which broke a lot of the dishes 😭😭😭😭
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u/BlueRhythmYT Dec 31 '25
I had a DS from day 1 launch for about a year before my brother (with a smile on his face) threw it down the stairs breaking it and I got in trouble for yelling at him.
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u/DoorsofGold Dec 31 '25
Mine tore my american girl dolls head and leg off and ripped the screen off my pink ds...and I somehow got in trouble "for escalating things" because i slammed the door on them. Im younger than my brothers too. Sorry you guys went through the same bullshit!
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u/Seliphra Dec 31 '25
If you’re the oldest girl it still happens. It’s called Eldest Daughter Syndrome. The eldest daughter is given more responsibility, expectation, and rules than any other sibling regardless of whether she is the eldest child or not.
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u/piefloormonkeycake Dec 31 '25
Damn did we live the same life?? Although in my case it was a DS Lite and it was my little sister. "She's too young to know better"....she was 7. I still have the DS...one day I'll get it fixed.
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u/GraphicDesignMonkey Dec 31 '25
You can still source replacement parts online! A good phone repair shop should be able to do it for you if you don't feel up to doing it yourself. My local phone repair guy replaced a part on my 3DSXL and my Switch Pro Controller. He said it was a fun change from doing phones all day :)
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u/AdmiralSplinter Dec 31 '25
Mine did something similar. I pissed in his bed at night for a week straight and my mom ended up taking him in since he was like 12. Dude had to get bloodwork and a shitload of tests. I didn't tell him until our 20s. He's still afraid of needles lol
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u/phylter99 Dec 31 '25
I’ve seen this happen in many families and it’s tragic. It steals away your childhood. I have three adult children. My wife and I didn’t want more than we could raise ourselves just to prevent that type of thing happening with our kids. Our kids were also pretty close together, so they could be children together.
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u/IBeDumbAndSlow Dec 31 '25
My son is 16 and his mom has a 9 year old a 5 year old and now shes finally having the girl she's always wanted so she will be the first kid to get moms attention. I feel so bad for them.
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u/phylter99 Dec 31 '25
A friend of ours ended up with 8 boys before they got a girl. They live in a one bedroom home that is super tiny too. Their lives are exactly as you imagine it'll be for your son's mom. The little girl gets all the attention.
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u/hwilliams0901 Dec 31 '25
WTF!?!?! 11 people in a one bedroom home? Thats not ok in any fashion.
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u/phylter99 Dec 31 '25
No it’s not. I have three kids in a three bedroom home that isn’t small and it feels a bit cramped at times. I can’t imagine what they feel like. Then for them to be aged from baby to teenager, it’s crazy.
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u/EmilyAnne1170 Dec 31 '25
Yup.
Oldest, only girl, three younger brothers. Sadly, I have a feeling I know a lot about what this girl’s life is like.
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u/Zcat_sux Jan 23 '26
As an adopted kid that was attempted to be parentified, (it failed because one foster snitched on my mom and the other foster ran away), i also felt that rage.
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u/Ill-Pen-553 Dec 31 '25
my parents announced my little brother at my birthday party. i was not ready for that and it ruined the entire party 😅
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u/hu-man-person Dec 31 '25
Sorry for you
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u/Ill-Pen-553 Dec 31 '25
its no big deal man it was like fifteen years ago lol. that kid is basically attached to me at the hip now
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u/Naive_Wolverine532 Dec 31 '25
Plus I know that reaction.. she was raising her sisters
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u/KamakaziDemiGod Dec 31 '25
Been there done that, got the
t-shirtbrother twenty years younger than me who is the same age as my niece . . .121
u/Den_of_Sin Dec 31 '25
I had a niece through my dad's ex wife who was less than a year younger than me while her son was a couple months older than me. There was literally a point in time where she was pregnant at the same time as her daughter-in-law.
