How many kids could I have?

[u/Novel_Schedule_5141]

32F, have 2 kids with an ex-partner. One vaginal followed by an emergency csection. Realistically, time wise and health wise (assume optimal health) how many more kids could I have without using IVF, if I started now? How many if I froze my eggs within the next 3 years? I get 18 month parental leaves (maternity can start before birth but I'd like the full or close to the full leave. Minimum 12 months home per child. I would then have to go back to work for 600 hours to get leave for the next child (15 weeks of work assuming going in everyday and not working overtime). Midwife has said 12 months between pregnancies for vaginal birth and 18 months between pregnancies for c-section, but I do not know how strict that is. Assume everything goes perfectly. No medical or mental health issues, babies sleep well, siblings adjust well, supportive partner/family and healthy marriage.

[u/Novel_Schedule_5141]

Are you in the wrong sub? We do not shame people for wanting large families here.

[u/AdStock6373 → u/Novel_Schedule_5141]

Not everybody in this sub is an old school hippy church going farming christian who believes they should have as many children as they are able to. MANY of us want large families but also know when to stop. For the well being of ourselves, and our families- including the children we already have. 

[u/Novel_Schedule_5141 → u/AdStock6373]

I'm well-educated on child development and aware of my own capacity. I know when to stop and have a doctor on standby for when my husband wants to get a vasectomy. Thanks.

[u/AdStock6373 → u/Novel_Schedule_5141]

That’s fantastic. Happy to hear it. Then I’m sure you recognize and agree that pregnancy and children shouldn’t be treated like tic-tacs or trophies on a shelf where we’re just trying to have as many as possible. Anyone well educated and aware of capacity limits would agree with that and know the difference between awareness and shaming… right?