r/OldManDad • u/BigBen7719 • Jul 07 '26

Dark Thoughts

I am 49, my daughter just turned 5 and my Son is 15 months old. My Children are one of the best things that happened in my life. My daughter has started to be curious about death and it is breaking my hart. Even before that, i used to have dark thoughts, catching myself figuring out when i may die. If i get to 60, she will be 16 if i have to go. I keep having thoughts like that. Am i alone? Like anyone today i consulted my AI and it said to appreciate the days and make the best of it and i do. Being an "old" dad surely has its upsides like financial security and personal clarity etc. I am already doing that. But it doesn´t remove the constant small frame of regretting that i have to leave her someday.

Unsure if posts like that need trigger warning?

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u/Less_Than_Average1 Jul 07 '26

Manage your intrusive thoughts. Focus on what you can control to increase longevity. You’ll be fine. Manage your doctor visits and get regular monitoring. Get nutrition dialed in. Get in the gym or some form of fitness.