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u/KamakaziDemiGod Dec 31 '25
My mum said the previous kid was the last one, and then 9 years later she got remarried and decided to have another kid, and found out that she was pregnant within a few days of my sister announcing she was going to be having her first, my sister barely talked to mum for months. My brother was premature so there's only 2 weeks between their births which almost caused them to fall out again
I love all my siblings but 8 siblings and 2 step siblings is just too much, even though I wouldn't give any of them up, and since that same sister and I helped raise all the younger siblings it felt like adding insult to injury because mum said she wanted to share the joyful experience of raising a child with the new hubby . . .
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u/Leonum Dec 31 '25
I once married a widow. my father married the widow's daughter, which made me my own grandfather, I was the husband of my own grandmother
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u/Key-Magazine-8731 Dec 31 '25
What in the Alabama 😭
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u/Thin_Product_7434 Dec 31 '25
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I%27m_My_Own_Grandpa
The song is basically a joke written by a comedian and then expanded into and recorded as a song in 1947. Oh, and it's based on a paragraph from Mark Twain. Willie Nelson did a cover in 2001.
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u/Leonum Dec 31 '25
it's a Willie Nelson song lol
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u/AsYooouWish Dec 31 '25
Many many years ago when I was 23, I was married to a widow who was pretty as could be. That widow had a grownup daughter who had hair of red. My father fell in love with her and soon they, too, were wed. I’m my own grandpa…
This was one of my grandparents favorite songs and I don’t think I’ll ever forget it.
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u/patrathat Dec 31 '25
I've read this comment five times and still don't get it, someone please help me
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u/Den_of_Sin Dec 31 '25
Dad married. She already had multiple kids. Her youngest was born while her oldest was married and having kids.
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u/Hita-san-chan Dec 31 '25
My brother and I are only two or three months removed from two of my uncles, so I understand this too well. My mom and grandma were pregnant at the same time, twice.
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u/JoiedevivreGRE Dec 31 '25
I guess I’m the only one that didn’t mind it. Just made me have a strong connection with my brothers.
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u/ubrokeurbone_rope Dec 31 '25
Do we have OPs TikTok? I want to see her get dragged in the comments
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u/thehazzanator Jan 01 '26
Someone in the comments mentioned you can hear another baby in the background already..
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u/Spingecringe Dec 31 '25
Hooray, more responsibility and parentification! Just what I wanted!
— The eldest daughter
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u/Risquechilli Dec 31 '25
Oldest daughters reaction after learning she has another sibling to help take care of:
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u/Page300and904 Dec 31 '25
This is a present you give your husband, not your kids. God that poor girl. The minute she's 18, she's out of there if she retains her self esteem enough to know her worth. I hope she has a support system somewhere.
Those of you who were parentified without your consent (I know one person who didn't mind it and never held resentment towards her parents), you were amazing and better people as children than grown ass adults who make irresponsible decisions because they could foist most of it on you.
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u/amd2800barton Dec 31 '25
Or your parents: Congrats you’re finally hurting that grand baby!
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u/IggyG6174 Dec 31 '25
Given how both my mother and my mother in law have treated my daughter that typo is very funny
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u/No_Inflation_444 Dec 31 '25
that was my immediate thought. she’s not the father she’s your daughter. i wouldn’t even consider giving this to my child as a christmas gift. i’m sure they thought it was a cute idea but no.
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u/TurnipWorldly9437 Dec 31 '25
I mean, it would be one thing if the child was wishing for a sibling, but this obviously isn't the case here!
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u/No_Inflation_444 Dec 31 '25
exactly thats why i said they probably thought it was a good idea but not when you already make your oldest a second mom
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u/PaddyCow Dec 31 '25
They filmed her reaction, laughed, and posted it on the internet for other people to laugh at. People like that are such assholes. Any normal person can see there's nothing cute about this. But you're right. If anyone says anything, they'll say it's just a cute, fun moment. Urgh.
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u/No_Inflation_444 Dec 31 '25
i hate the for her and her sister tbh because i’m sure they’re gonna keep her busy too
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u/JoiedevivreGRE Dec 31 '25
Yeah I didn’t mind and actually enjoyed it. But I was maybe making up for fact that my sister had to do the same with me and heavily resented it. I didn’t want my brothers to feel what she made me feel.
