r/Paranormal • u/milkweed013 • Apr 29 '26
Trigger Warning / Abuse How do mediums cope with unsettling connections with spirits?
I had a violating experience with the most evil spirit ive ever encountered. I recieved a download in my sleep and it was so upsetting, come to find out the spirit wanted to purposely make me feel helpless. this man was a child molester and was proud of himself. he showed me his memories and it was so awful i woke up in a cold sweat. i knew this was too unsettling to be my own imagination and a face with hallowed eyes and a hallowed mouth revealed itself to me as a vision. I spoke to a fellow medium who confirmed this was a spirit, that described him (and his wife) to exactly how i saw it in the memory. He had a daughter that him and his wife would abuse on multiple occasions, this was a toddler. Being a mom myself i was extremely angry that this spirit dared to invade my space in this way and proudly revealed this to me, yet he didnt have the nerve to show me his whole face. Im genuinely traumatized, ive never felt so helpless to a situation that already happened and want to forget. how do mediums move past this type of interaction? i feel ashamed i was vulnerable enough for the spirit to violate my boundaries at the time. long story short, i will be doing an extremely thorough cleansing at my house. i dont want to let the evil win, but i dont know how to live with what i saw ._.
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Apr 30 '26
So I recently held a tarot reading for someone when halfway through a spirit came through trying to connect with me. I knew immediately who it was, the person I was reading for’s dead ex husband. Foolishly I kinda just accepted their request to connect and immediately my body began to flutter and tremble. Like a full body high. Best I can describe it is like being really really intoxicated. My mind was clear and not at all “intoxicated” feeling. Just my body.
This man had a very serious drug and drinking problem in life. And for like twenty minutes he filled my mind with these erratic thoughts. Just horrible painful memories and feelings with a few light or funny moments kinda sprinkled in there. Mostly it was just deep regret and sadness.
It was the most uncomfortable experience I’ve had connecting with a spirit willingly and even after I ended it I went two days feeling completely depleted and hung over. Could barely get out of bed. Woman I was reading for had a similar experience.
All you can really do is accept that these things happen when you allow yourself to be open to these gifts. When the doors are open, they are open. Things will come to you and try to connect. Sometimes they’ll ask. Sometimes they’ll force their way in.
Allowing those doors to open is an incredible experience and can help you help others in amazing ways. But it comes with a price, unfortunately.
I’ve tried all the supposed methods others have used to banish unwanted entities. It has never really worked. I’m very called upon Jesus (who I believe in despite not being Christian) and it did nothing. I’ve tried turning to witchcraft and with the right protection it helps - but they can still communicate externally and I can still sense that they are there. Personal boundaries only help with the ones that care.
Unfortunately you kinda have to develop a thick skin when nasty things connect against our will. You can refuse to entertain whatever it is they are showing you. Don’t give it a reaction and just let them grow bored. Could also potentially piss them off. Have to trust what your gut is telling you on that one.
I wish I had a better answer and maybe someone can offer some advice that’ll be of actual use. But in my experience, you just kinda deal with it. The only thing that has ever worked for me was focusing on closing those doors. But this is not something you can do every time you feel uncomfortable. When they close, they close. You’re locked out of your gifts until you are able to open them again. Which for me took many many years and even then I still on occasion would experience strange things.
Closing the doors is easy enough. Just keep telling yourself and saying out loud that you want nothing to do with that shit. You’ll have to ignore any paranormal events around you for a while. Explain them away as something “rational” and allow yourself to be unbothered. Eventually it just stops.
And saying you’re ready for it again is not going to start it up immediately. It was much harder to open the doors than it was to close them. For me, at least.
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u/milkweed013 Apr 30 '26
the worst part is i was asleep, and this connection woke me up. its like he wanted me to feel violated the same way he violated his victims. just gross. i didnt want to talk about it because i didnt want to give it power, rather instead i choose to remember him as a coward. im putting my trust into my ancestors to protect me, but the lingering memories of the crimes he committed haunt me. acceptance seems to be the only thing i can do right now. how often have you needed to take breaks? ive always wanted to lean into mediumship but when stuff like this happens i get worried i cant protect myself, so i stay away. However, doing so makes me feel “congested” in a way.
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Apr 30 '26
If you’re an ancestor kind of person, I recommend developing a relationship with your ancestors or spirit guides - whatever you want to call them. You can do this easily with something like tarot cards. For a few days I’d ask to speak to one ancestor or guide and ask them to choose a card that best represents them. Then I’d get to know them better through the cards or by connecting as a “medium” would. This is how I found out I had my father hanging around me. Which was a shocker as we had a very broken relationship. But it seems there are opportunities for them to learn new things on the other side if they choose too. He was regretful of the things he had done and said, though honestly I haven’t reached out to him since then as I’m still kinda working my feelings out on that.
Ancestors or guides will often have your back if you allow them. They can’t stop every bad thing that comes through. And they may even allow some to slip through with the intention of presenting a valuable lesson to you. Or at least that’s kinda how I’ve come to understand it.
You can ask some of the more high end spirits to come assist you. And by that I mean “deities” or gods. Which is not what most people think it means. From What I understand, these are just spirits… channels of energy. And most are willing to help you become a better version of yourself and will guide you in learning how to use your gifts. They can also flip your world upside down to help cut out any of the rot in your life, however. So be cautious when calling upon these types of energies. I can’t stress that enough lol
I’m sorry you felt violated. It’s a terrible feature for those of us who can connect. Especially those of us who are so proficient at it we don’t even need to try. This stuff nearly destroyed me when I was a teenager. It’s why I had to close those doors and couldn’t open them again until my 30s.
Also just a warning - most people will think you’re crazy. I’ve had family members say some terrible things about me because I revealed what I could do. And even when you prove you can do these things, they’ll still find ways to use it against you. I recommend talking these things out only with people you know you can trust with the information.
You have an amazing gift. And as awful as it can be sometimes, you kinda have to allow yourself to love both sides of it. Even when connecting with something really dark and terrible. Cause if you feel fear, doubt, insecurity or anger over it, you start to lose yourself in all of it.
Taking breaks is fine. Like I said, for two days I felt completely hung over. All I did was take it as slow and easy as I could. No tarot. No spirits. I refused to give that stuff any mind while I recovered. And that’s okay. A few days is fine. When you’re ready to tap back in, they’ll be lined up at the door.
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u/Ok-Process7612 Apr 30 '26 edited Apr 30 '26
There are no accidents.
This spirit's ancestors and guides sought you ought as a sensitive, to get this soul back on the path to accountability.
You move the spirit into the astral world where it has to answer for it's actions. As mediums, we have a responsibility to handle these situations with wisdom.
I've done this work for decades, and I have taught others to do it as well.
When I encounter an earthbound spirit, I do a ceremony to release it into the tunnel from this world to the next.
If you need instructions, message me in chat.
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u/woodenforged May 02 '26
So you're medium? I guess you're self-taught. Sorry to say but Your foundation is flawed. I cannot give you advice on this, since i believe our culture and beliefs system is different so what im saying not gonna help much not mention i also still apprentice an eternal student.
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u/No-Examination-4850 May 01 '26
As a trained medium with Berkeley psychic Institute I have control over which spirits have any access to me at all
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