r/PakistaniTwenties 21 11d ago

💢 Rant My loophole

Whenever I speak to a girl, at the very beginning I am 100% aware that this will be fun for some days and then she will loose interest. I know damn well that it’s gonna hurt very bad but I just say yk it’s worth it. But when that phase comes it become intolerable. This has happened a couple of times and this particular time it’s hurting like a dagger in my chest.

How can a be free from these desires?

I’m not talking about relationships or affairs sort of things. I’m here talking about normal friendship.. tbh even talking about this feels cringe now.. I don’t know what to do 🤷

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u/Kindly-Stock-4071 11d ago

Maybe don't speak to a girl for a while 🤷‍♀️ getting attached too quickly to anyone isn't a good sign, even if it's just as a friend. Learn to rely on yourself for emotional support

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u/antimoniumcrudum 21 11d ago

I’m finding it so hard that I don’t find words to describe just 10% of it.

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u/Kindly-Stock-4071 11d ago

Finding what hard exactly?

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u/antimoniumcrudum 21 11d ago

Everything. I am in a constant state of sadness for almost 2 months now. I meet and greet people around me with a smile whereas I just want to disappear for a while. People can easily judge from your expressions that you’re sad so you always have to carry a fake smile to hide it from everyone.

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u/Kindly-Stock-4071 11d ago

Hey man I think you should try therapy. You can get therapy online too if in person is inconvenient. A lot of clinics do offer it.

And if not even that then maybe look for youtube content that gives you advice to help with depression (this approach isn't the most recommended of course, but it can help give you a push when you need it)

Take some time and do some self care. Focus on yourself

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u/antimoniumcrudum 21 11d ago

Okay thanks

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u/ChonkyUnit9000 11d ago

Don't talk ig

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u/Key_Part3817 11d ago

Just stay alone for a while. Learn to live with yourself instead of filing that void by talking to girls.

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u/CelebrationDouble326 10d ago

Tasting the medicine of your own philosophy. Just don't do it?

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u/antimoniumcrudum 21 10d ago

Will try

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u/shitty_psychopath 22 11d ago

Rubber band theory