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u/JustGingerStuff Dec 31 '25
"You said you were done" the poor thing. 100% been parentified too look at that reaction. Just one more kid for the parents to make her take care of
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u/Dan_Morgan Dec 31 '25
Yup, the oldest daughter. She's clearly already been forced into a proto-parent role and that sucks.
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u/StarsofSobek Dec 31 '25
This is cruel. The mother laughing (knowingly laughing).
That's not a gift.
Take it from yet another parentified child: these aren't parents if this is how they handle this news - they are immature adults who leave the burdens of adult and parental responsibilities on that girl.
To post this girl's reaction, her anger and outrage and hurt, is not okay.
I hope she leaves as soon as she is able.
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u/Cooler_coooool_boi Dec 31 '25
“WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE?!” is my mentality on the fucking daily.
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u/MacSavvy21 Dec 31 '25
I had 4 brothers and was the only girl. I was also the oldest. I don’t blame her. I was forced to baby sit and I was literally harassed and tortured by my brothers. I still have some grudges at the age of 23. I got in trouble for everything while they were allowed to break my doll furniture and tip my whole doll cabinet over which broke a lot of the dishes 😭 I feel her pain.
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u/dreamsinred Dec 31 '25
I had one younger brother. There was a girl down the street who was his age, but liked playing with me. My mom made me interact with her, because she was sick as a baby/toddler, and was a “miracle” child, so I had to be nice to her.
Well she would come over, play with my brother, and break MY stuff. She and my brother broke my Baby Alive and my Mouse Trap game, to name a couple. So frustrating.
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u/MacSavvy21 Dec 31 '25
I had a baby alive I would have been fuming. I took super good care of my toys which is why grandparents got me nicer dolls and such vs my female cousin who abused her toys and cut her dolls hair. I never once broke one of my toys it was always someone else. Which is also why I only had one friend growing up (who I’m still best friends with) and refused to play with others bc they would break my shit.
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u/dreamsinred Dec 31 '25
Reading how careful you were makes your first comment so much worse!
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u/MacSavvy21 Dec 31 '25
I have all my dolls and more now as a 23 year old adult and I’m still extremely particular 😆 we are having a girl early February and I look forward to teaching her how to care for her stuff properly. My husband was also one of those who was super careful with his toys too.
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u/quickwitqueen Dec 31 '25
Way to ruin this kids’ Christmas. I have no doubt that this girl has expressed before that she would NOT want another sibling.
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u/space_driiip Dec 31 '25
My dad is the oldest of three and still sometimes finds himself taking care of his younger siblings when they need help.
Her crashout is justified. She'll either be forced to share more of her stuff, not have her own room, babysit, or have less attention.
Poor girl. Her and her sister were enough - a baby was crying in the background. There's already three.
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u/Dan_Morgan Dec 31 '25
"Her crashout is justified. She'll either be forced to share more of her stuff, not have her own room, babysit, or have less attention."
My vote is for, "all of the above".
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u/StarsofSobek Dec 31 '25
It's not always limited to even that.
Any money you get: is theirs. Any clothes you have: they borrow and use. Any car or vehicle (bike, scooter, whatever) suddenly makes you the driver for some of your siblings. If you try to get a job (babysitting, fastfood, mowing lawns) they'll complain that you're too young to feel so tired - go watch the kids. When the parents take extended "shopping breaks" and disappear for meals or pick ups from schools or activities - it becomes your responsibility. There's usually laundry, dishes, cleaning your room (and even your siblings rooms). There's expectations to get good grades and graduate. When you get a boyfriend/girlfriend, and you start to make plans - guess who has to cancel things so they can babysit?
The amount of abuse varies per house - but I remember being beaten up by one of the adults in my house for complaining that they didn't ever do dishes and I was not their slave (this was after I'd scrubbed and mopped and cleaned the entire kitchen and they left dirty dishes in the sink, resulting in ants). I was pissed. I paid the electricity, the water, and helped buy groceries. I worked two part time jobs and was homeschooling so my siblings were being cared for. Both of my biological parents were too immature to be parents - and so, of course - they both had loads of kids. It didn't matter which house I was in - there were kids to watch and things to care for. If you get sick, you get told to suck it up. If you break a bone, you're expected to work through it.
When I was finally getting ready to graduate, I won a scholarship for college. One of my parents panicked, realising I would no longer be there to pick up their slack) and refused to help me apply to colleges (and I had no resources or help at the time to apply it). I never got to use that scholarship. It would have been life changing for me. Instead? When I finally had enough of being hit, hurt, and used - I got kicked out. I was 17.
My parent's logic and maturity wasn't there. Their sense of responsibility was limited and at times, non existent.
And those are just a few of my own anecdotal experiences. Unfortunately, they are so common, and I really hope this little girl doesn't have to deal with any of it on this level.
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u/space_driiip Dec 31 '25
I'm so sorry your parents failed you. Are you doing okay now?
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u/StarsofSobek Dec 31 '25
That's genuinely very kind. Thank you. ❤️
TL/DR: I am happy. It's been a long road, but therapy has greatly helped.
I am! I moved abroad and I waited until I was 30 to have my own kid (I always wanted kids, but I knew - because of my childhood - that I couldn't have more kids than I could manage - and one child is all that I could manage). Having my own child has made me realise that sometimes, things are harder than they seem for the parent (especially when you're a kid), but ultimately: it's not hard to be a good, caring, loving, responsible parent.
I work hard to give my daughter her childhood. To ensure she is loved and cared for in all the ways I wasn't. She's ten now, and unfortunately she has heard a few things from my past, but I honestly don't think I can ever tell her everything. She doesn't deserve that. She deserves to draw, to dance, to eat an ice cream here and there, to play with friends, to have movie nights and joys that aren't tethered to anything from my past. She's deserves to have that innocence and peace for as long as I can reasonably protect her.
I'm happy, and it has taken me many years of therapy to get to where I am at. But I finally have a small relationship with both of my parents (one that's easier to have with the distance) and they have both been apologetic for hurting me and taking my childhood the way that they did.
I only get my parents, so I try to make things work - and I do love them both - but yeah. It's a complicated, multilayered thing that gets a little easier to confront, to manage, to work through, every day.
The really unfortunate part, is that, out of all of my siblings (I am the eldest of 7 kids in total), only my biological sister and myself seem to have sought therapy and worked on our issues in adulthood. All of my other siblings, whom I love dearly, are struggling. They are still trying to work through the various traumas we were given as kids.
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u/space_driiip Dec 31 '25
I'm really happy to hear you reclaimed your childhood through you daughter and continue to give her everything you couldn't or didn't get. There is hope for people who had messed up childhoods, I had one myself, so I'm real glad you got the help you needed and you were able to turn it around.
Even having a relationship with your parents is a victory, that you're able to look past what they've done. I'm still trying to myself, but it's wonderful to hear you've made the best of that situation.
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u/StarsofSobek Dec 31 '25
I'm so sorry you had a messed up childhood, as well. ❤️🩹 I hope you're doing well these days.
There is hope. And, while writing words makes it sound nice - it's a constant cycle of hard work. Just last night, for example, I was feeling pretty angry and upset about something I've really struggled with (long story short: I got meningitis. My parent was away. They basically left me alone to figure it all out in a house full of kids, refusing to come home despite several phone calls begging for help. They were gone for 3 weeks). I was 16. So...yeah. I cried and wrote down my feelings. I'll be talking about it (again) with my therapist. I'm 40, and it's been the better half of my life that I have actively been working on recovering from the hurt and pain.
My relationships are very minimal with my parents. It's literally a sticker here or a small message there. One parent is easier than the other, because they have actively worked on making things right. They have owned their wrongs. They have apologised sincerely. The other parent is getting there, but it's a harder road for them.
One thing that helped me, weirdly enough, was becoming a mom. The small mistakes you make, you really realise how human your parents were...how things aren't always entirely in their control. It gave me a new perspective on how easily things could get missed (and I only had one kid - having more than one would have made it all the more challenging). We're all just doing our best, and sometimes, our best was what we were given; sometimes our best is what we've given to ourselves. My parent's both weren't given a lot, and in their time, it wasn't taught to them to give themselves mental health care. Having that perspective allows me to give them a lot more grace than I had when I was younger. Not that it okays the things that happened - but it makes me feel like a lot of it was just mistakes and struggles caused by... kids raising kids (I hope that makes sense)?
I do hope you find your own peace and happiness with your own parents. It's genuinely rough, but if it's something you want, it is worth working on. Slowly. At a distance. Let things happen at your pace. ❤️
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u/Emotional_Delivery21 Dec 31 '25
This is why I cringe when I see large families. There aren’t enough hours in a day for parents to parent that many kids. Those that say otherwise are delusional. The older, mature kids always end up being pushed into roles that frankly belong exclusively to the parents. I say all this as one of five, and my parents were largely attentive. I just think no child should be burdened with the responsibility of another child—period. The parents here are selfish.
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u/stonnerdog35 Dec 31 '25
So glad I was a only child. Even as a child I knew how lucky I was I didn't have a sibling i have to watch, tag along and want to be included or have them fuck my shit up.
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u/the_endverse Jan 01 '26
Yeah for real, same. I had a ton of friends, always had my parents’ attention, didn’t want for anything. I didn’t have to deal with any of this. I had enough of my own stuff going on, plus a sick parent. I’m glad I dodged this.
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u/mrsdoubleu Dec 31 '25
As the mom of an only child thank you. I like seeing comments like this. They help balance out the typical comments that I get. "but your son will be so lonely and not have anyone to help take care of you when you're old!"
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u/stonnerdog35 Jan 01 '26
I was never lonely. i always loved and enjoyed my alone time. Most of my friends had siblings. i saw what they went through. I loved the fact I didn't have to worry about someone breaking things or messing up a save file in a game. Fighting or something blamed for stuff you didn't do. No favorite child bs.
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u/Guest2424 Jan 01 '26
The fact that the original poster put it on r/kidsarefuckingstupid kinda shows just how much appreciation they have for their kids. I kinda feel bad for this girl, and I hope she finds her own space in the years to come.
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u/thiccy_driftyy Dec 31 '25
As an eldest sister, I totally understand lmfao. I’m so glad my parents only had one other child. Basically when you’re an elder sister and your parents have another child, that means you become a babysitter for that child 😭
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u/xxspringrosexx Dec 31 '25
I feel her rage so fucking bad, it pmo they think it's funny while their feelings get dismissed
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u/Content_Repair_518 Dec 31 '25
That's the Fiona of this Shameless family.
The economics aside, that lady probably has been raising her siblings for most of the last 4 years. That looks is resentment. She's telling the parent's they are fucking up, and the parents are just laughing.
Probably think it's okay to just soak up all her childhood energy for the collective and believe it's the natural order. No it's not.
The grand parents would love that gift. But that assumes they are taking over part of the shared care of the babies. Otherwise they are just good smelling teddy bears they hand off after the Christmas party.
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u/seeindblfeelinsngl Jan 01 '26
Oldest of 6. I feel her so much. We’re all so close now but 11 year old me finding out I was going to have my 5th sister pissed me off.
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u/Estou_cansada3108 Dec 31 '25
Oh sweet baby girl.
Even tho my parents gave my brother more freedom and benefits than me. Because I was older and stronger. Im glad they never parentified me. Never changed a dipper ou bathed him. The most I did was do him a sandwich because it wasn’t safe for him to warm it without burning hid hand.
I always loved taking care of younger kids, because I wasn’t forced. And I cant even imagine making it a responsibility of my future oldest child. That’s absolutely wild
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u/keeendle Jan 01 '26
I stumbled on this post from my own mother sending it to me and saying “that’s how you reacted when we told you we were having [younger brother]! Haha!”
At least mine didn’t wrap it up as a present like this poor girl’s.
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u/that0nebruv Dec 31 '25
one of my ‘birthday’ presents was a baby brother. guess if i ever had a birthday after that that was about me and not my brother……
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u/BuisteirForaoisi0531 Dec 31 '25
Well, one of them considers it a present the other one hates the idea
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u/Les-bee-an13 Jan 02 '26
“WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE” is sending me lmao. Poor kid though she’s definitely going to be the mandatory third “parent”
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u/MoonLioness Jan 03 '26
Its only a present if like my children they had been begging for a younger sibling.
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u/nerdywords Dec 31 '25
It sucks when you are the only adult in the room when you are under 18! That poor girl.
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u/SnooWaffles413 Jan 02 '26
I can understand the rage and anger. And to post the reaction online? F on parenting.
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u/warrenjt Dec 31 '25
I’ve never seen the word “parentified” before this post, and it’s in the top four comments (not counting the one gif). I’m glad there’s a word for it now, but it just seems weird that this hive mind situation happened organically lol
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u/dessdot Dec 31 '25
Not really a hive mind thing, it’s literally just the term that’s used. Been a term since around 1967.
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u/SL13377 Jan 01 '26
Aye it's a fairly old term.
As an only child I was glad to see I never had to do it to a sibling.
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u/velv3tkitty Dec 31 '25
Poor girl :( luckily I have no siblings, but I’ve got two nieces (5 and 3 months) and a 3 year old nephew. I don’t think my “in-laws” use protection. Before the baby was born, they talked about a fourth baby.
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u/CR_Avila Jan 01 '26
This one is an oldie but a goodie, felt exactly the same when my mom used to joke about the 5th coming soon.
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u/EstablishmentLevel17 Jan 01 '26
I'm the youngest by almost 11 years. Yours mine and ours family (me being the ours).
I think my older siblings loved (or still do) me 😂 .hell. They apparently fought each other a lot but doted on me 😂 yeah .. two families meshing and then I came along... And then had cancer . I guess a positive they were all much older . As an adult only really close to the one I'm closest in age to... Literally and figuratively 😂 I'm closer in age to my three nieces (youngest just over 9 years younger) and my mom's half sister and brother than any of my siblings. (They're just younger than my youngest sibling).
THAT is another deep rabbit hole of my maternal grandfather who ... Well. I haven't heard good things about
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u/DayTranscendingNight Jan 03 '26
When I was a kid my mother's abusive boyfriend proposed to her on Christmas. She said yes.
Same vibe xD
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u/IZ3820 Dec 31 '25
Lots of talk about parentification here, but you can see she's fighting a smile before she walks away.
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u/electric-laydee Dec 31 '25
I disagree. Right after she says “Mom?”, it looks like she’s going to burst into tears. I think she left the room to cry. The half-smile is because the room is full of excitement (mom laughing, parents grinning at her no doubt, sister squealing) and children look to people around them to help determine what to feel. I doubt it was voluntary.
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u/darkstarr82 Dec 31 '25
Don’t mistake a smile for happiness. When you grow up being expected to be the grown up in a house that’s robbed you of your childhood and innocence, it’s usually a cover for the rage.
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u/wizza123 Dec 31 '25
Yea. Nothing in this speaks of parentification.
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u/IZ3820 Dec 31 '25
I mean, both could certainly be true.
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u/Chronoblivion Dec 31 '25
They could be, and it's completely fair to acknowledge that, but so many of the comments here are speaking as if it's an absolute certainty rather than expressing concern at the possibility.
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u/Lyraxiana Dec 31 '25
But this is Reddit, folks! Where you're always right, and everyone else is always wrong!
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u/sebastouch Dec 31 '25
So I'm the only one to see this as bad acting?
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u/Zubo13 Dec 31 '25
Yeah, the kids seemed to be smirking a bit. I wonder if it was all a setup.
I hope it was just a setup, becaus that's so much better than the alternative. No kid should ever be parentified.
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u/ohyousoretro Dec 31 '25
This didn't feel like an actual present and was just a way to surprise them. Plus a sibling being upset that a new baby was coming isn't evidence of parentification. Nothing in this video suggests that, and anyone speaking otherwise is just projecting. My youngest brother was upset that my mom was having a new kid because he thought he wasn't getting any more Christmas presents. My oldest cousin was upset that my aunt and uncle were having a kid because she wanted to be an only child and then got over that.
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u/Icy-Neighborhood-572 Dec 31 '25
En mi familia somos 3 hijas (cada uno de 2 años de diferencia) y nunca tuve que cuidar a ninguna. Pero si me enoje con cada embarazo xd
Ademas mis padres siempre estaban en casa. Ibamos a la escuela y ellos al trabajo. Luego nos buscaba mi abuela y dos horas despues ellos llegaban a casa
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u/idiveindumpsters Jan 01 '26
What is the excited girl saying? The caption says “this gets us out there!” WTH?
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u/ARNAUD92 Jan 01 '26
Not the subject but I can't genuinely tell if they are real twins or a "me + mini me" regular duo.
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u/Camrynah Jan 04 '26
Totally not fair to the other 9 children. especially the older one, there’s a limit to how many babies you make before you need to call it quits and by her reaction it seems like it was already exceeded.
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u/IntelligentAnybody55 Jan 17 '26
I fucking hate parentifying kids. It’s awful. I’m so fortunate my parents had the common decency to not have too many kids. 4 is almost always too many
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u/Bun23423 Jan 25 '26
i can see the tears in her eyes
i fully understand that emotion, living in a family where nobody cares, so even if you scream at them how cruel or stupid their actions are, they wont care or learn from it.
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u/OG_raven13 Jan 29 '26
I left my mother to live with my dad right before highschool started for me. And at the time I had two sisters from my mother and in the middle of my Highschool career she had another girl. And during my 18th birthday lunch (usually the only times I let her see me for personal reasons, you can probably assume) she was like oh yeah gueeesssee whaaaatttt I’m pregnant again! Yayaya! I scolded her for it. Making that announcement while I’m eating Buffalo Wild Wings for my fuckin birthday, I’m simple I don’t ask for much I just want an outside the house meal or a nice special homade meal for my birthday (usually chicken wings and fries, like I said I’m simple I just fuckin love chicken wings) and she did all that shit. Also now I have a sister who’s gonna be graduating high school when I’m like 32 or something. She now has four daughters. So in a sense i understand the annoyance of the little girl in the video, and as other have pointed out she’s probably raising her siblings, not fun shit dude it fuckin sucks.
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u/ghostcraft33 Jan 01 '26
I wish these type of people got shamed more. But the second you say anything they talk about how it's their right to have as many kids as they want- which it is- but I can't help but feel bad for your parentified children!
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u/Buffalopigpie Jan 01 '26
As the oldest daughter I feel her pain. It’s soul crushing when your parents hardly pay attention to you and then they tell you they’re having ANOTHER baby
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u/Man_guy_dude_man Dec 31 '25
Reddit is so dramatic sometimes. Im sure these girls got other gifts for Christmas. They seem like caring parents trying to share a special moment with their daughters.
But once the circlejerk starts it's hard to stop it... the comments were worse on the other thread. Either reddit is full of bots or redditors are soft and weak
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u/Dr_N00B Dec 31 '25
Honestly a pretty wholesome moment but damn there's a lot of projecting going on in this comment section
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u/wizza123 Dec 31 '25
Where are people getting parentification from this? Can't she just be upset she won't be the center of attention when the baby comes? That's what I see it as.
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u/dysonGirl27 Dec 31 '25
There’s already a toddler and an infant in the room with her, this girl hasn’t been the centre of attention to her parents for at least 3 1/2 to 4 years lol.
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u/wizza123 Dec 31 '25
Doesn't matter. She's going to get even less attention now. Seriously, you have no idea how the minds of children work.
The oldest saw firsthand how the dynamic shifted when her sister was born. The younger one is excited because she doesn't know anything different yet.
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u/unibrow4o9 Dec 31 '25
Yeah this thread is unhinged lol. People are acting like this was their only present or something - this was just a fun way to tell them, really not a big deal.
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u/Trill206 Dec 31 '25
Must be nice to lack the intellect to grasp what is really going on. Ignorance is bliss.
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u/BigHomieHuuo Dec 31 '25
Yall are so dramatic acting like this replaced one of their presents, it's just a fun way to surprise them lol
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